I tend to use less controversial examples; just giving examples of all of the little annoyances in life that can add up for a minority, that people in the majority will not even consider.
For instance, being white means that if you were to join a dating site, you wouldn't be excluded from 85% of the women's searches because they completely and purposely exclude your race from a search (can provide citations). It means you don't have to jump to as many stores to find beauty products that match your skin/complexion/etc. It means that you can actually wear "flesh color bandages." Etc.
Thanks for this. I have a hard time avoiding controverial examples because it is hard for me to see that they are controversial. It always surprises me... I should have learned by now. I'm also not as good at seeing all the little things that make up my privilege. There are so many, and they are so built in to my daily life and the culture around me. It's overwhelming when you finally start to see it all. And I think I get so fired up about the bigger things...there are so many big things...'stop and frisk' is happening! I probably won't be frisked in NY because my skin is white. that feels like an injustice that needs to be shouted from the rooftops. It's hard to step back and look at flesh colored bandages. It's something I need to work on, for sure.