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  I think I might be able to get my sibling out...gently

  by BeautifulMind in

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  so, my sibling and i are the only ones still in.

  as i mentioned in one of my posts i am fading out.

  the other half of my family are either df, da or stopped going years ago.

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  BeautifulMind

  You put that question to him very delicately and non judgmentally.

  Years ago, my older brother approached me very aggressively. I didn't know at the time he was just trying to wake me up because he loved me and wanted to get me out. I felt like he was attacking me and so I just blocked him and everything he was telling me out. Had he approached me differently, it may have been effective. So I just remembered that experience and tried to do the opposite with my younger brother hoping for a better, open outcome in establishing some dialogue.
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  I think I might be able to get my sibling out...gently

  by BeautifulMind in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so, my sibling and i are the only ones still in.

  as i mentioned in one of my posts i am fading out.

  the other half of my family are either df, da or stopped going years ago.

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  BeautifulMind

  So, my sibling and I are the only ones still in. As I mentioned in one of my posts I am fading out. The other half of my family are either df, da or stopped going years ago. We never shunned one another. Anyway, I put a casual question to them about the org. today, just to kind of feel them out. I asked their feelings on the org and if they ever felt something wasn't right or if they were totally fine with it. I was pleasantly surprised when they said they always felt something was off, but kept it quiet because they didnt want to be judged.. I let them know we could talk about it anytime, we feel the same, and no judgement. We live in separate states so Im looking forward to discussing this further and giving him the information I have. It may not turn into anything, but I am hopeful.
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  Uh-oh, the elders want to pay us a visit!!

  by BeautifulMind in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so, hubby gets contacted today by one of the elders saying 2 of them want to pay us a visit and asks him when we are available.

  we both had the heart drop feeling for a few minutes lol.

  but he promptly, and politely, informed them that we are very busy but he will let them know when we are free.

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  BeautifulMind

  Problemaddict2 love it!
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  Uh-oh, the elders want to pay us a visit!!

  by BeautifulMind in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so, hubby gets contacted today by one of the elders saying 2 of them want to pay us a visit and asks him when we are available.

  we both had the heart drop feeling for a few minutes lol.

  but he promptly, and politely, informed them that we are very busy but he will let them know when we are free.

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  BeautifulMind

  So, hubby gets contacted today by one of the elders saying 2 of them want to pay us a visit and asks him when we are available. We both had the heart drop feeling for a few minutes lol. We got over it. But he promptly, and politely, informed them that we are very busy but he will let them know when we are free. He said there is no way they will get a meeting out of us and we will just keep with different variations of the busy story as long as we have to, we don't have to tell them anything. I love him, he is the best lol! It's only been a month, so we were a little surprised at how soon they wanted to meet with us. Oh and how about this - they addressed me by the totally wrong name!! Yeah, you have no idea what my name is, but by all means, come on over and sit on my couch and be nosy and tell us we are spiritually weak and you want to help us get back on track. Get out of here!
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  Lurker - just joined

  by Je.suis.oisif in

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  hi all, nothing to report just now.

  wanted to add name to list of those awakening.

  been lurking for nearly a year.

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  BeautifulMind

  Welcome! 😆
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  Angry at first

  by BeautifulMind in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so when my mom died in 2007 the main thing that kept me from losing it was that i knew i would see her again in the earthly paradise that i read and sang about in the jw publications.

  i honestly fully believed in it.

  we were best friends and it was devastaing to lose her.

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  Flipper and OTWO - I couldn't have said it better! Angry at the org. But maintain my happiness for myself and my family. Gotta enjoy life right?

  Vidiot - I'm very newly awake, just a few months, so I haven't explored that and many other avenues about what happens after death. But it does feel good to know Im free to look into it when Im ready!
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  Recommended Read

  by vinman in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  since i discovered ttatt, i am always looking for a good book that can help me recover.

  if you think you need a therapist but can't get to one, i highly recommend this book: exiting the jwcult- a healing handbook.

  the author (bonnie zieman) was a witness for 30 years, then became a professional in psychology.

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  BeautifulMind

  Vinman this is in my Kindle! I haven't gotten around to reading it yet though. I have to set aside time to start it soon.
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  Introducing Myself

  by Peony in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've finally got round to joining the site (after over 2 years lurking!

  i was born into jws, pioneered for 10 years (met my husband at pioneer school).

  had health issues that saw me catapulted away from 'the centre of the cong' and wow what a different place that was!

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  BeautifulMind

  Welcome Peony! Congrats to you and your husband on walking away. I'm pretty new to this site myself. A lot of insight from different viewpoints and supportive as well.
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  Angry at first

  by BeautifulMind in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so when my mom died in 2007 the main thing that kept me from losing it was that i knew i would see her again in the earthly paradise that i read and sang about in the jw publications.

  i honestly fully believed in it.

  we were best friends and it was devastaing to lose her.

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  BeautifulMind

  Thanks everyone. This is truly a process trying to sort everything I out. But I am taking things one day at a time. My mom was on my mind heavy when I wrote this post and hubby was asleep, so Im glad I feel comfortable enough to come here and share when I need to. The support is great and I really do appreciate all of the insight and kind words.
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  Angry at first

  by BeautifulMind in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so when my mom died in 2007 the main thing that kept me from losing it was that i knew i would see her again in the earthly paradise that i read and sang about in the jw publications.

  i honestly fully believed in it.

  we were best friends and it was devastaing to lose her.

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  BeautifulMind

  So when my mom died in 2007 the main thing that kept me from losing it was that I knew I would see her again in the earthly paradise that I read and sang about in the jw publications. I honestly fully believed in it. We were best friends and it was devastaing to lose her.

  Upon finding out ttat, I no longer believe in the earthly paradise. It really felt like a gut punch at first when I realized I would not see her again. I was so angry that I even believed such nonsense. Anyway, I'm at peace now with her death and Im just glad she is not in pain anymore. Obviously I would rather her be alive, but Im learning to adjust to the fact I won't see her again. It still sucks though.