Skeptic and Nickey, thanks so much for your thoughtful and kind words on this post, they meant alot to me. Also for the PMs sent (Tink et al!), and from lots others who gave some good advice.
Some other posters here can be a bit "rabid" at times, and that of course is entirely there own perogative. I don't really mind, often I try and count to ten, before I reply, or sometimes just skip over. Its there choice to reply as they see fit, I think you can "see" alot about someone by the tone they adopt, and words they choose, and imho these are best avoided, in the same way as you would in life.
Thanks again anyway. Scott