I have never been to a psychotherapist or counselor, but I have watched the TV series "In Treatment".
How do you pick a therapist?
If the therapist is to much like you they won't be able to help you address the real conflicts in your life. They will have the same coping mechanisms and blind spots.
If the therapist is opposite of you they will hate you and become sadistic and get some secret pleasure in creating discomfort for you
If the therapist is simply not the kind of person you would take seriously they won't be engaging enough to put in a sincere effort.
It seems that the ideal therapist would be somewhere in between a friend and someone who is indifferent.
You end up switching therapists and you have to lay out a couple hundred dollars to get to know them as persons.
It's as bad as courtship.
If I needed a therapist I would want a free session where I could browse their professional library to see what books and therapies they reference.
I would ask them which therapists they tend to model. Thank them for their time. Read a book or two by the therapist's favorite therapist.
Nice thing about this method is your problem will probably be gone by the time you find your best therapist.