Sorry, I mean I changed my avatar at gravatar. I don't really have anything new to report other than a few more negative things about the other person. Apparently she gets other men employees to buy her groceries and prescriptions (she is a hypochondriac), whines she has no money. But she has money for Starbuck's and weekly manicures. Things may be in the open this weekend, I don't know how it will go, that is why I am in the dumpster today. He doesn't see her everyday, by the nature of his job, but once or twice a week depending on his schedule. He was not with her this week. He went 3 days with no computer activity, then last night, it was there again. That's why I'm bummed out. My friend keeps assuring me this will fizzle, I wanted to believe it, but now it is on again.
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by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Yeah, I changed my gravatar. The Indians suck, just like a lot of other things in life.
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by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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I've decided what I'm going to do. Maybe I'll have an update after this weekend. Thanks everyone for your help. SAH
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by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Yes, Jamie, that sums her up exactly. That is how my friend who works with her describes her. She has the manager twisted around her finger to get the schedule she wants, even if it unfair to others. But that is why she tells me to wait it out, that once she gets what she needs from him, it will blow over, run its course. But I just have to get a handle on some proof that she may be getting money from him, but I think I need a few more weeks to see if I can spot any descrepancies in the finances. I hate to describe him as the nerdy type, but he is and apparently she is attractive, 12 years younger. Why can't they ever be 12 years older and rotund??!!
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by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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You guys are cheering me up to no end! At this point, I am sitting back watching you all go at it! (My internet is back up BTW). I don't know any of you, I'm a newbie here, but I love and thank you all for the advice and entertainment.
Vampire....Thanks, I had come across that article too. In a way #2 & #3 is what got me to asking this question, I was conflicted on the way to go.
Nugget: That is the question, can I deal with it. Your advice is great, I have been thinking something along those lines, but not too detailed, just a mention that I feel he is pulling away and what can I do, is there anything he needs to talk about, etc. I will say, he has never been a great communicator, never comfortable with serious discussions. I always thought that was true with most men, but you guys have proven me wrong! LOL
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Wow, you guys are overwhelming me. My internet has been out since last night and I am was passing the library so thought i would pop in to read if anyone else posted. Man, who needs a therapist with all of you? Hopefully my connection will be up later this evening and I will catch up on the comments.
For the one who asked, yes, I love him, and I don't want to see him get hurt either, if this hasn't gone too far and it can be helped. I also don't want to be in a position of always being able to hold this over him, that would become a wedge between us. I would love to resolve this with as little drama as possible, if it's not too late. That's why my original question was should I tell him I know, so as to "nip it in the bud" as Barney Fife would say.
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by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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You're right, of course. I really don't want to know what they are saying. I would never be able to forget or get that out of my mind. Thanks for the voices of reason.
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by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Nickolas: You write beautifully, I felt I was reading the synopsis of a novel. No, this is not an internet affair, they just communicate by email since they see each other once or twice a week in a work situation. Yes, I am leaving broad hints, but I don't think he is thinking with his brain right now.
skeeter1, yes that is why I debated about saying anything because I feel it is the secrecy that adds to the excitement. I'm not the type for a face to face with her. During my first divorce 27 years ago, my lawyer told me that if I keep nothing else, keep my dignity. I'm afraid I'd lose it in a face to face when I would tear hers off!
Does anyone out there know about the software that can be installed on a computer to detect passwords? Is it safe or easy to install? I have read reviews on several programs, but don't want to do anything to screw up my computer.
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Yes, I am in a community property state, I have a cousin who is an attorney who could answer my questions, but as I said, I am not mentioning it to anyone else yet, just one friend. His first marriage lasted about two years, 35 years ago, so she would not be in the picture at all.
tec: Yes, I know for sure, let's say he is not computer savvy and the thing just popped out at me, leading to further investigation to discover who she was. Gosh, you guys are great, asking great questions, covering the bases for me.
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Robdar: Marital Misconduct! That's too politically correct! That is funny, like Sarah Palin's "lipstick on a pig" terminology!