Elderelite because he helped me so much last year when I had a problem/question. The problem didn't resolve itself 100% but I am stronger now with a whole new attitude.
SafeAtHome
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Who On This Site Would You Like To Meet?
by minimus inthere are a lot of interesting people that frequent this site.. sometimes, we get an idea of what the posters are really like in "real life".
and i'm sure i could be easily surprised by some that you think might be strong personalities because of their board presence, and in reality, they might be shy in a face to face setting.. i would enjoy meeting simon.
simon used to be terribly annoyed by my posting and now i think he's accepted with tolerance my being here.. farkel seems like a grouchy cantankerous fellow but i think he'd be very interesting company!.
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Diseases that force you to violate Jehovah's commands
by rebel8 ina few days ago i ate a corn nut that was kind of sharp.
it made a very tiny scratch on my tongue the size of a period (.).
i have a bleeding disorder so it bled for 3 hours.
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Yes, having the RH negative factor in your blood. When I got pregnant I had been in a slow fade for about a year, so still had some influences on me. I found I had the RH factor which usually is not a problem for the first child, but could be in later births, so it is routine to give the mother a RhoGAM injection immediately after giving birth. Not having this could lead to blood related problems for the baby in later births. I found out that RhoGAM is a sterilized solution made from human blood and therefore was forbidden by the Witnesses. Well, since by then I knew what I had been raised in for 25 years was a load of hooey, I had the shot without broadcasting it to my family. (I was remarried to a nonwitness so it really wasn't an issue to us.) The RH negative factor is rare but not uncommon, so I am sure other Witness women have had to deal with this. The only personal experience I knew of was some 50 years ago in our congregation when a woman gave birth to her 3rd child and this was an issue. They wanted to replace the baby's blood with a transfusion which was of course refused. Fortunately the child survived, but had many expensive medical issues that could have been prevented. (She has since grown up, had babies of her own, and last I heard was no longer a Witness!)
And, BTW, to maisha, yes, there are numerous whackos in the congregations when it comes to health care and trying to impose their ideas on others. And the elders telling you that you can't do something to stumble someone else, even if you and your conscience have no problem with it. I was "in" from 1961 till 1984 and saw this all the time.
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What are your favourite movie lines/quotes????
by karter in''well there's one thing you got ta ask yourself punk....you felling lucky...well do ya punk".....clint eastwood dirty harry.. "it's life jim but not as we know it" capt kirk star treck..
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"Badges, we don't need no stinkin' badges" or something like it from the 1948 Humphrey Bogart film Treasure of the Sierra Madres. Could also apply nowto those walking around a circuit assembly withour proper ID!
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Proof that Jehovah's Witnesses Live in a Fantasy Land
by Sour Grapes inas i attend some meetings i like to make notes on statements.
that are made that make my jaw just drop and almost laugh.
out loud.
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"No one takes better care of their fellow believers than do JW"s"................Anyone who has had an elderly loved one in a nursing home knows that the only visits they get are from a group of their fellow Witnesses who are in field service and can count the time they spend at the nursing home! Both my parents, out of their physical infirmaties, had to spend their last months at a nursing facility. They had been "in the Truth" for over 50 years, and the only visits they got were during these field service occasions. Yeah, what a bunch of loving folks they are! My parents were among those who sacrificed their lives for a pipe dream, that they would never grow old and die.
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Welcome Newbies & New Posters ! How has this Board Assisted You ?
by flipper init's nice to have you here !
i found that this board was very supportive when i first got on it over 4 years ago .
i still find it supportive !
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I was a lurker for a long time and joined this past summer. I have been "out" for 27 years but have a lot of family still in. This board has kept me updated on the latest crap coming from the society, which many times has explained the actions of some of my family towards those of us who are out. You know, like sometimes they can talk to us, sometimes they can't, even though we have just drifted and not DA'd or been DF'd. I never really doubted my decision to leave, but being raised with the WT since the age of 10, I sometimes got that little niggling thought that maybe they were right about some end of "this system of things" (I really hate that expression now) but reading here all the flip flops and how they have so many important dates wrong, and seeing how they blindly follow everything the WT says with no research of their own, I know I could never go back. Even being around my family sometimes when they make a comment about how "we really need the new system" makes me cringe. The things I have learned here have given me a few zingers I can throw out at times that hopefully will make them think.
I was a teenager in the 60's and grew up with 1975 looming large, so did not get a higher education, which is my greatest regret. I was straight A in high school and could have kicked butt in college, but that was out of the question. Anyway, I digress, but this board has helped me more than I can say. Also, this past summer so many of you helped me with a personal issue, which still is not fully resolved due to my own inaction. Just reading the stories of so many of you who went through the same things growing up, school issues, relationship restrictions, the torture of 4 and 5 day assemblies...geesh, it's a wonder we are so normal now!
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Reaching Out to my ExJW Cousin
by fallen_princess ini am sure many of us have had experiences while we were active jws where we were often discouraged from talking to worldy or disfellowshipped family members regardess of occasion or circumstance.
i was always told not to communicate with one of my cousins who, along with her husband had faded back in the 90's and are now off celebrating christmas, birthdays and such.
she has been the victim of many a snub and all out unkindness from various family members, including me.
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Princess, I am so happy you are reconnecting with family. While my family has not out right shunned those of us who are no longer JW's, there is always that wall between "us" and "them". Not all, but some still in, want to believe that just because we have left "the truth" we should be miserable. My elder dad always kept believeing that even after 20 years away, I still needed just that little push and I would go running back. (WRONG) Anyway, the last couple of years I have gotten very close to a younger cousin, also a long time drifter, and we talk about everyone and everything we never did before. He has mentioned more than once how happy he is to have someone to talk to about the loss he feels over how this cult has separated our once close family. His wife, as well as my husband, were never Witnesses, so they really don't understand how this devisive religion makes us angry, frustrated, etc, but mostly happy that we are no longer a part of it, and oh, the feeling of such freeedom. Please, make the effort to contact your aunt before it is too late. None of us are getting any younger and down the road you don't want to regret at least not making the effort. Offer her the unconditional love that JW's are incapable of showing. Your mom doesn't have to know, don't broadcast it.
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Silence, I realize that, with the help of all you here and reading Dr. Phil's Relationship Rescue book this week. (Really, it was quite good) I am focusing on what needs to be fixed from my side and as Dr Phil said, I am ready to own my part of the problems in the marraige. But since he seems to be having this relationship with her and getting his ego and emotions soothed elsewhere, he may not be willing to work with me to rescue our marriage before it is too late to salvage. I admit to the fact that I did not always make things perfect and that left him vulnerable to her advances, giving him an excuse really. Although if you are married, I don't think there is any excuse really.
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Sorry, I mean I changed my avatar at gravatar. I don't really have anything new to report other than a few more negative things about the other person. Apparently she gets other men employees to buy her groceries and prescriptions (she is a hypochondriac), whines she has no money. But she has money for Starbuck's and weekly manicures. Things may be in the open this weekend, I don't know how it will go, that is why I am in the dumpster today. He doesn't see her everyday, by the nature of his job, but once or twice a week depending on his schedule. He was not with her this week. He went 3 days with no computer activity, then last night, it was there again. That's why I'm bummed out. My friend keeps assuring me this will fizzle, I wanted to believe it, but now it is on again.
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Yeah, I changed my gravatar. The Indians suck, just like a lot of other things in life.
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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I've decided what I'm going to do. Maybe I'll have an update after this weekend. Thanks everyone for your help. SAH