please tell me how not to think too much and get a good night sleep.
when i was a jw i didn't think too much because i knew everything, but now my mind works overtime.
how in the hell can i shut it down and stop the anxiety???
Just to add my few cents......there is nothing wrong with thinking too much!
However it is good to find mechanisms of cognitive ‘wind down’. For me I love documentaries, podcasts or video games. They require enough brain engagement that they prove a nice distraction and work well.
a little advice please.. it's now 7 months since i stopped going to meetings.
we still get regular calls by elders - at least every 2 weeks.
i can handle them.
Having left for the last 12 years, I just stopped playing their silly game and their silly rules. It’s all BS anyway and their authority and impact stops at the Kingdom Hall door.
just this week i had the jws knock on my door.
sisters from my old congregation.
we exchanged the usual polite conversation.
The JW’s are for sure....are starting to see the BS. They have had 30 yrs of ITS HERE!!.....
All the things they were promised as infants, kids, children, teens, young adults, adults, middle aged and now elderly..... haven’t come to pass.
a little advice please.. it's now 7 months since i stopped going to meetings.
we still get regular calls by elders - at least every 2 weeks.
i can handle them.
I would assume the intent was good and send her a letter back expressing why you no longer feel it’s the truth. Tell her you care about her too.
You may save a young girl from a horrific life.
hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.
i'm now separated.
my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.
7 months! ...... that’s crazy.
This happened over and over and over in the JW’s. I remember very few happy marriages.
Now is your opportunity to take a grasp of this situation, it’s as easy as leaving and going to a local solicitor and filing for divorce.
Life is too short to be unhappy.
It is also your opportunity to assess the validity of the JW beliefs. Maybe start with how much good/bad it has done to your life. This will only work if you are honest with yourself.
i have friends who are called "worldly people" by jws.
these people are actively involved in feeding the homeless over christmas.
managing thrift shops so they can send financial aid overseas to poorer children.
I’m ashamed that I used to refer to the decades of ministry and RBC work as “charity” ..... it never was and never will be!
I am disgusted that any human, never mind a ‘christian’ , would be so dismissive of those in need, especially when it was all throughout the Bible that one would be judged by how they treat people in dire straits,
The witnesses are inhumane on many issues, be it shunning their loved ones, denying blood to children or not caring for those in need via charitable means!
Shame on them!
if you take a moment you can find lots of ways to help. This Christmas we have sent toys to local homeless kids and we have sent boxes of toys (you get given an age and sex) to kids abroad who have little.
Since leaving the JW’s I have given to charities for blankets for Syrian refugees, taken food to the homeless bus and helped cook on it.
I feel ashamed that I have done so little, I really, really do and my gf and I really want to set up something to help the homeless more.
My JW past has me feeling guilty over two issues, any bible study I was involved in and secondly, the lack of charity work and WORSE... the dismissive, flippant, arrogant view of charity I once held.
hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.
i'm now separated.
my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.
Also, you are an adult. You can walk out that door this very minute and have any life you want, you really can.
hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.
i'm now separated.
my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.
Firstly.... you must have married him in a short period of time to not know who he was to,this degree, This isn’t totally your fault, that’s not what I am saying, the JW’s push marriage on all the single people to promote more numbers in the org, however in order to own the issue and NEVER make the same mistake again, own this decision and own the error that it was to marry someone you didn’t know.
Secondly, you are 34......... you have barely begun and can easily meet someone else! I didn’t meet my gf until I was 35.
We can’t learn from our mistakes if we don’t own them. Once you own it you can get on with your life. Accept that the JW’s haven’t got it right, that the marriage wasn’t for the best and that there is life after Watchtower and divorce.
Incidentally, depression and mental health issues can befall anyone at any time and fluctuate in severity. It’s an illness and the JW’s perspective on mental health is shameful. Most people suffer depression and mental torment during their life.
i'm analyzing the 221 congregations in the uk that had additional account info.. correct me if i'm wrong, but was it 2015 when the letter was read out instructing congregations to donate excess funds to the world wide work?.
the amounts donated to the world wide work are significant.
i still have much work to do.. truthseeker.
I’ve been watching UK JW accounts for years, this isn’t new.
The yearly bethel finances are worse, all that money from all over the UK that is left over costs, gets donated to an American charity.... a ‘mother’ charity.
This of course being the WT Soc.
i have written some time ago, about how the religion i grew up in no longer exists.
i was an 80’s jw kid who became a pioneer then a bethelite.
they have new meetings, new elder roles, new acronyms, new core teachings, new songs and even a new bible.
I’m very aware the cult exists in 2017.
The religion I grew up in has LONG GONE.
Thats the point
