An elders (P.O.) wife and daughter, due to nerves, would rarely do KMS items or answer up. One elder didn’t like this decided to ask them from the platform to read a verse ..... it was awkward and intentional. “Maybe sister X would like to read this .....” after the meeting those two elders were eye to eye down the front of the hall shouting at each other. It was embarrassing.
I have never met an elder who acted like he had the lives of 100 people in his care, it matters because it means they never REALLY believed they did. That’s not how you behave or treat each other if you believe that.