For someone my age (23 with 14 years experience being 23 = 37), I have a wealth of experience to glean from that allows me to comprehend/understand many of the things others are going through.
I've:
- seen my only brother (only sibling) killed when I was 3
- been raised in a severely abusive home
- been abused by relatives and friends of daddy dearest
- at age 17, had a baby, moved to a foreign country (Germany), married (to a military man) and met the JWs
- at age 19, had my second baby, and moved back to Canada
- experienced life with the JWs, auxillary pioneering with two young ones
- had my best friend commit suicide due to the elders
- worked on the ambulance, EMT and 3 courses short of Paramedic
- worked in the funeral home, helping with the body and the families
- been through the horrors of family court, with my first husband and with my second husband because of his ex-wife
- been in the hospital on a psych ward
- been Df'd in absentia and shunned before and afterwards
- been the key witness on the stand in mom's trial against my father
- endured my second husband's alcoholism/addictions
- had my second marriage break up
- had my dream of Paramedic die due to severe mono
- had to cope with chronic illnesses - fatigue, pain, migraines, depression, anxiety
- had work related injuries
- been on social assistance and was repeatedly humiliated by the system
- been a single parent
- been a step parent
- lost loved ones to cancer
- seen my own mom through 2 battles of breast cancer
- seen my girls through serious drug problems with family counselling
- helped my step-son with the abuse from his former step-mother
- helped my oldest when she lost her baby last April (ectopic preg.)
- have worked damned hard to change the vicious cycle in my family, and have succeeded.
- suffered flashbacks, nightmares and triggers
- felt the joys of watching my children bask in their accomplishments: graduation, jobs, self-esteem.
While I know alot of people have gone through alot of things, I can only speak for myself. I reach out because I want to. I have alot of negative experience to turn into postive action. I care about people - sincerely, because I know what it's like to feel many ways. I've walked in alot of shoes. I do, really care. That's just me. And no one is ever going to stop me from showing it.
Mimilly/Salem
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larc/cruzenheart/dede/vicki/tinkerbell n more
by Mimilly inwhile i've had an incredible day - one that has changed my life for the better, taken me off welfare, made me self-sufficient (whew!
all in one day) - i want you to know that my heart and thoughts more than frequently go towards you all.
(and not just those mentioned here) .
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HAS THIS PLACE HELPED YOU?
by minimus insince so many post and chat here,and most here do not go to meetings, have you found this board to be a place that can help and refresh you?
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This site saved my life - literally, and for the first time in over a decade - I found friends who've become family to me who can actually understand what the whole JW experience has been like.
IF there was such a thing as the 'truth' - I would say that this is it in action. We talk, vent, cry, laugh, joke, share, rejoice, support, reach out, get angry and then make up. All through it there is respect that each has a right to their opinion and voice. We're encouraged and challenged by each other. We are strengthened and supported by one another. I believe this is as close to 'perfect' as it gets. And when someone is hurting, lonely, ill - those here don't hesitate to go the extra mile. This is why I call this place 'home'.
Has this place helped me? More than I could ever describe.
hugs,
Mimilly
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DO YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF?
by minimus inare you pretty much satisfied with yourself or do you feel unhappy, as a rule?
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Yep! I've come a looooong way baby
Minimus - I've concluded that you are a question factory and that you are obsessed with CAPS
(Joy just might have to hurt you dude! )
hugs,
Mimilly
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Who Makes the BEST Donut (Doughnut)?
by Funchback inmy vote goes to krispy kreme because they make one delicious glazed donut/doughnut!
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Well, I'm in Canada, and in Atlantic Canada where Tim Horton's rules. It's culture here. On two adjacent streets, there are five outlets. Not even raging snowstorms keep people from getting their Tim Horton donuts and coffee! I know this 'cos I use to work there.
Great coffee - great donuts. Starbucks is here, but I'll never pay that price for a cup of coffee - I don't care how good it is! (geez) Dutchie - thanks, now I know it's overpriced 'bad' coffee
Mimilly (surprised to see that Simon mentioned Tim Horton's!) lol
Edited by - Mimilly on 20 September 2002 23:54:22
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larc/cruzenheart/dede/vicki/tinkerbell n more
by Mimilly inwhile i've had an incredible day - one that has changed my life for the better, taken me off welfare, made me self-sufficient (whew!
all in one day) - i want you to know that my heart and thoughts more than frequently go towards you all.
(and not just those mentioned here) .
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While I've had an incredible day - one that has changed my life for the better, taken me off welfare, made me self-sufficient (whew! all in one day) - I want you to know that my heart and thoughts more than frequently go towards you all. (and not just those mentioned here)
Larc - For you and your wife, Jan, whom I've never had the pleasure to meet yet online. My experience on the ambulance gave me a great deal of insight into strokes and their affect on people and their families. (yes, I broke the rules and got attached to my patients and kept in touch with them) My thoughts and prayers go to both of you for strength and recovery. I'm so glad she has you Larc, and for you, I am glad she has a positive outlook for recovery. Please tell her hello from me, and that I look forward to meeting her, even though it's online. ((((((((((((((((Larc))))))))))))))))))
Cruzanheart - For you and your Dad. I had a friend that tried and then succeeded with suicide, and my own personal attempts. My thoughts and prayers go to you for strength to research the topic and to be there for Dad, and for your Dad - that he sees the beauty in the spirit of his daughter and rebuild the desire to live and enjoy everyday beauty. You are so blessed to have each other. ((((((((((((((((cruzanheart))))))))))))))))
Dede (lyin eyes) - I know this is a bad time of year for you honey. I read your posts and wish I could be there to hug and hold you. I am so sorry I scared you so deeply when I hit the bottom. I understand 'bad times of the year', and my heart goes out to you. I know your mom is so very proud of you. I'm also glad that your last talk with her was of I love yous. Look at what a wonderful mother you are Dede, with a good hubby, great kids. It isn't hard to tell that they are your world. You hon, are very often in my thoughts. (((((((((((((((((dede))))))))))))))))))))
Vicki (needs_lots) - I know what it's like to be on the stand with lawyers drilling your every action and word - twisting them. Mom and I took my psycho father to court. I dropped my case. It was too much, and the police made a little mistake that made it harder for me. I'm rooting for you each day (wearing my pom-poms here). I also know (as many here do) what the elders are like in their interrogations and sweepings under the rug. Happened to me too. I'm proud of you, and proud to know you, even if it's online. (((((((((((((((((vicki))))))))))))))))))
Tinkerbell - I miss you posting honey. I'm glad that CCryder is keeping us up to date and very relieved to know that you are getting something for the pain. Yer a sweetheart and I look forward to you feeling on top of it all again. (((((((((((((tink))))))))))))))
GoldenGirl - About your hubby having cancer - I'm so sorry hon. I hope you know that we'll be there for you as much as we can. I hope you and hubby can spend what time is left enjoying the beauty of togetherness. ((((((((((((((((((GoldenGirl))))))))))))))))))
Sirona - I believe it's you who just had a biopsy done for cancer due to swollen glands. (Again, correct me if I'm wrong) You also are in my thoughts and prayers hon. (((((((((((Sirona))))))))))
Mary - I am sorry that you have to battle cancer. My thoughts and prayers are with you. ((((((((((Mary)))))))))))))))
Eman - Your ankle and that darned last rung! I am hoping that it isn't an injury that will plague you for the rest of your life. Rest now and heal as much as possible. (((((((((((((Eman)))))))))))))
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To those I've missed here, I am sorry. I just wanted all of you to know that just because I had terrific news and am experiencing happiness, that I have indeed been thinking of all of you - and very often. When I say those here are my family - I mean it. I am not apologizing for being happy - just letting you all know you are in my heart and thoughts.
lotsa love,
Mimilly/Salem (edited to correct nicks and conditions)
Edited by - Mimilly on 21 September 2002 0:38:41
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I am in TEARS!!!!!!!!!! Please read!!!!
by Jesika inthey are tears of joy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
let me share with you my great news............................ someone from this board has given me the greatest gift i have had in a very long time!!!!!
i recieved an email last night from someone asking me if i could find a place to stay they would buy my ticket so i could be at the march on the 27th.
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Jesika - I'm so happy for you! Just goes to show that this place really is special, and full of family.
Stand tall for me hon - I'm not able to go. Go get em girl!
Mimilly
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OMG! I got the job! I'm hired! I start on Monday training!
First hit - first call - baddaboom! I'm OFF assistance! I am officially OFF assistance! Let's all do the one fingered salute to the government's efforts to make a new group called The Working Poor.
Omg... I am out of my mind with happiness right now. Thanks for all your postive vibes. I am delerious with happiness (oh what a feeling). I will now go before I babble off in hysterically happy chatter... blah blah blah blah blah blah blah..........
BaddaBOOM!
Mimilly
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Family
by DJ inhey everyone,.
i was moved by the sad news about ima and his poor son's kindness to follow his dad's last wishes.
(see thread entitled, "please read") anyway, it struck me as odd last night that i actually shed tears over this man.
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DJ - your thread is NOT very unpopular hon. Look how many people have viewed it!
As for the job - I find out tomorrow, and I'm very nervous and extremely tired - fighting a cold and asthma. If I don't get the job - I'll just keep pluggin'.
hugs,
Mimilly
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Last night my dad tried to commit suicide
by cruzanheart ini'm still blown away by it.
when i went out the door this morning to take the kids to school (7:15 a.m.) i turned on my cell phone and there were two messages from his retirement home, both saying that he had fallen at about 4:30 a.m. and was being taken to the hospital.
i called the hospital and they told me that he said he had taken 18 xanax in an effort to kill himself.
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Nina)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I'm glad big tex was there for you, and I'm very glad that you had the opportunity to tell the nurses to not let those idiot abusive elders in!
We're here for you hon. Please keep us posted on your Dad's progress. I'm glad it became an 'attempt' and not completed.
hugs and strength to you,
Mimilly
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by DJ inhey everyone,.
i was moved by the sad news about ima and his poor son's kindness to follow his dad's last wishes.
(see thread entitled, "please read") anyway, it struck me as odd last night that i actually shed tears over this man.
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We ARE family here. I know I've found 'home', and it's full of people who care - really care, and who do not hesitate to step up to the plate in one's hour of need.
This is a special place indeed, full of very special people from all walks of life and living all around the earth.
Mimilly