Noi - Congrats and lots of sunbeams your way!
hugs, Mimilly
Mimilly
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Starting Over
by noidea inthis is it!
!..i start my new job tomorrow (in a different city) and i signed the lease on my apartment today..wish me luck
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OK, I was a wuss today.....
by Mimilly ini have seen my share of horrors in my life; my own; others when i worked on the ambulance and in the funeral home.
i've come home covered in someone else's blood and dealt with death on numerous times.
i have been to the dentist five times in the past month.
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COMF - yer too much - gotta love ya...lol. Points taken, and btw - I'll remember that tune
Nanoprobe - oh gawd! This is what I mean though about 'the things that can wrong and do'. I hope she doesn't fear the dentist forever and a day. I'm glad she's doin' alright. My root canal was yesterday - sing some of COMF's song to her
Mims
Edited by - Mimilly on 8 August 2002 10:34:46
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To all of my family.... and yes I mean you all
by LyinEyes ini just wanted to tell all of you how very much you mean to me.
i want to especially thank my husband wild turkey, for finding this place and showing me the light.
he was so encouraging to me when i first came into this room.
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I went ten years without contact and upon finding this site - I found home; I found family; I found friends; I found community.
(((((((lyin eyes))))))))
hugs, Mimilly
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OK, I was a wuss today.....
by Mimilly ini have seen my share of horrors in my life; my own; others when i worked on the ambulance and in the funeral home.
i've come home covered in someone else's blood and dealt with death on numerous times.
i have been to the dentist five times in the past month.
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COMF - Yer right and wrong with that idea. Just read through the posts to this thread and you'll find that the terror of dentists was not 'all in the imagination'. In theory - you are right, and I agree.
As another poster said, it's an invasive thing done while we're awake. I never thought about that either. Most invasive things are done under general A. (of course - I had a c-section while awake and just frozen - but it was soooo cool)
My experience with dentists has not been great. First dentist was a butcher. While 7mths pregnant and getting a filling done, that clampy thing flew off - so I knew that it was a real possiblity on this particular tooth so far back in my mouth. There were others - but reading thru the posts I realized how barbaric some of them can be. A sister of my best friend in elementary died after a wisdom tooth extraction. Somehow bled to death at home. I never forgot that.
Put me at an accident scene with multiple trauma - I'm ok. I can deal with it effectively and efficiently. Put me in the dentist chair - I'm a wuss. (a wuss that spends the whole time trying to relax and just breathe chanting 'this too shall pass' in my head) But a wuss none-the-less. When my name was called, I sighed, got up and said out loud - "the only way out- is through". A lady in the waiting room smiled and said "I'm going to remember that one!"
hugs, Mims
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OK, I was a wuss today.....
by Mimilly ini have seen my share of horrors in my life; my own; others when i worked on the ambulance and in the funeral home.
i've come home covered in someone else's blood and dealt with death on numerous times.
i have been to the dentist five times in the past month.
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Mimilly
See! I knew I wasn't alone in this dental phobia stuff!
They haven't used nitrous oxide in years here - and they don't prescribe vicodin. If yer nervous here, they prescribe an ativan or valium - one. For pain - they like that OTC stuff - motrin. I'm glad I've got more potent stuff for my migraines.
Yep - that clamp and dam they put on yer mouth, while nice in that it keeps lots of the 'ick' from going down yer throat - scared me yesterday because I had visions of throwing up with it on. And I was often left alone (to wait for the freezing to kick in).
I really do like my dentist. But darn - I've heard SO much about this vicodin stuff - I wanna try it! And I miss that nitrous oxide - had it as a kid.
For dental purposes - brand me the wuss I am strong enough in other areas of my life that in this one area - hell, I'll wear the label proudly. LOL
hugs to all of you who had horrible experiences. I think some dentists get their liscense (sp) out of a cornflake box.
Mims (of the sore mouth - still can't eat class) sigh - nitrous oxide and vicodin. I'm missing out!
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OK, I was a wuss today.....
by Mimilly ini have seen my share of horrors in my life; my own; others when i worked on the ambulance and in the funeral home.
i've come home covered in someone else's blood and dealt with death on numerous times.
i have been to the dentist five times in the past month.
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Bitter Mango - ouch! and Double ouch! I applaud you darlin'.
My oldest, Beth, has her dad's 'perfect' teeth - that is, except for the tiny technicality of horrible wisdom teeth probs. Her's are starting now. My youngest, Shelene, needs braces - she's 18, and has to pay out of her pocket. First she needs an operation to remove a tendon between her front teeth - then braces, then one of her canine teeth needs to be replaced by one of those permanent ones drilled into the jaw. She is having serious probs with her TMJ, so it has to be done. When I get working, I'll be helping her pay that off. Her dental ran out the second she turned 18.
One way or another - dental work hurts!
Mulan - I'll be with you holding your hand in spirit! Remember that. (((((((((((((Mulan)))))))))))))
Mims
Edited by - Mimilly on 7 August 2002 22:36:46
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OK, I was a wuss today.....
by Mimilly ini have seen my share of horrors in my life; my own; others when i worked on the ambulance and in the funeral home.
i've come home covered in someone else's blood and dealt with death on numerous times.
i have been to the dentist five times in the past month.
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LB - when it comes to the dentist - I'm a big sissy! I cannot however, imagine having to do what you have to do. I do have coverage up here in Canada - but it ran out and I had to pay out of my pocket for today's torture. I don't know how you 'mericans do it.
Next time I go to the dentist (next week), I will hear you yelling "Salem's a sissy! Salem's a sissy!" and I'll go "Yes I am! Yes I am!"
Double Edge - good point. Loss of control. I especially hate those mini pick-ax things they use. Today, as in every visit to the dentist - was an exercize in self-control and the tug of war between panic and relax; panic and relax.
hugs, Mims.
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OK, I was a wuss today.....
by Mimilly ini have seen my share of horrors in my life; my own; others when i worked on the ambulance and in the funeral home.
i've come home covered in someone else's blood and dealt with death on numerous times.
i have been to the dentist five times in the past month.
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I have seen my share of horrors in my life; my own; others when I worked on the ambulance and in the funeral home. I've come home covered in someone else's blood and dealt with death on numerous times. BUT.....
I have been to the dentist five times in the past month. First two were for cleaning. Third was for half my mouth to have the fillings replaced; fourth was for the other half to have my fillings replaced. (all childhood fillings btw). Each time I went I had no less than 15 pokes of that HUGE needle that feels like they're shoving up into your nose or eyeballs, in your gums and the roof of your mouth. At the end of the fourth appointment, my lower back was in spasms due to not laying back and enjoying the whole thing.
Today was the icing on the cake. Root canal. Very last molar on the upper right that has been causing my ear and sinus infections for approximately a year. First, I went to the family doc to get more antibiotics, cos the last two courses didn't work. I hate antibiotics. Got the prescription filled and didn't have time to take the bus home. I spent two hours contemplating the 'root canal'. I shook so badly, people just kinda looked at me as they walked by. An hour before my appointment I finally walked into said dentist's office and bluntly said "I'm scared shitless, and yes, I mean that - terrified." I was soothed into the waiting room and told to take my valium. I tried to read magazines and my eyes wouldn't take in the words. Another lady there told me that she knew someone who also had worked on the ambulance but couldn't stand papercuts. My jaw hit the floor - cos I can't either. Gaping wounds - hey.. fine... don't even discuss papercuts with me.
"Salem?" OH GAWD. THIS WAS IT. Because it is in the very top back of my mouth - I had fears of the clampy thing going down my throat. The anything that could go wrong sorta thing. When the assistant asked if I wanted to watch the overhead tv - my dentist answered 'YES'... lol.
Sigh. It went well. I go back in a week to get a real filling. My jaw hurts from being pried open as far as it can get - amazing how they do that. My dentist told me that she's had firefighters and construction guys come in just as terrified.
So my question is this: WHY is the dentist SO terrifying to go to? What are your horror stories or worries or hates about the whole thing? I personally didn't mind the needles, except for the abundance of them in the first four visits in a week and a half. (approx: 50 pokes of the damned thing) I thought I would instinctively kick the next person with that HUGE needle. What's the psychology behind this fear? Did we have horrible dentists as children? Does it just seem so friggin midevil?
do tell - please
Mimilly
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ladies/gentlemen..Give me your take on this
by Monster inladies i know i shouldn't really hit on this because i have no real understanding of what you go through when you are raped.
i just want to try and understand some of what is going on.
let me ask this q. do you believe that the elders do not want to report the rapes or they are told they cannot report the rapes from the gb?
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Joannadandy - hugs sweety - and absolutly no pity in those hugs. I know well of what you speak. Just because someone discloses info of that sort, does not mean they need the sympathy response. Sometimes though - just sometimes, I think perhaps it is we who interpret it as pity instead of the validation their responses are meant to be. Validation is good; pity is not.
Everyone is an individual, hence, each person responds/reacts differently, according to their personality, needs and self esteem. Not everyone needs to share forever and ever amen, if you know what I mean. For others, the more they talk, the more the jigsaw is figured out.
I talk about it now, because I found I remained quiet due to the whole 'not wanting the pity thing' (which no one needs btw) or to have 'victim' branded on my forehead. (oh gawd, she was on a psych ward - she's nuts! Ah f--k em! It takes strength of a special kind to be honest about what happened and work to respond to life as normal as possible.) People who choose denial are among the least emotionally healthy. This crap finds it's way out, so those in denial will either be self-distructive or project their problems onto others.
So many have gone through it, and it is in sharing that the healing goes round. If others had not shared, I wouldn't have learned from them - that sort of thing. You have to do what is right for you, and only you know exactly what you need. Just be careful not to take other's well meant hugs etc as pity.
If anything - surviving the whole thing physically and emotionally is of the highest accomplishment.
I'm glad you have your writings. My voice was in poetry, sketching, lyrics and piano. You have an outlet, and that's excellent. I'm really glad you posted here Joannadandy. Really!
huge hugs to you -
Mimilly
edited cos tonight I can't spell either
Edited by - Mimilly on 7 August 2002 21:2:47
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ladies/gentlemen..Give me your take on this
by Monster inladies i know i shouldn't really hit on this because i have no real understanding of what you go through when you are raped.
i just want to try and understand some of what is going on.
let me ask this q. do you believe that the elders do not want to report the rapes or they are told they cannot report the rapes from the gb?
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James hon - you would be betraying her life if you didn't do something. She would do the same thing if you were in her place (suicidal) and she was trying to help. Just remember that she is not thinking clearly now and the last thing a depressed person wants is the stigma of being on a psych ward. In actuality, the people who seek help are the strong and courageous ones. Some need a big push to get there. I'm really glad she has you.
Keep in touch James. You're in my thoughts.
hugs,
Salem