Posts by millie210

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My Younger Brother Has Left The Witnesses!! :-D

by pale.emperor in

absolutely thrilled to give you the news that my younger brother, a zealous full-time pioneer has left the witnesses!!.

i haven't seen or spoke to him in a year.

i'd lost all contact with him, no facebook, no mobile number, i didn't even know his address because he'd moved house.

What "Rules" Did The Elders In Your KH Make?

by minimus in

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some congregations were known as liberal and others were considered very conservative.

back in the 1970s a nearby congregation made all speakers who gave public talks a white shirt to wear.

if a speaker came in wearing anything but white they were brought into the library and were given a white shirt!

millie210

My hall -

No jeans skirts for sisters - even in field service.

The white dress shirt rule also

No cowboy boots

No ear piercings beyond one per ear (sisters only - need I even say that?)

No 2 door cars (not spiritual)

ah, those were the days!

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What made you stay "in" even when you knew it wasn't the "truth"?

by mentalclarity in

so i've been thinking a lot about why i stayed a jw for so long even though i had always had doubts about the doctrines.

i was born into the religion, left and came back as an adult for another decade.

some of the things that come to mind (besides the threat of shunning-and this isn't to minimize that very real threat) was:.

Suicide - How many do you know within the JWs

by Lady Lee in

thw wts likes to play games with their statistics.

one interesting but truly tragic is the number of jwhovah's witnesses who commit suicie.. now i suspect that if a person commits suicide shortly before or after they are disfellowshipped then the elders would say that person wasn't a witness or that they had done something so terrible that they were too guilty to admit it and by their action of committing suicide they pretty much declared they were no longer a jw.. yup fancy talk to make sure any crap didn't fall on them.. so my question.. do you know of cases like this?

if so then can you answer a few more questions.. had this person been dfed or in real danger of being dfed or whatever the equivalent is if they were never baptized?.

millie210

By the way...I meant to add welcome to the group MentalClarity!

On the matter of suicide, I know an elders wife who has attempted it a couple of times. Each time it gets hushed up and covered over by the elder body.

The bulk of the congregation knows too but its not openly acknowledged.

An unhealthy environment by any ones standards~

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Suicide - How many do you know within the JWs

by Lady Lee in

thw wts likes to play games with their statistics.

one interesting but truly tragic is the number of jwhovah's witnesses who commit suicie.. now i suspect that if a person commits suicide shortly before or after they are disfellowshipped then the elders would say that person wasn't a witness or that they had done something so terrible that they were too guilty to admit it and by their action of committing suicide they pretty much declared they were no longer a jw.. yup fancy talk to make sure any crap didn't fall on them.. so my question.. do you know of cases like this?

if so then can you answer a few more questions.. had this person been dfed or in real danger of being dfed or whatever the equivalent is if they were never baptized?.

millie210

How horrible to be publicly reproved for a suicide attempt.

Words fail me.

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What made you stay "in" even when you knew it wasn't the "truth"?

by mentalclarity in

so i've been thinking a lot about why i stayed a jw for so long even though i had always had doubts about the doctrines.

i was born into the religion, left and came back as an adult for another decade.

some of the things that come to mind (besides the threat of shunning-and this isn't to minimize that very real threat) was:.

millie210

mentalclarity
@millie210 family is the big one too! I don't have any family (siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins) who are not JWs. It would have been easier of at least one family member was not JW.

Boy do I agree!

Thats ok though...I am of the opinion that at least some of our still in family envy us.

Of course they shove the thought down and repress it immediately but thats not the same as never having the thought is it?

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What is behind your choice of forum user name?

by stuckinarut2 in

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just curious how we all think.. what prompted or influenced your choice of username for this forum?.

there are some really amazing names, and it would be great to hear the stories behind them.... mine was nothing fancy.

i just felt "stuck in a rut too" along with so many others.

millie210

I wanted something that sounded very "blah" and would not identify me.

I liked the mill stone picture because we all know what their very own book (Bible) says about millstones and those who mistreat people. Those are the type cast "appointed men" whose galling behavior became the catalyst to make me look on the "wicked" internet to see if anyone else ever got mistreated by the elders.

Maybe? Possibly? LOL then I found all of you!

(Little did I know previous to being here, that being manhandled by the elders is the NORM rather than the oddity.)

Thats all worked out ok though. I have a new life, full of my own thoughts and actions and it is ambrosia for the soul!

I have reached the point where I would like to use my real name and picture, since I feel a part of this community but I still have possible repercussions to think about so I will be patient and just be "the one with the mill stone picture" for now.

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What made you stay "in" even when you knew it wasn't the "truth"?

by mentalclarity in

so i've been thinking a lot about why i stayed a jw for so long even though i had always had doubts about the doctrines.

i was born into the religion, left and came back as an adult for another decade.

some of the things that come to mind (besides the threat of shunning-and this isn't to minimize that very real threat) was:.

millie210

What made me stay in was family.

I thought they would flip out and sure enough...they have!

I am not Dfd but they basically treat me as though I am.

My second reason was fear. It seemed like such a big step to walk away.

I have found it is made easier (for me) by doing it in baby steps.

Still, nothing is as bad as being "in" and knowing its not the right thing.

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Baby update and quick hello.

by Darkknight757 in

i wanted to take a moment to give a quick baby update.

my last post mentioned that we lost twin b at 17 weeks but twin a is doing well so far.

we are 25 weeks tomorrow and a week past the point of viability so we are starting to get really exited for this new adventure in our lives.

millie210

What a pretty little thing she is!

You can already see she has a great profile (and a very pretty nose).

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Baby update and quick hello.

by Darkknight757 in

i wanted to take a moment to give a quick baby update.

my last post mentioned that we lost twin b at 17 weeks but twin a is doing well so far.

we are 25 weeks tomorrow and a week past the point of viability so we are starting to get really exited for this new adventure in our lives.

millie210

Happy Baby News!!!

Thanks DK we are all rooting for you and Mrs DK and of course adorable little Miss DK!!!