Posts by millie210

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Suicide - How many do you know within the JWs

by Lady Lee in

thw wts likes to play games with their statistics.

one interesting but truly tragic is the number of jwhovah's witnesses who commit suicie.. now i suspect that if a person commits suicide shortly before or after they are disfellowshipped then the elders would say that person wasn't a witness or that they had done something so terrible that they were too guilty to admit it and by their action of committing suicide they pretty much declared they were no longer a jw.. yup fancy talk to make sure any crap didn't fall on them.. so my question.. do you know of cases like this?

if so then can you answer a few more questions.. had this person been dfed or in real danger of being dfed or whatever the equivalent is if they were never baptized?.

millie210

How horrible to be publicly reproved for a suicide attempt.

Words fail me.

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What made you stay "in" even when you knew it wasn't the "truth"?

by mentalclarity in

so i've been thinking a lot about why i stayed a jw for so long even though i had always had doubts about the doctrines.

i was born into the religion, left and came back as an adult for another decade.

some of the things that come to mind (besides the threat of shunning-and this isn't to minimize that very real threat) was:.

millie210

mentalclarity
@millie210 family is the big one too! I don't have any family (siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins) who are not JWs. It would have been easier of at least one family member was not JW.

Boy do I agree!

Thats ok though...I am of the opinion that at least some of our still in family envy us.

Of course they shove the thought down and repress it immediately but thats not the same as never having the thought is it?

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What is behind your choice of forum user name?

by stuckinarut2 in

jw
friends

just curious how we all think.. what prompted or influenced your choice of username for this forum?.

there are some really amazing names, and it would be great to hear the stories behind them.... mine was nothing fancy.

i just felt "stuck in a rut too" along with so many others.

millie210

I wanted something that sounded very "blah" and would not identify me.

I liked the mill stone picture because we all know what their very own book (Bible) says about millstones and those who mistreat people. Those are the type cast "appointed men" whose galling behavior became the catalyst to make me look on the "wicked" internet to see if anyone else ever got mistreated by the elders.

Maybe? Possibly? LOL then I found all of you!

(Little did I know previous to being here, that being manhandled by the elders is the NORM rather than the oddity.)

Thats all worked out ok though. I have a new life, full of my own thoughts and actions and it is ambrosia for the soul!

I have reached the point where I would like to use my real name and picture, since I feel a part of this community but I still have possible repercussions to think about so I will be patient and just be "the one with the mill stone picture" for now.

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What made you stay "in" even when you knew it wasn't the "truth"?

by mentalclarity in

so i've been thinking a lot about why i stayed a jw for so long even though i had always had doubts about the doctrines.

i was born into the religion, left and came back as an adult for another decade.

some of the things that come to mind (besides the threat of shunning-and this isn't to minimize that very real threat) was:.

millie210

What made me stay in was family.

I thought they would flip out and sure enough...they have!

I am not Dfd but they basically treat me as though I am.

My second reason was fear. It seemed like such a big step to walk away.

I have found it is made easier (for me) by doing it in baby steps.

Still, nothing is as bad as being "in" and knowing its not the right thing.

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Baby update and quick hello.

by Darkknight757 in

i wanted to take a moment to give a quick baby update.

my last post mentioned that we lost twin b at 17 weeks but twin a is doing well so far.

we are 25 weeks tomorrow and a week past the point of viability so we are starting to get really exited for this new adventure in our lives.

millie210

What a pretty little thing she is!

You can already see she has a great profile (and a very pretty nose).

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Baby update and quick hello.

by Darkknight757 in

i wanted to take a moment to give a quick baby update.

my last post mentioned that we lost twin b at 17 weeks but twin a is doing well so far.

we are 25 weeks tomorrow and a week past the point of viability so we are starting to get really exited for this new adventure in our lives.

millie210

Happy Baby News!!!

Thanks DK we are all rooting for you and Mrs DK and of course adorable little Miss DK!!!

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Witnessing to two JW elders

by Roger Kirkpatrick in

i was approached by two jehovah’s witness elders who handed me a pamphlet advertising the jw .org website.

each man carried a bible and an apple ipad.

they told me that they enjoyed visiting with people about the bible, and asked if i was a bible reader.

millie210

Hi Roger,

In spite of being a life long JW (previous to now) I didnt have a clear understanding of the topic this thread is about. I didnt even know I didnt understand it quite frankly.

I really appreciate your posts for their clear and easily understandable points.

I am glad you are here and looking forward to your future posts!

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The little things that made you feel guilty as a JW?

by HereIgo in

watching rated r movies?

maybe a little gambling in vegas?

when i was in high school i went to the mall with my friend at the time, who happened to be a female.

millie210

freddo that was such a sweet story!

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The little things that made you feel guilty as a JW?

by HereIgo in

watching rated r movies?

maybe a little gambling in vegas?

when i was in high school i went to the mall with my friend at the time, who happened to be a female.

millie210

Reading horoscopes (harmless fun but still felt guilty)

Feeling happy when I had an excuse to skip meetings or field service ( I thought I should be appropriately sad BUT I WASNT!)

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Why is the approval of family so important?

by jwfacts in

one of the reasons people remain pimo is fear of losing family.

those that are disfellowshipped and shunned regularly comment about how devastated that they have lost the approval of their parents.. when i respond to emails from people saying how difficult it is being estranged or looked down on by their parents, i would like to say that over time they will come to terms with it, except i not sure that people ever do.

i cannot shake that feeling either.

millie210

If we take the original premise and reverse it we see an interesting facet also.

The "org" knows how powerful this family tie is = thus the use of it as a threat to keep people "in".