Posts by millie210

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New member

by saorean in

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this is the first of many posts from me.

i'm pimo, an overseer, somewhere in africa.

i'll hold of giving further details until i've executed my plan to leave the organization.

millie210

Somebody go find a younger person to talk to Saorean!

Kidding....

I am over 50 too so I cant help with the younger thing but I can say that in my own growth out of the JWs I used a lot of resources.

What I found is people tend to use the platforms that suit them. Some of that is age related. I availed myself of all viewpoints and all mediums of learning. YouTube is great for that. Forums like this one are great for the encyclopedic amount of accumulated experience. A lot of ex elders are here which gives quite a bit of perspective.

And so it goes...I would say avail yourself of any and all methods of gaining support and tools for unlearning the dogma and getting support while doing so.

Nice to meet you and welcome!

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Narcissistic Elders/Pioneers

by StephaneLaliberte in

today, while listening to a book that covered narcissism, i was a bit surprised to find a connexion with those “seeking privileges” in the organization.

while not being paid, pioneers, ministerial servants and elders invest a great level of time and effort in upholding their responsibilities.

fear of being destroyed by god for not doing enough.

millie210

Interesting that you used the word "fuel" to describe how they like the attention and power.

I have been reading a lot about narcissism lately- what it is (extreme lack of the ability to have empathy, undeveloped personality, cluster B disorder etc) and what it is not (loud, annoying, or selfish people necessarily) and that word "fuel" or "narcissistic supply" is so accurate.

So just as religion can be a pedophile heaven for its ready supply of trusting young people and their parents, religion can also be a ready source of compliant fuel for the narcissist.

Wonderful.

I just read an article about religious narcissists and it basically described most of the elders I ever met. Not all but most.

Great post Stephane, thank you.

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Publisher ID - I Saw It In Person & It Was Terrifying!

by thedepressedsoul in

i'd like to start off this post by saying, we all know that the wt loves control.

it's clear by their history, their wt's, the elder arrangement and so on.

however, after witnessing and using the publish id program in person, it takes this need for control to a whole new level & it was scary.. if you've ever seen builder assist (the website program used for ldc volunteers) or the metro program, it actually looks pretty similar to that.

millie210

After reading this thread I am wondering if the big push to get everyone's addresses and phone numbers "in case of natural disaster" was another method of collecting data?

Its been awhile since I have been part of the organizational structure but I remember at one point them giving us a form to fill out containing name, address, phone number and a person to contact in the event of a disaster.

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too avenge ..?

by zeb in

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i read this recently in a stoics daily guide.. "the best way to avenge yourself is not be like that.

" written by marcus aurelius..

millie210

All the drug abusers, alcoholics, wife beaters and mate cheaters I know are active participating JWs.

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Is this something new?

by Butyoucanneverleave in

just heard from a friend who keeps in touch with the jw's.

a person who has been studying found out some things on line about the witnesses and decided to not get baptized and stopped attending the meetings.

she lives with a witness.

millie210

Well the nice little nugget in all of this is the JWs have reinforced whatever doubts the woman had after her online doubt came up.

She got out in the nick of time and there is always another place to live.

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Another one bites the dust

by stillin in

a close-by young brother, actually your basic, garden-variety, sexually-repressed, 40-year old virgin in the congregation has been charged with sexual misconduct with a minor.

i've known this guy since he was a kid and he has always been strange, in a nerdy kind of way.

he always wants to sound knowledgeable and wise when he comments at meetings, but i think he is bi-polar and depressed about who he is in life.

millie210

Ah...my apologies. The article linked in this thread is about a different person then I am assuming?

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Another one bites the dust

by stillin in

a close-by young brother, actually your basic, garden-variety, sexually-repressed, 40-year old virgin in the congregation has been charged with sexual misconduct with a minor.

i've known this guy since he was a kid and he has always been strange, in a nerdy kind of way.

he always wants to sound knowledgeable and wise when he comments at meetings, but i think he is bi-polar and depressed about who he is in life.

millie210

Thank you for sharing this local experience stillin.

I don't think you sound like your sympathies are with the man being charged. Rather, it sounds like you are trying to examine all the factors in his life that could have led up to where things are now.

In my area of the world, we define a pedophile as one who has a sexual interest in pre-pubescent children.

This man was accused of sexual assault on a minor. I am thinking that would be someone under the age of 18?

A different category of offender.

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As a JW Did You Prefer a “Stricter” Congregation or a More Liberal One?

by minimus in

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in my experience, there were three types of witnesses.

some were barely witnesses while others were extremely conservative types who followed the letter of the law.

and then you had those in the middle who just went with the flow.. i knew many witnesses who “felt safe” being in a stricter environment.they were actually proud that they belonged to such and such congregation because it was filled with strict bethelites..

millie210

Even the liberal JWs are stricter than life needs to be but interestingly enough, I was in a stricter congo and preferred it.

The liberal congregation in the next town over was looked down on circuit wide. I think the JW leadership encourages that kind of congregation snobbery. People get a kick out of trying to "outrighteous" one another.

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I finally did it

by paradiseseeker in

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it's done.. during the last month i've been talking with my closest friends about leaving the org and yesterday i finally talked with my parents.. it's been almost 5 months after i said that i would do it, but i think that this extra time has been beneficial.

i've said several times that i would opt for sending a resignation letter, but after talking to my best friends some of them suggested me becoming inactive and blocking my congregation's elders.

i've changed my mind and i will do that because the people that i care the most now know what's going on so they won't be worrying about me not attending the meetings.

millie210

Good for you!

Everyone has said all the things above I would say so just know that I am happy for you. If you have any minor set backs just come here and get advice from people who care about you for all the right reasons.

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by Atlantis in

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millie210

Isn't it wonderful that they advise a woman with PPH (postpartum hemorrhage) to have a hysterectomy rather than take a blood transfusion that would leave her and her life intact?

Wonder what the genius governing body would say if their options were remove a testicle or take a pint of blood?