Wrong? Good heaven's no. Sorry to hear you are sad honey, I am sending a big hug your way...
Amanda
ok i am very sad and very down at this point.
i have not been on talking of anything deep because i have been working on a project to post on the net (hopefully at jourles site) about wt hypocrisy and hope also to get something at least a pebble size stone to throw at the wtbs on their pedophile policies.
i know so many elders here where i live who supported and hid the transgressions of pedophiles.
Wrong? Good heaven's no. Sorry to hear you are sad honey, I am sending a big hug your way...
Amanda
LMFAO omg funny one... ha ha ha
how do you visualize a year?
in my mind, i see a year as a sphere, where january is on top, and july in on the bottom.
january 1st---------on top of the sphere.
huh
what should be included in your ideal-girl-kit?.
for me these things are most important:.
she is: intelligent, insightful, unpredictable, strongwilled, keen, interesting, nice looking, confident, a bit proud, equal, neither submissive nor dominant.
Farkel stop eyeing my teeth like that, ur creepin' me out man *hides*
what should be included in your ideal-guy-kit?.
i also started a thread for the guys to put their wishes on a list, but what do you want from a guy?.
greven
Chevy... ur cute...
I see many women put down "looks are unimportant" and have all the worthy aspirations mentioned above, but at the end of the day they are all crafty buggers! They go for the man with the biggest wallet, and if they can find a big wallet with big muscles and big lunch box, they'll take all 3!!!
Money doesn't matter as long as they can hold a job of course. Nobody wants some bum (male or female) who doesn't work nor has interest in finding work.
Looks are unimportant? Of course they are important up to a point. You have to be attracted to somebody, doesn't mean they have to be stellar either. Just turn you on enough to take notice at first.
Women say they want sweet mushy romantic nice guys. This is a line of crap. Nice yes, but with a twinge of jerk. Say it ain't so, I don't care, but no woman wants a wuss. She just wants to be treated right.
what should be included in your ideal-guy-kit?.
i also started a thread for the guys to put their wishes on a list, but what do you want from a guy?.
greven
Why does there have to be set anything? Why not just the right person at the right time? I mean of course, silly things aside like drug users or wife beaters... ha ha... but other than that...
my father is in the hospital, and the man in the room with him has gangreen on one of his feet.
now, the first time i saw him, he had 5 toes, two of which were black as coal.
now, he has 4. wanna know why?
When I die, please place "Freak Magnet" on my tomb
most articles in the publications recommended physical punishment, (corporal) when disciplining children.
the scripture says that "he will not die" if you beat him.
so many parents literally beat their children.
I recall one girl (my friend) in our hall was severely beaten with some sort of paddle for passing a note at school with the “F” word in it. I think (guess) she and I were about 10 years old when it happened. She was severely bruised, her entire butt was solid purple and black and entire back of her thighs, and the front of her thighs were also pretty badly bruised. Welts that broke through the skin, we are talking marks that were so bad they stayed on her for a very long time. Her father was an elder btw.
I spoke to my parents about it, and the response was it was too harsh, but nothing can be done, they broke no rules. She was alive and OK, and the bible does say spoil the rod spare the child. Maybe they thought I was blowing it out of proportion.
As a kid, I was beaten with numerous items. Mostly at the hands of my mother. Hairbrushes, yardsticks, orange tree branches (thorns hurt,) bare hands, wooden spoons, you name it. At the time, I accepted this behavior as normal. Fact is, not a day went by where I was smacked or screamed at by my mother. Dad spanked me, but it was RARE, I had to do something really out of line, and when he DID, it was like he didn’t even want to. Like he was going to cry, but it was his duty to correct me in that fashion.
Later on I recall (long after my parents never smacked me – I outgrew that for of punishment) my mother discussing how a parent SHOULD spank their child, and that is what is wrong with the world. Spoil the rod… and she went on and on about the early Christians and how they spanked their kids, and even stoned them to death if they did so much as talked back.
Then, I became a parent. It was rare, but there were occasions where I would smack Emma. Swat on the butt or the hand. Mostly I stuck with timeout etc. I can't say I ever spanked her so to speak, but a light swat maybe no more than a dozen times.
Then, one day, I swatted her butt pretty hard, and her lip pouted - eyes filled with tears, and she said to me, "Mommy, it's not nice to hit." I felt horrible. Just horrible, I felt so disgusted with myself. Totally changed my view on spankings. Felt such guilt, here I physically caused harm to my daughter - no different than when my ex-husband smacked me around to keep me in-line. Doesn’t depend on the degree, or how hard you hit, the point is, you are hitting – abusing – inflicting pain – beating a child to keep them in-line and to incite fear. A child is innocent, helpless... So at that moment I decided never to lay another hand on her.
Now I rarely discipline her at all, but use positive reinforcement. Yup, I hardly ever correct her for being a kid, but rather, talk to her and channel her energy elsewhere. Of course, I am blessed with a kid who is very smart, where I CAN reason with her, explain things, make her see what or why she did something was not appropriate. When it is necessary to correct her, I stick with privileges, such as movies or night snacks. And guess what? She is still very well behaved. In fact, I find she is better behaved than ever.
I openly admit I used to think spanking was OK. I also openly admit I was very wrong. It is never ok to hurt a living being, man, woman, child or otherwise. Part of me will always feel guilt for ever hitting my daughter. Makes me sad right now to think about it.
Not sure if spanking has everything to do with the religion, but I do feel it makes matters worse, and justifies them.
well, i've been busy travelling and making arrangements to move from my present address, so i haven't been online as much lately.
as well, due to the changes in the forum, i couldn't post from my home pc for a while, so that really kept me quiet!!
circumstances mean i won't be around as much as i used to, at least for the next couple of weeks, so i just wanted to pop in and say hi.
Awww Farkel, that was sweet (the sorta teasing bit )
Hope all goes well with the move Prisca, dont' stay away for too long.
Hugs,
Amanda
be zealous for what is good!
is the article of the latest km.
there's a box in the article that has the following question---what are your goals for the memorial season?-----here are the check off points that should be answered to this question.
all of the above and a few things best kept to myself
*pours minimus a stiff one and hands him the bowl*