Dating someone for a few months getting to see someone for a few hours at a time then marrying is taking a huge leap of faith.I must also add the third-party sister/brother that watches over you at every of these dates - or you have automatically had sex in the eyes of elders. Now that I think about it, it's so ridiculous...
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Are Jehovah's Witnesses marriages even legit?
by Joliette ini ask this because of the circumstances behind why they get married and who they get married by.
i know people say that they are really in love, they love jehovah, etc, but are these marriages even legit.
i've talked to older jw's sister who are now widowed, some of them say that they were trapped in a marriages.
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Are Jehovah's Witnesses marriages even legit?
by Joliette ini ask this because of the circumstances behind why they get married and who they get married by.
i know people say that they are really in love, they love jehovah, etc, but are these marriages even legit.
i've talked to older jw's sister who are now widowed, some of them say that they were trapped in a marriages.
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GrownMidget
I know that feeling from the male perspective! LOL
Oh my, imagine marrying some über-sister that blackmails you with sex to do cult stuff. "Today we go into field-service and do 6 hour day or otherwise it's no sex for a month!" -
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Are Jehovah's Witnesses marriages even legit?
by Joliette ini ask this because of the circumstances behind why they get married and who they get married by.
i know people say that they are really in love, they love jehovah, etc, but are these marriages even legit.
i've talked to older jw's sister who are now widowed, some of them say that they were trapped in a marriages.
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GrownMidget
Do they really want to have sex that bad, thats why they get married? I never understood that.
Not everybody of course. Everybody and their own reasons are different. But what I've observed it seems to play a big role. Plus, not to mention that when you are not allowed to have sex, it turns into masturbation that is also forbidden. You will feel even more bad, sexually frustrated and guilty which then increases the change of bad mate choice. Masturbation is yet another smart control tactic.
There was one couple in my congregation who got married at the 17 year mark and then later after they got 2 kids, divorced because the woman cheated. Reason? I don't know, but would guess growing separate and "Jehovah" is not really a reason to keep marriage together. Another bullshit lie to keep witnesses marrying witnesses. -
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Are Jehovah's Witnesses marriages even legit?
by Joliette ini ask this because of the circumstances behind why they get married and who they get married by.
i know people say that they are really in love, they love jehovah, etc, but are these marriages even legit.
i've talked to older jw's sister who are now widowed, some of them say that they were trapped in a marriages.
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It sounds to me like you might be meaning if witnesses' marriages are actually based on something, such as love, instead of it's legality? If legal sense, then here they are very much legal but only very few witnesses have legal status to make the marriage official on governmental level
If I understood your post correctly, I would bet that many witnesses marry only because they want to have sex (forbidden fruit), therefore it is not based on anything "real" and will eventually turn into something where people are just stuck with one another after growing separate over the years.
Humans are very much sexual beings, some much more than others and I very well understand the marry fast to have sex point of view within the cult on an individual level. On the other hand from cult's perspective using the Bible to force these more sexual humans to marry is excellent way to control them emotionally. If you follow the marriage code and happen to choose a bad mate, you are stuck and therefore their mental health eventually will decrease and it is easier to sell the "end is near, outside you will feel worse" agenda. If on the other hand you have sex before marriage, the cult will determine your faith, kick you out and you will lose everything. Either way, the couple who made bad choice loses.
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Songs that have a JW meaning?
by GrownMidget indo you have any songs that you have listened and then thought that it also works from an apostate point of view?i have always liked this song, but one time realized that i was thinking how it sounds awfully familiar, if you think about those who have lost family/friends due to leaving.this song was originally made/written because one of the actors died in a car accident.
movie was still being filmed and many spots he was needed were never finished with him.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgkafk5djsk.
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Do you have any songs that you have listened and then thought that it also works from an apostate point of view?
I have always liked this song, but one time realized that I was thinking how it sounds awfully familiar, if you think about those who have lost family/friends due to leaving.
This song was originally made/written because one of the actors died in a car accident. Movie was still being filmed and many spots he was needed were never finished with him. -
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Over-protective parent?
by GrownMidget ini was something like 20-21 and there was this young sister, maybe 16 who i happened to like back in the day ... uh oh ...we met in the summer convention because i made the first move while she was playing board games with her friend.
we kept in touch via skype and text messages because lived kinda far from each other.
eventually her mother heard of the stuff and said to her daughter that the chatting must stop.... well, when two people have a little crush on one another, it sure doesn't.
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Despite what US law says, it's not valid worldwide therefore these arguments about law itself are ridiculous trying to oppose on everybody since not everybody lives there, you know. Even on moral grounds many seem to have their own inner moral code they go by (ahem, look at religion - all having their own) and oh my, if someone crosses this fine line; all hell breaks loose. But since we talk about law now, I'll say how things go here before I give this topic a final rest.
Here one police officer keeps his own blog and he is also actively pursuing bullies and other illegal activities on Facebook during office hours. He has written that from legal perspective 16 year old girl can have sex (yes sex, not just dating) with 50 year old man. Socially acceptable or not, it's still perfectly legal if nothing illegal is going on such as rape, using enticement tactics or others. There has also been discussions of lowering the 16 year limit to 15 here.
This topic has long ago went off the rails from what it was written. I leave the rest of your legal and personal level moral arguments for you to discuss between one another. In general, I recommend relaxing. -
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Raining before the Flood?
by GrownMidget ini remember at my teen years when i was studying with a brother that he said to me that there was no rain before the flood.
instead there was this mist that you have.
never before or after this have i heard something like this.
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That's why there was so much water to come down in the flood, silly!!!!
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Firpo Carr's Homepage
by slimboyfat inanyone notice this before?.
http://www.stirinc.org/.
for those who don't know - who is firpo carr?.
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My guess is the word "cum" in your original post. I made one long post that had word "motherfucker" in it and it had same rating.
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Firpo Carr's Homepage
by slimboyfat inanyone notice this before?.
http://www.stirinc.org/.
for those who don't know - who is firpo carr?.
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NC-17 is adults only filter used within US film industry. Don't know why it's used in here though.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motion_Picture_Association_of_America_film_rating_system#X_replaced_by_NC-17 -
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Raining before the Flood?
by GrownMidget ini remember at my teen years when i was studying with a brother that he said to me that there was no rain before the flood.
instead there was this mist that you have.
never before or after this have i heard something like this.
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I'm telling you, that one single time was the only time I ever heard such a thing and it was only for a brief moment discussion about the subject. After that I never heard it again anywhere, no publications, nobody talking about it and no mention of it at the meetings. Made me wonder that what's going on...