Posts by Confusedandangry

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My Introduction - An ex-elder's story of waking up later in life.

by doubtfull1799 in

background:.

my parents got the “truth” while i was in primary school.

i was baptised at 14. i loved school and was extremely studious.

Confusedandangry

Thank you for sharing your story. I also just recently had my 'awakening'. Our stories are very similar. From beginning to end. Except for the fact that I'm a female and obviously could never be an elder or public speaker. My husband is semi active but still believes its 'the truth.' I'd love to read your thesis if you ever wish to share it. This is a very welcoming and supportive site that's helped me get through tough times. Welcome 🌷

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The fact that different states have different laws about child sexual abuse is ludicrous it should be looked at pronto.

by smiddy in

it would go a long way in having a law that prosecutes anybody sexually abusing a child or even an adult that encompasses all states with the same laws the same consequences and the same penalties in the country.. this system that has different laws ,different penaltys , different outcomes depending in what state you live in is ludicrous.. one country should have the same judicial system no matter how many states their are in that country.. this state has mandatory laws this state doesnt and the outcome can be so demoralising for those involved ..

Confusedandangry

Smiddy I agree 100%. Sadly I think the government has many of their own secrets involving their own pedophiles (politicians, presidents, judges, CIA) dating back from the 40's possibly earlier. And many of them were/are protected by the National Security Act. But hopefully after the ARC finishes their investigation, the almighty GB will change their child abuse policy and put the victim FIRST instead of the degenerate. Zero tolerance, let the cops/professionals decide if it was abuse or not. Not some middle age men who have no professional training for those delicate situations.

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Happy Birthday to Me!

by Iown Mylife in

jw
friends

there's a beautiful sky this morning.

it's my birthday, today i'm 64 and look every inch of it, but i appreciate my life and feel fortunate to be cult-free.

also very fortunate to have a purposeful and entertaining existence here in gorgeous north georgia (in the usa).

Confusedandangry

Happy Birthday! 🎉💝🎂 I like your username. I can't wait to own my life as well. Have a wonderful day!

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Just sharing-Ex JW's in Media

by Confusedandangry in

https://youtu.be/qvm1prhnoci.

i'm not sure if anyone has already posted this link or info on deborah frances white.

i just wanted to share for anyone interested in hearing her experience.

Confusedandangry

https://youtu.be/qVM1prHnocI

I'm not sure if anyone has already posted this link or info on Deborah Frances White. I just wanted to share for anyone interested in hearing her experience. She also has some funny podcasts. Now that I'm 'awake' I can see how ridiculous the Jw teachings/doctrines must sound to others. On a side note-I'm hoping someday soon an ex JW who is popular in the media will make a documentary like Leah Reminis on Scientology. They can interview ex-bethelites, pioneers, elders etc. They can't all be lying right? (That's what my husband said about the Scientology series) Even though I doubt many Jdubs will watch as it would be considered apostate material. One can only hope.

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Do you think I should get something for my wife for her birthday?

by schnell in

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friends

my wife is still nominally in, but only because it "makes me (her) happy".

there is nothing academic about her beliefs and when i try, she interprets me as negative.. but then she cusses like a sailor and watches certain movies with me.

her birthday is coming up and it's also right around valentine's day.

Confusedandangry

In my opinion I would definitively get her a gift. Being female I can tell you we LOVE getting gifts. No matter how big or small. It's usually the gesture that counts. And like others have mentioned, wrapping it nicely (if possible) is always a plus. (Bc we hardly get to unwrap gifts-if ever) Whether you want to say it's for her birthday is entirely up to you. Only you know if your wife would feel guilty/bad about it or not. I know she will appreciate the gesture no matter what you do!

Good luck! (Wait, I can say that now right?) ;)

d.

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New here..help greatly appreciated

by Confusedandangry in

hi everyone i don't even know where to begin.

i recently saw leah remini's series on scientology thanks to my husband (semi-active jw) and i felt like my eyes were being opened for the 1st time in my adult life.

i felt shaken almost sick to my stomach with each episode i watched.

Confusedandangry

Thank you soooo very much everyone for your responses. I am sitting here reading every single piece of advice and I really appreciate everyone's effort to help me. It really feels as if everyone here knows almost exactly how I'm feeling and what I'm going through. It's incredible to be able to get support from people I've never met who are willing to take time out of their busy lives to do so. It honestly means so much to me. I have spent every free minute reading the links that some of you have given me and it's been so helpful in making me feel like I'm on the right path. Thank you again everyone from the bottom of my heart. I may post a new thread to get your opinions on other subjects. Good night everyone!

#nolongerconfusedandangry now I am #movingforward

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New here..help greatly appreciated

by Confusedandangry in

hi everyone i don't even know where to begin.

i recently saw leah remini's series on scientology thanks to my husband (semi-active jw) and i felt like my eyes were being opened for the 1st time in my adult life.

i felt shaken almost sick to my stomach with each episode i watched.

Confusedandangry

I wish that were the case @Wingcommander & @Londo111. He has actually seen several Scientology documentaries. One with Louie Theroux which I haven't seen & another one I can't recall. While we were watching Reminis episodes he would make statements like "oh JWs are nothing like that & we are so different than them". I couldn't believe my ears! His blinders are on so tight that he can't see the smallest similarities. What I am going to try is get him to watch a few videos that have helped me. He is pretty open minded to watching almost anything. Thanks for the tips everybody. It's really hard to hold everything in, but like several of you have said, I have to make a plan. Now I wish I could change my username, I don't want to feel angry anymore.

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How to Fade - The Basics!

by The Searcher in

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friends

this really works.

i've already applied the basics of this with one elder who "offered" us a shepherding visit.

we've been totally ignored since!!!

Confusedandangry

Thank you for sharing all these tips. Lucky for me I have moved about 8 times the last 10 yrs, I don't even know where my ' publisher card' is. 😬 The hardest thing 4 me is keeping up the facade for my poor blinded active parents who mean well. Oh and now I have to try & act 'normal' for my husband as well..

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New here..help greatly appreciated

by Confusedandangry in

hi everyone i don't even know where to begin.

i recently saw leah remini's series on scientology thanks to my husband (semi-active jw) and i felt like my eyes were being opened for the 1st time in my adult life.

i felt shaken almost sick to my stomach with each episode i watched.

Confusedandangry

Thank you so very much every single one of you for your kind and encouraging words. I could not reply for over 2 hrs for some reason. I really truly appreciate every single piece of advice I've been given. I will definitely get a start on the books that have been referred to me. I also appreciate those who shared your personal stories with me. I don't feel as alone in this any more.

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New here..help greatly appreciated

by Confusedandangry in

hi everyone i don't even know where to begin.

i recently saw leah remini's series on scientology thanks to my husband (semi-active jw) and i felt like my eyes were being opened for the 1st time in my adult life.

i felt shaken almost sick to my stomach with each episode i watched.

Confusedandangry

Thank you @nicolaou. I still have so much research to do regarding so many topics like Armageddon, Heaven, the resurrection. Now I'm even doubting if I believe in the Bible, sounds crazy even saying it!