Well, I think I am going to say I think there are others in far more need of a shepherding call than my wife and I. Several are fighting life threatening conditions in our cong.
I know of a few older single women that are seriously depressed & lonely and would love a nice call.
Unless my wife WANTS them I'll tactfully decline. If they push the issue then I'll KNOW there is something wrong.
In that case I'll not so tactfully decline