Posts by Darkknight757

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Hello, this is my first post

by noralee in

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hello, this is my first post, i would like to introduce myself and say thank you to every one on this forum, you have been a lifeline to me these last few years.. i had been a jw for 30 years when i walked away a few years ago disgusted by the treatment victims of child abuse, domestic abuse and rape receive from the wtbts.. at first i thought it was a local problem, elders personal opinions, the way they handled the situations, imperfect men etc., until i checked out jehovahs witnesses and child abuse/domestic abuse online.

that's when i realized they had the same modus operandi worldwide.

that led me here, tbuo this forum, and then to crisis of conscience, jw facts, watchtower documents, jw survey, old watchtower literature and cd s, reading a couple of steve hassans books, and more recently exiting the jw cult.. the feelings of shock, betrayal, anger at the wtbts, angry with myself for being so gullible, depression, reflection, loneliness, have taken their toll.

Darkknight757

Welcome. It's great to hear your family is out too! Now you can truly live life!

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Another heavy load :Literature Cart Witnessing

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

jehovah's witnesses standing on a street corner publicly promoting the propaganda of the governing body!another ridiculous form of "forced loyalty" to jehovah.

"dirty work" that the wtbts make witnesses go through.preaching work '' lite''.putting more heavy loads on members while the ''faithful and discreet slave'' preach from warm studios without the humiliation.

what an embarrassment!.

Darkknight757

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Reasons for NOT Returning

by Saved_JW in

i left the watchtower in the winter of 2008. my first year out was by far the most difficult.

i had every intention of returning to the watchtower for the very purpose of being able to speak with my friends and family.

i had already concluded that the teachings were not the "truth" [after reading crisis of conscience] so coming back was more emotional then anything.

Darkknight757

Great post. I especially liked #2. I would imagine many put on an act at the hall but the reality is that they are someone else entirely.

Part of the fun of waking up is self discovery.

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Another heavy load :Literature Cart Witnessing

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

jehovah's witnesses standing on a street corner publicly promoting the propaganda of the governing body!another ridiculous form of "forced loyalty" to jehovah.

"dirty work" that the wtbts make witnesses go through.preaching work '' lite''.putting more heavy loads on members while the ''faithful and discreet slave'' preach from warm studios without the humiliation.

what an embarrassment!.

Darkknight757

@ R&R

The wife and I did the table a few times and we always liked it waaaay more than going d2d.

Of course there are much better and more productive uses for time. If I was to pick the two, apathy witnessing would be the only way to go.

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Another heavy load :Literature Cart Witnessing

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

jehovah's witnesses standing on a street corner publicly promoting the propaganda of the governing body!another ridiculous form of "forced loyalty" to jehovah.

"dirty work" that the wtbts make witnesses go through.preaching work '' lite''.putting more heavy loads on members while the ''faithful and discreet slave'' preach from warm studios without the humiliation.

what an embarrassment!.

Darkknight757

Those at the hall I speak to about apathy witnessing really like it.

The main reason? They don't have to talk to anybody. It's easy time for them.

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Gotta love the ministry. LOL.

by Sabin in

you know how you go to the mid-week meeting & it is all about field service, how you can improve, do more etc.

do you remember how they would say things like..... "you get up brothers & you really don't feel like going out today, you look out of the window & the weathers just not good, then you look in the mirror & you say to yourself, i don't feel so good today.

you know your looking for an excuse not to go cause it's tough to get motivated on your 1 day off.

Darkknight757

Landy hit the nail on the head. If you don't go out you get that dirty look from the other Elders like your diseased or something.

This past weeks watchtower was real funny.

That caption of the boy happily walking down the street with his dad.

Dad probably just told him we are going on break. That's the only reason that kid could possibly be so happy. No kid I ever saw was that happy out in service.

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How do you tell your spouse you no longer believe in God?

by Darkknight757 in

so i was hoping to get some insight on this subject of telling your spouse that you no longer believe in god.

for two people who have been jehovahs witnesses for 20 years together, talking about this seems to be real hard for me.

i still pray with my wife before meals but that's about it.

Darkknight757

Anders Andersen3 hours ago

Good point raised by some indeed, which I forgot to mention: be the best husband you can ever be.

Help your wife with everything, but especially the JW stuff if she wants.

Offer to join her for meetings, or drive her there if needed.

Cook on meeting evening, and clean the house if she is going and you are not.

It's possible your wife needs new reasons to continue loving you, so provide her with as many reasons as you can.

Why? Because (depending on how in your wife is), you are about to destroy her world. You leave her all alone forever in paradise. All alone as a spiritual widow.

She didn't sign up for this shit.

And, if you suddenly don't love God anymore, what about maybe you suddenly leave her???

She will feel insecure and need reassurance. This will be worse if she is born in....

I've always done my best to support our family the best that I can by cooking/cleaning and doing nice things for her and now so more than ever because of the guilt I feel for telling her how I feel about the Wtbts. I think that has been a great help so she doesn't think that I'm abandoning her.

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How do you tell your spouse you no longer believe in God?

by Darkknight757 in

so i was hoping to get some insight on this subject of telling your spouse that you no longer believe in god.

for two people who have been jehovahs witnesses for 20 years together, talking about this seems to be real hard for me.

i still pray with my wife before meals but that's about it.

Darkknight757

Thank you for all the comments.

Basically I told my wife recently that I no longer believe in JW's and I have been slowly showing her why and that has been working very well.

I also told her that I will go to all the meetings with her no problem but not field service. She is also ok with this.

I guess for the time being Ill just keep up the act because I wouldnt want to devastate her by suddenly telling her I don't believe in God.(or at least the God of the bible)

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How do you tell your spouse you no longer believe in God?

by Darkknight757 in

so i was hoping to get some insight on this subject of telling your spouse that you no longer believe in god.

for two people who have been jehovahs witnesses for 20 years together, talking about this seems to be real hard for me.

i still pray with my wife before meals but that's about it.

Darkknight757

So I was hoping to get some insight on this subject of telling your spouse that you no longer believe in God. For two people who have been Jehovahs Witnesses for 20 years together, talking about this seems to be real hard for me. I still pray with my wife before meals but that's about it. I haven't had a personal prayer to God in months because I no longer believe in the existence of God.

Have any of you on the board had this discussion and how did you approach it?

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JWs and New Year's Resolutions

by JW_Rogue in

anyone else find it odd that jws don't do new year's resolutions?

i have never read anything about it in any wt publication.

yet, it is like some unwritten rule.

Darkknight757

It's a good question to be sure. I've always thought that because the New Years festivities were frowned upon that making resolutions would just naturally be also.

anyways according to the j-dubs, New Years is actually September.