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  Help! I need documents about elderly giving

  by notalone in

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  we are facing an immediate need.the society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.we need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money..

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  We were at court today,when this person was presented. We need to make quick arguments to not allowing a Jw to have financial control.
  
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  Help! I need documents about elderly giving

  by notalone in

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  we are facing an immediate need.the society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.we need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money..

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  I am looking for the estate planning documents they take to the elderly and if possible any letter to elders discussing how to handle these matters.
  
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  Help! I need documents about elderly giving

  by notalone in

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  we are facing an immediate need.the society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.we need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money..

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  We are facing an immediate need.The society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.We need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money.
  
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  I want to understand violence

  by Chook in

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  tell me your thoughts ?.

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  Violence, I know it personally and up close. I know it from the eyes of my father as he would beat us mercilessly with a belt or if handy 2by 4. I knew it when I saw him kill a woman. I saw it in the eyes of others, child molesters, abusers of wives children and animals. There is a difference between a philosophical discussion and know it, living with it, surviving it. There is also a difference between societial and personal.Individuals in a society can learn, can change, but a person who crosses that line and moves into the realm of evil there is nothing left but to stand up to it and not also become evil.. It is seen in the eyes when they harm. There is a distance to their eyes and also pleasure,not happiness a kinds of satisfying of a hunger.Sometimes it is loud like rage, but the worst is quiet and slow and there are no reasons or reasoning. Violence is a tool for evil when it feels weak, when it wants to assert control. It is funny, ironic, that this topic is here now. Right now there is an evil person that is making plans to kill my family. He was just released from the mental hospital and subsequently jail and now he has stated I am next. I have protected my children and pets, blocked my windows and doors, not in fear but in a quiet decision to face what may come. I bought a gun and have made the decision that if I have to face evil I will not be it's victim. So that is violence. Violence is a choice. I hope not all have to face.
  
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  Talk like a pirate

  by notalone in

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  so,we joined a cosplay group.today, we all dressed like pirates and raided the krispy kreme and long john silvers.

  we got to sing, act and entertain children.

  everyone is so nice and it's so much fun.we are able to support many different charities.we have also been able to redefine the words 'meeting' and 'convention'.

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  So,we joined a cosplay group.Today, we all dressed like pirates and raided the Krispy Kreme and Long John Silvers. We got to sing, act and entertain children. Everyone is so nice and it's so much fun.We are able to support many different charities.We have also been able to redefine the words 'meeting' and 'convention'.
  
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  here i am

  by notalone in

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  i was a 4th gen born in.my adult children were the 5th.

  my mother was one of the newly'anointed' we have all left.

  i have been lurking since october.i was really too terrified someone would find out who i was and what would happen.well we are out now so here is a part of my story.

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  okay, now you have totally blown my mind.I am just one of so, so many. Those who are leaving and facing family opposition, those who will truly be alone, those who gave up having a family for the 'good news' ,those are the stories that have far more value. These stories are each and every one a story that is continuing. From my heart to each of you, those who post and those who lurk and those who may just be looking for the first time, you are valuable and your story important, even if no one ever hears it. I want you to know deep down YOU are important.
  
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  LifesNotOver - Part Two

  by LifesNotOver in

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  thanks for your welcomes so far.

  just so you know, i have been on here before as "thereishope".

  that was my first username here a month or so ago.

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  Not in my 70's yet but I can't wait. I don't know how the elderly are viewed where you live, but here they have a measure of respect and can get away with almost everything. They just think your a little dotty and will smile and treat you with kindness.. I fully intend to use that to the full. Take yoga and dancing classes.Go to art fairs. I am going to wear a tiara and fuzzy slippers everywhere. State opinions, though not offensive, to anyone I meet. Play practical jokes and if I find myself in a motorized wheelchair get a colorful bicycle flag and a 'general lee' horn ( check out dukes of hazzard) and come up behind peole and say- "Yee Haa!!".
  
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  LifesNotOver - Part Three

  by LifesNotOver in

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  i just lost another long post - husband walked in!

  this is very frustrating, but not your problem, it's mine!.

  i was writing about how i was non-religious my entire life until my mid-fifties when i was nabbed!

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  I have some advise on losing a post, at my husband's suggestion I write my longer posts in word then transfer them.
  
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  How to organize to support people transitioning out of the JWs

  by Zef in

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  i've been watching escaping polygamy (a show where a group of people help people get out of lds polygamist organizations) and have been thinking a lot about how one could organize to assist jws fleeing.. would love to start a discussion on what would be needed, how it would work and the problems one would have to overcome.. brief outline of services to provide.

  1. community: i think most here would agree, that family/friends are a primary reason why people stay in despite no longer believing.

  no way to replace that, but providing a group of supportive ex-jw's to share experiences, hangout, do worldly activities with :) could go a long way to make a former jw transition easier.

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  I think this is a wonderful idea, but as you are aware many witnesses never became professionals, but we may have some personal experience in these areas.( I believe being an ex-witness gives an important prospective) I f there were a few professionals who could oversee things with volunteers in different areas you could probably get more bang for the buck.
  
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  here i am

  by notalone in

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  i was a 4th gen born in.my adult children were the 5th.

  my mother was one of the newly'anointed' we have all left.

  i have been lurking since october.i was really too terrified someone would find out who i was and what would happen.well we are out now so here is a part of my story.

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  Wow, I mean wow. I am humbled and grateful for all of you. When I finally decided to post I had a lot of anxiety, in fact I didn't even tell my family until it was up. Yesterday when we got home and I pulled up this site I didn't know what to expect- this was not it. I read out every post to my family. We were profoundly touched. As my daughter said “ We were always told 'witnesses are the nicest people in the world' but it turns out it's ex-witnesses.” To all of you who in your kindness have reached out , Thank You!

  Now there have been some questions that I want to address so I will do my best while trying to not give out information that would compromise anything.

  1, As to how many in my family have left. None of my husband's or my siblings are associating any longer or are ever going to return. My mother has left. We also have some other relatives who on there own have followed the same course. This would be three generations that are spread out.

  2.As to the perpetrator, a legal course was taken to protect many for a very long time. He also has another pending case as well as is a person of interest in another incident. My daughter will never see him again.

  3.As to my daughter, we continue to get the help she needs. She is now surrounded by people who have shown the value and support her no matter what and that goes a long way.

  4.As to the questions regarding 'the revoking of our implied invitation'. There was not public display. There was no vandalism. In fact the only ones who were involved was the perpetrator and the elder who was violating the restraining order. The police were called. This was near the hall but did not occur on the property. There was no meeting at the time. The elder told us directly that he “was not under man's law.”

  5.As to the elders harassing us., due to the nature of a now in effect court order and their previous actions they are not to contact us or seek information about us.

  6.love cuddly atheists!

  7.JW daughter- I will always have room for another sister.

  I am sorry I didn't get back sooner we had a little trouble with the internet and I am NOT computer savvy.

  I welcome any private messages and I am very experienced with helping those with suicidal thoughts and mental health problems ( though not a professional. I have contributed to a book on bi-polar) . Once again thank you.