JW Matrix, welcome. I am close to 50 and a fourth gen with my children being fifth.Two years ago we were the uber-witnesses. I had read the IT books, the Proclaimers and everything written by the society since the 50's. I would even call out others during the watchtower citing other publications. I truly and deeply believed it all. Now as of this year three gens have left. All of us. I tell you this to say there is always hope if someone is doing things for the right reason. As a mother I am going to give you a little motherly advice. Have a plan and understand why you are making these choices. While in college build friendships, study hard and get a degree. Save money. Tell everyone you are making plans to move where the need is greater (this is not a lie. There is a great need for you to get away if you want to be the best person you can be). Tell them you would rather interact out in the field if they try to push bethel. When you graduate, find a job that is far enough away that no one could easily drive to and no one knows you. Occasionally, go to a congregation not in the same area, so no one can happen upon your home. Then drop off the radar. Call family occasionally so they know you aren't dead, but don't try to keep a relationship. There are a lot of great people out there, go meet them. You were raised in a cult so be careful that you don't find yourself in co-dependent relationships. Educate yourself on healing and always choose to have people in your life that like the real you and inspire you. If you ever need to talk just message my husband or I.
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Anybody else having trouble walking away?
by JW-Matrix inok...so i'm a 19 year old fifth generation jw.
mentality, i've been out of the "truth" since i was 16(woke up after i was baptized ironically), but on the outside i'm a model jw.
my parents are really devoted, my grandparents are super devoted, and so are my ants and uncles.
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Singing
by skimthesurface indespite not wanting to be a jw anymore and not being at meetings for a few months, still have k. songs coming into my head- both from old and new song books - usually whilst working.
anyone else?
how does it make you feel?.
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I had a particular song that I had sung to my daughter as a lullaby. It was a song that made her feel safe. She did not want us to throw it away, that song that was so much a part of her life. So we changed the lyrics and now we have the memories and freedom.
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Help! I need documents about elderly giving
by notalone inwe are facing an immediate need.the society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.we need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money..
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thank you, thank you wifibandit. That is just what I needed.shirlyw and zeb this person is a family member that due to death threats on his part we have a restraining order against . The court is now trying to determine who should be temporary guardian. The ward preference is considered.He has put froward someone he has only known for a couple of years who was a long time bethalite. We have seen notes that suggest he may be planning to give the org a million dollars, so we expect a fight, but he is severely mentally ill and deemed so by the state. I will keep you updated. Thanks again for the quick replies.
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Help! I need documents about elderly giving
by notalone inwe are facing an immediate need.the society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.we need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money..
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We were at court today,when this person was presented. We need to make quick arguments to not allowing a Jw to have financial control.
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Help! I need documents about elderly giving
by notalone inwe are facing an immediate need.the society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.we need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money..
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I am looking for the estate planning documents they take to the elderly and if possible any letter to elders discussing how to handle these matters.
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Help! I need documents about elderly giving
by notalone inwe are facing an immediate need.the society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.we need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money..
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We are facing an immediate need.The society is trying to set up a guardian over a wealthy.We need documents that show that they will try to influence him to get his money.
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Violence, I know it personally and up close. I know it from the eyes of my father as he would beat us mercilessly with a belt or if handy 2by 4. I knew it when I saw him kill a woman. I saw it in the eyes of others, child molesters, abusers of wives children and animals. There is a difference between a philosophical discussion and know it, living with it, surviving it. There is also a difference between societial and personal.Individuals in a society can learn, can change, but a person who crosses that line and moves into the realm of evil there is nothing left but to stand up to it and not also become evil.. It is seen in the eyes when they harm. There is a distance to their eyes and also pleasure,not happiness a kinds of satisfying of a hunger.Sometimes it is loud like rage, but the worst is quiet and slow and there are no reasons or reasoning. Violence is a tool for evil when it feels weak, when it wants to assert control. It is funny, ironic, that this topic is here now. Right now there is an evil person that is making plans to kill my family. He was just released from the mental hospital and subsequently jail and now he has stated I am next. I have protected my children and pets, blocked my windows and doors, not in fear but in a quiet decision to face what may come. I bought a gun and have made the decision that if I have to face evil I will not be it's victim. So that is violence. Violence is a choice. I hope not all have to face.
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Talk like a pirate
by notalone inso,we joined a cosplay group.today, we all dressed like pirates and raided the krispy kreme and long john silvers.
we got to sing, act and entertain children.
everyone is so nice and it's so much fun.we are able to support many different charities.we have also been able to redefine the words 'meeting' and 'convention'.
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So,we joined a cosplay group.Today, we all dressed like pirates and raided the Krispy Kreme and Long John Silvers. We got to sing, act and entertain children. Everyone is so nice and it's so much fun.We are able to support many different charities.We have also been able to redefine the words 'meeting' and 'convention'. -
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here i am
by notalone ini was a 4th gen born in.my adult children were the 5th.
my mother was one of the newly'anointed' we have all left.
i have been lurking since october.i was really too terrified someone would find out who i was and what would happen.well we are out now so here is a part of my story.
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okay, now you have totally blown my mind.I am just one of so, so many. Those who are leaving and facing family opposition, those who will truly be alone, those who gave up having a family for the 'good news' ,those are the stories that have far more value. These stories are each and every one a story that is continuing. From my heart to each of you, those who post and those who lurk and those who may just be looking for the first time, you are valuable and your story important, even if no one ever hears it. I want you to know deep down YOU are important.
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LifesNotOver - Part Two
by LifesNotOver inthanks for your welcomes so far.
just so you know, i have been on here before as "thereishope".
that was my first username here a month or so ago.
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Not in my 70's yet but I can't wait. I don't know how the elderly are viewed where you live, but here they have a measure of respect and can get away with almost everything. They just think your a little dotty and will smile and treat you with kindness.. I fully intend to use that to the full. Take yoga and dancing classes.Go to art fairs. I am going to wear a tiara and fuzzy slippers everywhere. State opinions, though not offensive, to anyone I meet. Play practical jokes and if I find myself in a motorized wheelchair get a colorful bicycle flag and a 'general lee' horn ( check out dukes of hazzard) and come up behind peole and say- "Yee Haa!!".