An additional thought: A sister who refuses to acknowledge or respect her husbands "authority" is no longer exemplary in the congregation. If this behavior persists she could no longer "qualify" to pioneer, or give demonstrations in the Service meeting. If you wanted to push it she could be the one receiving "private reproof" which would also result in loss of commenting privileges. Let her know that her behavior and that of the elder is contributing to your loss of faith. Shift the blame of your family discord to where it belongs, HER.
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by My Name is of No Consequence ini have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.
i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.
i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.
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I have a serious problem
by My Name is of No Consequence ini have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.
i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.
i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.
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MNIONC, I would like to chime in here and give you my perspective as a woman who was an active believing JW married to a fading husband. IMHO your wifes attitude toward you is even more troubling than the elder who is butting in.
#1: When my husband stopped the "family study" I simply studied with the kids MYSELF. Why oh why would she entrust her sons everlasting life (from the JW perspective) to anyone else??????? This smells fishy. What does the elders wife think about this unusual involvement between her husband and your wife and son? Either you or your wife should conduct this study PERIOD. You decide.
#2 You teach people how to treat you. Is this how you want to live? With your wife living independently of you? Why be married then? You don't have to be an ass!@#$ to do this. She is acting like a rebellious teenager. You need to require better of her. State clearly to her what is not acceptable. If she defies you then there will be consequences. Usually tightening the purse strings works well. Whatever you decide will be the consequence, calmly and firmly STICK TO IT. Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Believe me she will respect you so much more. Like a bratty teenager she will fight and yell at first. You must ignore this and leave the room. If she doesn't improve over time, I would seriously question your marriage.
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Sat., March 28th, TV program "48-hours" investigates JW killer, Christian Longo. Focuses on his impersonation of journalist
by AndersonsInfo inhttp://www.cbsnews.com/videos/48-hours-investigates-accused-killer-who-impersonated-journalist/ .
48 hours investigates accused killer who impersonated journalist.
march 27, 2015, 8:20 am|a journalist strikes up an unlikely friendship with an accused killer who took his name -- what happened next would become a book and a film.
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Thanks Barbara,
I vaguely remember this story but didn't know the connection to JWs. Will be sure to watch tonight.
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Can you discredit "wait on jehovah to fix all evil" elder's padded line even told to victims of pedophiles?
by PokerPlayerPhil ini am sick of being told this same crap after decades of suffering at the hands of wicked men and women, how many of you have had to fight these irrational expectations we are supposed to grin and smile when people are actively trying to screw with us and elders say .
good it is that one should wait, even silently, for the salvation of jehovah (lamentations 3:26; titus 2:13).
my life in the organization has not been entirely bad, there were many good people and plenty of jerks like you all experienced in this adventure we call life.
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Good answers so far. Rev 18:4 also comes to mind showing that God holds people responsible for the sins committed by the religion they belong to. IOW community responsibility.
Why would't a JW also be under the same community responsibility?
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Falling asleep at the meeting
by JakeM2012 inthis brings back memories.. https://instagram.com/p/0n8sxirizd/.
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https://instagram.com/p/0n8sxirizd/?taken-by=marcusastanley.
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I remember the "Keynote Address" an hour long manuscript talk given at the DC's (especially during the 60's) where they would drone on and on and on in a rendition of deep Bible prophesy that made absolutely no sense to a kid sitting in the sun in a stadium chair. Even the adults looked like that meerkat. LOL -
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Remember this scripture: kindly yoke, light load, refreshment for your soul...
by Muddy Waters inmatthew 11:28-30 "come to me, all you who are toiling and loaded down, and i will refresh you.
29 take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for i am mild-tempered and lowly in heart, and you will find refreshment for yourselves.
30 for my yoke is kindly, and my load is light.. do you remember this scripture?
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A watcher,
"I let all that guilt tripping peer pressure go in one ear and out the other, and I continue to serve Jehovah happily."
Are you saying that you ignore the admonition of Jehovah's spirit directed organization? If you do, how can Jehovah be happy with YOU?
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Shutting down the Judicial Committee "invite".
by kairos injudicial committee invitation comes, with be there or be square consequences.. ( come or we will df you ).
what are the sure fire, tested and true tactics that will keep the elders off your back?
( for good ).
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Gone for good,
"IF YOU INTERFERE WITH MY LIFE AND FREEDOMS YOU ARE AT GREAT RISK"
EXACTLY!!! Hubby and I have given this a lot of thought. It is in our personal best interests not to be DFed so we simply won't allow it.
Even though elders are often pompous windbags and sometimes bullies they still have to come home to their wives and children. Paint them a clear picture verbally how their actions against you will affect not only them but their families. Some possibilities: Putting a lien on their Real Estate, which ruins a credit rating. Forcing a sale or loan of Real or Personal property to pay for your judgement against them, or a good old fashioned cash payout depleting their savings. Use your imagination. Have them picture their wives shrieking at them because they have to move into a hovel because they took you on. :)
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POLL: Will You Be Attending The Memorial & If You Are---Why?
by minimus ini was just invited.
i thanked my old elder friend and he left.
(i'm not going).
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It seems that the comments here indicate that between 1/3-1/2 are attending for various reasons while not believing a word being said. Interesting........
The WBT$ will brag about the huge attendance.
2011 was my last Memorial and last time I will EVER attend anything JW. I have not MISSED them. LOL
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Attitudes of WT Society Leaders Towards " Rights " of Child Abuse Victims and Elders
by flipper inthese excerpts i'm sharing with you are from the july 1st, 1989 letter from the wt society to the elders and it gives outsiders a good idea of the attitude of the wt society leaders towards child abuse victims and even towards their own appointed elders.
and it shows wt society is first, foremost, and mainly concerned about financial fallout from potential lawsuits.
one short quote was used from this letter on the abc news nightline report about candace conti - but what i'm going to share with you will be other excerpts from that same letter that are just as, or even more revealing.
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Another aspect to consider: The WTBT$ has been threatened and sued by perps who want to keep their names and deeds secret. These criminals know ALL of their rights and exploit them to the full.