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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

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  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  BTW, I'm not asking if you love/loved your spouse. I'm asking first: would you have even met?

  and if you did would there have been an attraction?

  Would you have considered yourself compatible?
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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
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  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  Berrygerry and James, Jws SAVING a marriage??? Hahaha
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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  Cangie, wow the same thing happened to me in 1969. I was only 17 and wanted to end my engagement with my first husband BUT the Watchtower article had just come out about breaking an engagement without fraud involved would be grounds for disfellowshipping. I literally had NO friends or family who weren't JW's and (to top it off) my fiance's father was the congregation servant! I was backed into a corner I didn't know how to escape.
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  What song explains what you have gone through in life?

  by brandnew in

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  this is mine....watch "coolio ft. l.v - gangsta's paradise (official music video)" on youtubehttps://youtu.be/cpgbzylnz7c

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  Karter, you took my song!
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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  Thanks Fink. I'm reflecting at the moment. It's all hypothetical because My parents would NEVER have met nor married if it weren't for the cult so I wouldn't exist. However, I would never have met nor married either of my husbands had we met in a "worldly" setting. So here I am.
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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  Ok, I've had some wine, but I'm curious. Objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?
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  Got in a bad wreck.....uuugh

  by brandnew in

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  just happy to be alive....can barely move ☺.. a girl who just got her license , and a new suv....thought it might be cool to pass the person in front of her....at a curve......on a two way road!!!!!😠😠😠.

  very mad puppy.

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  Glad to know you are out riding but PLEASE be very careful! Of course you are loved, Pups are precious.
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  Got in a bad wreck.....uuugh

  by brandnew in

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  just happy to be alive....can barely move ☺.. a girl who just got her license , and a new suv....thought it might be cool to pass the person in front of her....at a curve......on a two way road!!!!!😠😠😠.

  very mad puppy.

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  Hey pup, been wonderin' how you're feelin'?
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  Latest Letter

  by Coded Logic in

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  dear mentally diseased apostates,.

  we are happy to report to you that we are tired of waiting around for jehovah to do his his whole "armageddon thing" and have instead taken steps to expedite the end ourselves.

  we are very confident as "guardians of the doctrine" that we can accomplish this by dismantling the wtbts and its subsidiaries which will, in turn, force god's hand and bring about the coming of jesus riding on a white horse out of the clouds with a sword - or skulls - or scales - err, whatever .

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  "How long does He think we can keep milking that cow?"

  Till 'ole Bossy udderly gives out and you find an overlapping bovine.
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  Leaving the JWs

  by Hurting in

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  i am 32 years and have recently left the organisation.

  i got baptised in last feb. please excuse any typing errors i have dyslexia.

  it has been so hard this year i have gone through so many ups and downs.

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  3rdgen

  Welcome Hurting, First of all I want to give you a virtual hug (((((hurting))))

  I am so sorry you have suffered so much abuse. When a child is born into an abusive household it becomes your "normal". It's all you know and makes you even more susceptible to cult indoctrination. The person reasons that conditional love is better than no love at all.

  My hubby and I had mothers who falsely complained to all who would listen how difficult and disobedient we were. We have come to understand that it was a ploy for sympathy and attention. (a form of Munchausen by proxy) It worked beautifully too- our families avoided us and still do. Since most loving parents don't talk smack about their own child our mothers were believed.

  Sad to say, these people have no natural affection are are toxic. In order to preserve your own mental health you must set firm boundaries possibly even avoiding them altogether.

  You have come to the right place to receive understanding and support. Take care and keep posting.