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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  Great responses guys!

  Doubtfully, How nice that you two are in sync.

  Brandnew, It's a new day. Beer goggles down, replaced with my usual rose colored ones.

  Fink, Yes the pool of single people at the KH is frequently shallow.

  Freemind, Sorry :(

  Stephanie, I'm glad you found someone so well suited for you. I totally understand the bonus of your boyfriend understanding the crazy of the cult.

  My NIONC, You are realistic. It's a big world outside of the Borg.

  YCNme, Harm-a-geddon one of the greatest motivators in Dubland!

  Fulano, sorry things didn't work out for you and your sibs.

  Scully, It seems it turned out well regardless. Good.

  Xan, What a nice story! I can relate about the aftermath of leaving nearly broke you. I'm am feeling very bruised and broken myself.
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  55

  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  Da,Furious,

  You are probably being modest. :) So glad you both left and are on the same page.
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  55

  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  Ucan't,

  Wow, married 30 years with 2 or 3 small disagreements!?!?! You two should get some kind of prize. Unfortunately, lack of passion could be a factor.
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  55

  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  Cofty,

  That is GREAT! Congrats!

  Old hippy,

  See! There is some good news too. This thread is not about back stabbing anyone. Edited to add : I'm in a reflective mood at the moment and I want to know about the effects of cult influences on people's choices of Who they marry, When, and Why.
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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  2. 
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  3rdgen

  Sherrie,

  "I married because I thought that was [what] I needed in order to complete the process of being dedicated to Jehovah!"

  Not sure I understand. Can you elaborate?
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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  the girl next door,

  I wish you did live next door. lol Getting married to either "legitimately" have sex or out of guilt for already having it is a terrible foundation for marriage. So sorry you and your child suffered abuse but glad you are free now.

  James M,

  Ouch!! Yes, I know some very abusive women.

  Heartsafire,

  Yikes! Duped by your religion then your husband. I'm sorry

  JW facts,

  Yes, you stated one of the points I was trying to make. Religious pressure to take one of the biggest steps in life yet not preparing the followers to make a wise decision about who and when they marry.

  Fade,

  The fact that you would never have met shows me that you had little in common but the religion. When one or both of you leave the religion you can be left wondering "what if" or worse.

  Old hippy,

  YOU responded! lol If you mean you hope everyone would have a great marriage despite the influence of the cult I agree. However, this is supposed to be a safe place to vent , share ideas, and hopefully be of encouragement to each other. Some have left a cult but are not free from the effects of the decisions we made under it's influence.

  Jookbeard,

  I hear ya. Sounds like the marriage is past tense no?
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  Long time lurker, first time poster ...

  by LettMorrisSplaneit in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i finally had the guts to create a profile to be able to post.

  i've been lurking for a few months and have read all your experiences and comments dutifully.

  you have been a great help in my process of waking up from this cult posing as the one true religion.

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  3rdgen

  LMSit, Welcome! Great name, hope to hear more from you soon.
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  55

  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  2. 
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  3rdgen

  BTW, I'm not asking if you love/loved your spouse. I'm asking first: would you have even met?

  and if you did would there have been an attraction?

  Would you have considered yourself compatible?
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  55

  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  Berrygerry and James, Jws SAVING a marriage??? Hahaha
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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  3rdgen

  Cangie, wow the same thing happened to me in 1969. I was only 17 and wanted to end my engagement with my first husband BUT the Watchtower article had just come out about breaking an engagement without fraud involved would be grounds for disfellowshipping. I literally had NO friends or family who weren't JW's and (to top it off) my fiance's father was the congregation servant! I was backed into a corner I didn't know how to escape.