Lou, I gotta tell you that when it was happening it was anything but funny. I loved her with my whole heart and dementia or not, her anger was directed at me and I didn't deserve it. My friend who works in health care was with me at the time. She advised me never to go back for the sake of my mental health. I took her advice. Now I'm trying to do the work to heal.
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46Mom died, How and When I found out
by 3rdgen inhi friends,.
it's been awhile since i've been talkative.
thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.
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Question.
by phats inhi, is there a scripture saying it's okay to beat your wife with a stick no thicker than a mans thumb or is this a myth?
i remember something & have done some serching but need help.
phats.
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3rdgen
The book of Proverbs says it's ok to beat your child with a rod. Wives...not so much..... but the Watchtower has written numerous accounts of wives who were beaten, locked out of their own house in their underwear in the cold, and were praised for staying with the SOB. In one article a woman named Selma (beaten for 17 years by her husband) was told to ask herself what SHE could do to be a BETTER wife, implying maybe she was asking for it. Not ONCE was anyone in these articles told to call the authorities or find a safe house etc.
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Wishing a Wonderful New Year to All of You!
by clarity inat the beginning of this new year, i hope all those who have woken-up & stood up to the control & deception of the watchtower cult, realize what an amazing change you have accomplished.
congratulations.. i hope all who are exposing the wt be encouraged by the massive flood of those waking-up and then working shoulder to shoulder with you.. may this year 2017 bring many good things!..
xox.
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Clarity, Thanks for your well- wishes. Back atcha! May 2017 be a big year of healing and positive changes for ALL of us. CHEERS!
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Mom died, How and When I found out
by 3rdgen inhi friends,.
it's been awhile since i've been talkative.
thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.
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Usual, I don't know if there even WAS a memorial for mom. I never called my aunt back. Why would I put myself through that?
Lisa Rose, Thanks. Poo flinging- hahaha
Cha Ching, LOVE your T-shirt! PM your phone#. Let"s chat.
Steve, true that! Nobody understands like the folks here.
Ding, I'm grateful too!
Still ADD,I too have spent 34 years trying to be the mom I always wanted. The Irony is that my only child says she doesn't respect someone who doesn't have more respect for herself. She is angry that I have often been a doormat. She's getting counseling and I'm working on self-help so hopefully, our relationship will improve. :)
LITS, True, but I also think it attracts and retains the meanies who wouldn't be tolerated in any other setting. Who else but an assh*** wishes and hopes for the violent destruction of nearly the whole human race?!
Jaydee, How sweet ! Thanks
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Mom died, How and When I found out
by 3rdgen inhi friends,.
it's been awhile since i've been talkative.
thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.
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3rdgen
Xan and Millie, hugs to you too! I am doing my best to cultivate a decent amount of self-esteem. Not as easy as it sounds since there are so many other experiences that factor in addition to my upbringing.
2017 is the year I intend to live a more authentic life. I wish the same for all of you.
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Mom died, How and When I found out
by 3rdgen inhi friends,.
it's been awhile since i've been talkative.
thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.
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Sparky, sorry you know what I'm talking about. I know my parents would have been selfish, abusive, narcissists even without their mentor JFR and Watchtower. However, Watchtower added a thick layer of fog Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to their parenting styles.
Nothing says love like telling a small child that naughty Israelite children were stoned to death and that if we lived then SHE would be throwing the first stone. Makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, doesn't it?
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Mom died, How and When I found out
by 3rdgen inhi friends,.
it's been awhile since i've been talkative.
thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.
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Sail Away, Diane, thanks for your kind words. Sorry you have "been there".
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Mom died, How and When I found out
by 3rdgen inhi friends,.
it's been awhile since i've been talkative.
thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.
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Stillin and Freddo, Thanks. In my family, if a relative is not an EXEMPLARY JW he/she is garbage.
Nice to know that all those decades of sitting at the KH have produced such Christ-like disciples. LOL
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Mom died, How and When I found out
by 3rdgen inhi friends,.
it's been awhile since i've been talkative.
thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.
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3rdgen
Hi friends,
It's been awhile since I've been talkative. Thought I'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.
A brief backstory is that I am an only child whose parents were born in JW's. Hubby and I took care of my twice widowed mother until we were bankrupt financially and emotionally. Mom, being the rabid JW she was, was never satisfied with me my entire life. Even pioneering didn't please her because "You need to move where the need is great". Criticism was her only form of communication.
She spent her last years in a rest home 3 hrs from me so she could be with 2 of her siblings there. Visits to see her were emotionally draining. She would try everything she could to guilt me about something.
The last time I saw her she was in her late 90's. When I had to tell her for the umteenth time she couldn't come home with me because we were unable to care for her any longer, she reached into her pants and threw her own excrement at me. I ran out of her room crying and she followed me down the hall and threw two more turds in my direction!
It was then I mourned her loss. I never saw her again and the rest of her family have cut me out of their lives for years. In early Oct. I got a voicemail from mom's SIL:" Your mom passed away. We will be having a memorial service for her on Saturday. If you want more information you can call me." Mind you, she didn't give the time or town this was to occur.
Hubby called the rest home and found out that she had died almost a WEEK EARLIER! and that they and the mortuary people had been told by a few "people from the church" that she had NO children!
I am not nor have ever been DF'd DA'd. I have never said or implied anything "Apostate" to anyone other than this forum. YET....This is the fruitage of Watchtower. Just thought you might find it mildly revealing.
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Aid to Bible Understanding - can you help summarise any useful sections?
by Fernando inrandall watters presents the fascinating backstory of the "aid book", and the brouhaha surrounding it, in this article:.
"the watchtower bible and tract society: the critical years 1975-1997".
so far it seems the project to research and write the "aid to bible understanding" revealed serious doctrinal and institutional flaws that the gb wanted to preserve nonetheless.. it seems what ray franz and his team were learning, and were largely blocked from presenting:.
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Thanks, Sparky. Wow! I forgot that they didn't say bestiality was perverted. Just that it's scripturally condemned. There are countless stories of Bethelites romancing each other as well as the animals on the farm. No wonder they had a hard time calling it adultery!
To think so many of us made life and death decisions based on the whims of these idiots! (((((shudder))))))