Posts by 3rdgen

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Mom died, How and When I found out

by 3rdgen in

hi friends,.

it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

3rdgen

Blondie, Thanks Sis, I wish we could meet in person and have a hugfest. You are a special lady!

Sorry, Cookies, cake, milk, and hugs?? Where the heck have you been all my life???? Hugs to you too.....I'll let you do the baking :)

JRK, Hi Buddy, "No social skills" Boy, do you have that right. After a couple of my family reunions, hubby called them "Barbarians" Haha

OTWO, Peace to you too friend. Happy 2017.

Kairos. hi, "Without natural affection" Where have I heard THAT before? Oh yeah, they read the scripture often at the Kingdumb Hauls and say it applies to the "wicked world". Don't you love irony?

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Mom died, How and When I found out

by 3rdgen in

hi friends,.

it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

3rdgen

Worldling, Hugs to you too!

Scratch, Sorry for the loss of your mother and the JW family drama that was forced on you. I'd like to know more of the story if you would like to pm me.

JW Gone, Love the Family Book and its many revisions reference. God forbid you read the wrong year and your family becomes Unhappy :)

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Mom died, How and When I found out

by 3rdgen in

hi friends,.

it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

Smiddy, thanks for your kind thoughts. As Pete Zahut mentioned, not all JW families are as unloving as mine. THANKFULLY! However, Watchtower fosters a climate where these people are accepted and even promoted.

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Mom died, How and When I found out

by 3rdgen in

hi friends,.

it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

3rdgen

Back for more responses:

Luo, Thanks for the clarification. So sorry for the loss of your daughter and unborn grandson -devastating would be an understatement! My firstborn and only son died at age 21 so I can truly empathize. Glad you are better now.

Pete Z, Bro, what an insightful post! Your MIL is sweet and kind even with dementia because that is her nature. Glad for you and her. Indeed, I spent my life trying to please mom and everyone else in my life including the ultimate Narsissist......Jehovah!

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Mom died, How and When I found out

by 3rdgen in

hi friends,.

it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

3rdgen

Lou, I gotta tell you that when it was happening it was anything but funny. I loved her with my whole heart and dementia or not, her anger was directed at me and I didn't deserve it. My friend who works in health care was with me at the time. She advised me never to go back for the sake of my mental health. I took her advice. Now I'm trying to do the work to heal.

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Question.

by phats in

hi, is there a scripture saying it's okay to beat your wife with a stick no thicker than a mans thumb or is this a myth?

i remember something & have done some serching but need help.

phats.

3rdgen

The book of Proverbs says it's ok to beat your child with a rod. Wives...not so much..... but the Watchtower has written numerous accounts of wives who were beaten, locked out of their own house in their underwear in the cold, and were praised for staying with the SOB. In one article a woman named Selma (beaten for 17 years by her husband) was told to ask herself what SHE could do to be a BETTER wife, implying maybe she was asking for it. Not ONCE was anyone in these articles told to call the authorities or find a safe house etc.

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Wishing a Wonderful New Year to All of You!

by clarity in

jw
friends

at the beginning of this new year, i hope all those who have woken-up & stood up to the control & deception of the watchtower cult, realize what an amazing change you have accomplished.

congratulations.. i hope all who are exposing the wt be encouraged by the massive flood of those waking-up and then working shoulder to shoulder with you.. may this year 2017 bring many good things!..

xox.

3rdgen

Clarity, Thanks for your well- wishes. Back atcha! May 2017 be a big year of healing and positive changes for ALL of us. CHEERS!

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Mom died, How and When I found out

by 3rdgen in

hi friends,.

it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

3rdgen

Usual, I don't know if there even WAS a memorial for mom. I never called my aunt back. Why would I put myself through that?

Lisa Rose, Thanks. Poo flinging- hahaha

Cha Ching, LOVE your T-shirt! PM your phone#. Let"s chat.

Steve, true that! Nobody understands like the folks here.

Ding, I'm grateful too!

Still ADD,I too have spent 34 years trying to be the mom I always wanted. The Irony is that my only child says she doesn't respect someone who doesn't have more respect for herself. She is angry that I have often been a doormat. She's getting counseling and I'm working on self-help so hopefully, our relationship will improve. :)

LITS, True, but I also think it attracts and retains the meanies who wouldn't be tolerated in any other setting. Who else but an assh*** wishes and hopes for the violent destruction of nearly the whole human race?!

Jaydee, How sweet ! Thanks

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Mom died, How and When I found out

by 3rdgen in

hi friends,.

it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

3rdgen

Xan and Millie, hugs to you too! I am doing my best to cultivate a decent amount of self-esteem. Not as easy as it sounds since there are so many other experiences that factor in addition to my upbringing.

2017 is the year I intend to live a more authentic life. I wish the same for all of you.

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Mom died, How and When I found out

by 3rdgen in

hi friends,.

it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

3rdgen

Sparky, sorry you know what I'm talking about. I know my parents would have been selfish, abusive, narcissists even without their mentor JFR and Watchtower. However, Watchtower added a thick layer of fog Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to their parenting styles.

Nothing says love like telling a small child that naughty Israelite children were stoned to death and that if we lived then SHE would be throwing the first stone. Makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, doesn't it?