is someone in your congregation confused?
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Billy I missed this until today. You kill me! What if there becomes a shortage of these anoinment neutralizers?
I missed this the first time around. Billy you are the bomb! Wanna come to our house for beer, pizza, and charades? You can act out the part of the video on masterbation.
so there was this great gang of us, from south london, manchester and wolverhampton, went to socialise with a group in fishguard in wales.. amongst the conversations one of the single sisters stated, "i could never marry anybody who used to be in the world".. i guess a lifetime of knocking on doors had given her the impression there couldnt possibly be a convert in her midst, never mind later alone with her in her mgb.. so whats with this, did you think we had rat scabies or were possesed by demons or something?.
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I agree that "hotness" trumps any stigma of being either too inexperienced or visa versa. Pretty people have no trouble getting the opposite sex to date them.
As far as attitude goes I've noticed that assh***s are assh***s . Zeal is zeal. I know of zealous converts who looked down on the born ins as if they were Esau (sp?) not appriciating our spiritual gifts. But they were zealous "worldly people too. Workaholics and worse .OTOH, people who were laid back before converting tend to be laid back afterward. Its a personality thing apart from the cult.
i spoke to a friend of mine about this not too long ago.. we are "of a certain age".. the subject came up somehow.. .
i'll be watching a tv commercial or i'll see some people in a park or a simple passing thought will suddenly induce a profound.
sense of---well, how to describe it?
Terry, Many good thoughts so far. I'd like to add that for several months after my surgery last winter I had bouts of crying for no appearent reason as well.
My hubby would try to help me "reframe" by pointing out all the positives in our life compared to a few years ago-to no avail. I think 2 things were in play for me at this time. 1: A reaction to coming off the anesthiesa and pain meds. 2. After the adrenaline of the phyisical pain and emotional anxiety of illness had subsided I released the emotions that had pent up during the crisis. Maybe this is the case for you.
I'll give you an example of my theory: I have a relative who had two babys (only 16mos apart) who were born with a rare disease similar to muscular dystrophy but advanced faster and more severe. She cared for them at home (along with 2 other healthy young children) as long as she could but at about age two they had to be hospatilized. For 7 and 3 years respectivly she watched them both suffer terribly and die. All during the ordeal she remained an active JW and devoted wife and mother. However, AFTER the crisis she had a complete nervous breakdown with non-stop crying. While we HAVE to be strong we usually are. When it is safe to unravel then we do.
I have a hunch your crying will lessen over the next few months as you gain your physical strength and purge the residue from the meds and stress
my 2 cents
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have been in the austin area for a little over a week in the midst of trying to start over.
i was df'd recently after being in the truth my entire life.
everyone has abandoned me, and i am lost out here.
Ok, I just read your last post. I'm so sorry you are in such dire straights. Now that you have left you will have to save up to get home. Find a soup kitchen NOW. Find a homeless shelter. There are also minesters and churches who actually help the needy on the spot. Salvation Army will point you to a meal. You can't think if you are hungry. Please call.
have been in the austin area for a little over a week in the midst of trying to start over.
i was df'd recently after being in the truth my entire life.
everyone has abandoned me, and i am lost out here.
Hargitay, so sorry you were ambushed and betrayed by your own wife and family. Its bad enough to go through being wrongfully DFed let alone your situation. Deperssion and helplessness is understandable but please don't let the sadness cloud your thinking. 1st: You DO have value and rights. DFing even for apostacy is not necessarily "spiritual endangerment" which is grounds for separation in dubland. Why? Because IF you do not try to influence her to your thinking or interfere with any of her "Theotractic activites" you are not a danger to her "spirituality".
2ond: You are indeed the head of the house in dubland. Go home. She has no authority to order you to leave. Don't enable this bad behavior. Your children have a right to easy access to their father. Call the police if you need an escourt back into your house.
3rd: After you return, if she chooses to leave, don't enable her. Insist on your financial and parental rights and go to the local courthouse. They have facilitators who help people who can't afford an attorney to file for separation. Do NOT file first if it eventually comes to divorce. If SHE chooses to file, she will NOT be allowed to remarry in Dubbie land unless you admit to porneia. DON"T EVER ADMIT TO IT!!! She will never be free to remarry (even if she does the deed) because you will say you forgive her. She will be single and alone or remarried and disfellowshipped.
4: VERY IMPORTANT: Most US attorneys will consult with a prospective client for approx. 20 min free of charge to determine if they want to take the case. Find a recommended divorce attorney and find out your rights. Some might accept a contingency if they know there are assets.
Did you have a job where you were living before? Don't quit it if you did. Like others have said, you did nothing wrong don't live like you did. Set the example for your kids that you are kind, loving, and STAYING in their lives and YOU did nothing wrong. Do not allow yourself to be bullied this way. We are pulling for you. We care. We, or those we know have been through what you are going through. PM me if you like. Take care, You can get through this.
this advert appears every time i click on the active topics link.
please make it stop.... .
I'll bet the men are signing up right and left!
this is the sunday public address title from the 2012/2013 circuit assembly program.. .
i also found it here:.
-- w54 9/15 p.556 make wise use of the remaining time.
I know I kept "in fear and expectation of it" FAR TOO LONG!
this weekend was the convention for the southern san francisco bay area.
it was held at the santa clara convention center in the silicon valley http://www.santaclara.org/conventioncenter/ which is an improvement over the old s.f.
cow palace which is still used..just not as much.
Jaymes, Exellent blog. You said the facts in a nutshell.
any experiences?.
My first husband and I moved to a town that only had one Eng. congregation. It soon became appearent that we were NOT welcome and the Elders were particulary mean and self-rightous. We hated the atmosphere there but were stuck for three years until we were able to move out of the area. Even when I was still in I wouldn't visit that hall if I had a gun to my head!
