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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  3rdgen

  MNIONC, I did not mean to insult you. I sincerely want things to go well for your family. I misspoke when I said you did not tell us he was your stepson. I meant to say you didn't tell us until page 4 and on your 8th reply. I understand why you left it out but not having that fact affected our advice some.

  You also said there is more to the story but you are afraid there might be too many identifiers and chose not to tell us. That's wise in your situation but there might be something relevant that we would need to know in order to make an informed reply. My point is it is hard to give sound advice without knowing all of the facts.

  Hopefully, you will be able to use what works for you and disregard the rest.
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  "BRAZEN CONDUCT" The current way of enforcing disciplinary action.

  by stuckinarut2 in

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  the penalty of this charge??

  yes, disfellowshipping.. bad association?

  excessive time at work?

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  3rdgen

  Thanks Morpheus, Why do you think they changed the term? Or do they still use "walking disorderly" too?
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  "BRAZEN CONDUCT" The current way of enforcing disciplinary action.

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the penalty of this charge??

  yes, disfellowshipping.. bad association?

  excessive time at work?

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  3rdgen

  Isn't this a replacement term for the less harsh "walking disorderly"? which is a catchall phrase used to describe anything the elders don't like.
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  3rdgen

  Chris H, I see your point. Playing the victim card can be VERY effective, especially if she is attractive. She will have the elders backing if she is able to sell the idea that he is endangering her "spirituality". This, in turn, could be part of a plan to separate and remain in "good standing".

  We don't have all of the facts either. MNIONC didn't even tell us that it is his stepson, yet that fact is relevant. I like what Freesoul said too.
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  3rdgen

  Chris H, If you carefully read my first post you'll see that the advice I give has no bearing on whether he is a witness or not. The second post is letting her know that she and the elder are stumbling him. The Bible who she claims to follow directs wives to be in subjection regardless if the husband believes or not. He needs to remind her of that as well as take over the boys study.

  If he chooses not to do this then he is letting the tail wag the dog.
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  Crisis of Conscience

  by WasOnceBlind in

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  wow, what a great book.

  i started reading it today and have not been able stop.

  im already 80 pages in!

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  3rdgen

  We told you so! LOL Once I gave myself permission to read that book I too, couldn't put it down. By chapter 3 I was mentally out. Enjoy your future freedom!
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  3rdgen

  An additional thought: A sister who refuses to acknowledge or respect her husbands "authority" is no longer exemplary in the congregation. If this behavior persists she could no longer "qualify" to pioneer, or give demonstrations in the Service meeting. If you wanted to push it she could be the one receiving "private reproof" which would also result in loss of commenting privileges. Let her know that her behavior and that of the elder is contributing to your loss of faith. Shift the blame of your family discord to where it belongs, HER.
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  3rdgen

  MNIONC, I would like to chime in here and give you my perspective as a woman who was an active believing JW married to a fading husband. IMHO your wifes attitude toward you is even more troubling than the elder who is butting in.

  #1: When my husband stopped the "family study" I simply studied with the kids MYSELF. Why oh why would she entrust her sons everlasting life (from the JW perspective) to anyone else??????? This smells fishy. What does the elders wife think about this unusual involvement between her husband and your wife and son? Either you or your wife should conduct this study PERIOD. You decide.

  #2 You teach people how to treat you. Is this how you want to live? With your wife living independently of you? Why be married then? You don't have to be an ass!@#$ to do this. She is acting like a rebellious teenager. You need to require better of her. State clearly to her what is not acceptable. If she defies you then there will be consequences. Usually tightening the purse strings works well. Whatever you decide will be the consequence, calmly and firmly STICK TO IT. Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Believe me she will respect you so much more. Like a bratty teenager she will fight and yell at first. You must ignore this and leave the room. If she doesn't improve over time, I would seriously question your marriage.
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  Sat., March 28th, TV program "48-hours" investigates JW killer, Christian Longo. Focuses on his impersonation of journalist

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  http://www.cbsnews.com/videos/48-hours-investigates-accused-killer-who-impersonated-journalist/ .

  48 hours investigates accused killer who impersonated journalist.

  march 27, 2015, 8:20 am|a journalist strikes up an unlikely friendship with an accused killer who took his name -- what happened next would become a book and a film.

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  3rdgen

  Thanks Barbara,

  I vaguely remember this story but didn't know the connection to JWs. Will be sure to watch tonight.
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  So you are a ex-JW because . . . ?

  by Slave4_38y in

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  3rdgen

  Every color on the chart except blue.