Posts by Roberta804

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My 66th birthday is today!!

by Terry in

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once i was little boy in fort worth, texas living with my maw maw and paw paw and mommy.. then, i was an 18 year old 6'4'' skinny 165lb religious nut being dipped in a baptismal during a local assembly.. suddenly, i was 20 and listening to a jail cell door clang behind me as a conscientious objector.. wow!

23 years old and put on parole until my 6 years sentence was ended!

i got married to a nice jw girl and had 3 kids!.

Roberta804

Happy and Health 66th Birthday!!!

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just support please

by Roberta804 in

i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

Roberta804

Digderidoo,

I would rather be seen as a mean aunt, cousin or whatever than have them come into my home only to have to throw them out for their behavior. I have to take care of myself too as well as keeping the house clam and peacefull for mom. I have not held her friends from her, those who I know who can park their religion at the door, relitives and JW friends of hers, are welcomed and have visited her. But those, I KNOW are unable to comply by my rules, in my house, over the past 8 years I have cared for mom, those who I have opened my front door for and they walk past me like I am not even there, no, I can not, and will not welcome them in my house again.

You may be coming from the stance that they have to avoid me because of the religion...... No. I come from the view point that they are human beings first, and are responsible personally for their behavior. They do have a choice.

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just support please

by Roberta804 in

i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

Roberta804

If I could give every single one of you a bear hug I would..... Hugs.

Here is an update: She is resting peacefully, using morphine and Ativan. She recognizes me, and she is scared, thus the ativan. Hospice nurse says she has about 3 or 4 days if that.

My niece and nephew (both ex-Jws) came Monday and Tuesday. They were great... and let me add this... not having to tippy toe around all my JW relatives was a very good decision. I and they, could just be ourselves. She rallied a bit yesterday and they used the opportunity to have speak by phone (or listen) to the JW side of our family. Thehery were great gatekeepers keeping conversations nutural.

Later on Tuesday evening Brother "I need your time" called wanting to speak with my mom. "She is on her death bed and I am allowing only certain visitors to see her" I replied. He came back and said, "Can I see her, talk with her?", "No you can't, just family" "Well I understand that even some family can't see her", he retorted. "Your right, that is my call". Boundries, boundries. But that wasn't all..... "Do you have any arrangments made, where will her funeral be?". "My parents prearranged their funerals 20 years ago and mom's plans do not involve you" (you'd think he would get the hint by now) Demandingly, "Well where is her funeral going to be? You need someone to give a talk!" My, oh my, he just keeps stepping in it. "No she does not need anyone to give a "talk', I have picked out who will give a ulagy (sp) " "Who?", "None of your business, but thank you for your interest, good by"

Bless my parents who pre-arranged their funerals 800 miles from here where my father grew up.

You guys are keeping me strong........ and as a result this most difficult time is a peaceful time for mom AND me. Bless all of you.

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I miss the in depth topics about WTS false teachings....

by wallsofjericho in

are we bored with the wts now?

have we heard it all already?.

or is the wts just not printing "deep" articles anymore?

Roberta804

Blues,

your not insane. The printing company has been spiting out 3 grade material for a long long time.

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just support please

by Roberta804 in

i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

Roberta804

It is so nice to sit down at a quiet time to read all of your wonderful posts. Mom is resting quietly now, if she makes it a week I would be very surprised. Yesterday she opened her eyes a wee bit and looked out the window at our cold overcast weather. "Clouds of people" she kept saying. Whom am I to say what she is or not experiencing.

She has been on hospice for 4 months now and they have indeed been angels. I feel blessed to be the one to see her to the other side.

My neice and nephew just got here, I am signing off. Update later

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just support please

by Roberta804 in

i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

Roberta804

I just read the latest posts..... all of you are so nice.... I wish we all lived close enough to visit each other. When I look back at my life on this board, and I mean way back on the old board (Pots) was my screen name back then, no where have I felt such a connection since before I left the borg. You all know where I am coming from, like we all grew up in the same family, so I don't have to overly explain myself. Who else would understand my need for boundries without a 10 page thesis on what life is like without them?

The hospice nurse just left. Mom was having excess secretions making her gag and cough. With her expertise she got her symptoms under control and she is resting quietly now.

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Just dropped my Mom off at the Kingdom Hall...

by Jewel in

we live about half an hour from the kingdom hall.

we had some snow last night and the roads are a little "iffy".

i didn't want my 83 yo mother driving on her own so i brought her in and dropped her off.

Roberta804

Oh Jewel,

You are doing right by your mom. Just because she can't respect you does not mean you cannot respect her. I have toted my mom back and forth to her KH for the past 8 years. I would even wheel her in, take off her coat, get her settled and walk out. Now that she lays dying I am happy that I had the chance to be myself in my mother's presence and she has learned respect though me. At the beginning we were sort of like the "Odd Couple", she couldn't stop preaching guilt trips and it was so difficult for me to maintain the boundries between us. Thought i was going to go mad.

Sometime in the future you will be where I am now. The Lord is truly giving you a second chance to make things right (with you) so you can say goodby in peace.

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just support please

by Roberta804 in

i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

Roberta804

This is so hard guys....harder than I ever expected. She is delusional and not responsive and all I can do is hold her hand. She keeps saying she sees a "cloud of people". I hate the noise the oxygen machine makes, I can hardly hear her above it. Please stay with me guys, your all I got right now. I really appreciate your support.

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just support please

by Roberta804 in

i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

Roberta804

I have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days. In one way I feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me. Mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on Christmas day. In other ways I hate to feel that I am being rude to others. She may live only a week if that.

Over the past few days I have had to take a hard look at what I can and can not handle in my own home. 3 JW sisters came to visit mom yesterday. They asked if they could visit her. I did like that they asked permission instead of barging in and announcing they wanted to see her. Respect goes a long way with me. However I was worried about any guilt trips they would leave in their wake as they usually do. "Come on in, just park your religion at the door". They stopped in their tracks and so I explained that their visit was to be comforting, nothing about attending meetings "when" she gets well, or encouraging her to use the call-in phone meeting. They agreed and complied. She had a nice visit.

On the other hand are all of my cousins, neices and nephews who in the past, not only did they not show me any respect, they went out of their way to make sure I knew I wasn't welcomed. If they called to talk with mom and I answered the phone, they could not even give me a proper salutation. "Is Grandma there" is all I would hear. So friends I made the decision that if they cannot be respectful of me, why in the world would I invite them into my home? I would be insane to let those who I KNOW would treat me disrepectfully into my home at the time I am losing my mother. So I called the only two of my family who are also ex-JW, who I have developed a relationship with, who do understand and respect me. They are flying in tomarrow. I then got two angry calls from those described as above. They tried to argue that they have never been disrespectivfull, and I was being overly mean keeping them from seeing their dying grandma. They said more words to me yesterday than they have said in the past 28 years. Sad to say there was not an appology in any of those words. Oh and get this: One of them said I am making this a religious issue .

So my friends I need your support though these difficult days. And oh Aunt Connie? I would love to hear from you!

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One experience in our old Kingdom Hall that still HAUNTS me

by Newly Enlightened in

the following is a true experience and my daughter gojira101 will verify that it happened to her.

an experience from our family's past that still haunts me and started my questioning whether this is the true organization of god or not.. my daughter, who has always been a good kid, never gave us any problems [she's an adult now] started regular pioneering.

within a few weeks of her starting, she fell on a steep hill and tore open her knee and had to have several stitches.

Roberta804

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