Dansk, I am sorry to get to this thread so late, kinda been out of the loop for a while. I am truely sorry for the cancer that has stricken you. I am also glad to see the upbeat attitude you have displayed. Getting your body healthy, and in a positive mode, is very important. Whithout the fight your body can put up mentally and physically, any treatment is a waste.
I was sad to see though, that you turned down chemo treatment. I do know alot about this. I agree with the point you made about people being different, everyone responds to treatment differently. There are things that you can and are doing to help with chemo. I'll give you a personal example:
When I was 18, my mother died from brain cancer. It was very hard on her, and on us. When the doctor told her about chemo, she was visibly shaken. She knew she didn't have long with the type of cancer she had(about a year) with chemo treatment. She would only have a couple of months without the chemo treatment. The doctor did explain one critical point in chemo treatment. The body must be in the best shape possible. There are alot of patients who take chemo treatment and do nothing for there bodies in preperation for it. A great many fail because they do not prepair themselves. My mothers doctor, wanted her to prepair. She did as the doctor asked, she ate right, exercised, put herself in a positive mode of thinking. True, she was drained by the chemo, but if she hadn't prepaired herself, she would have faired much worse. The recovery time she had was cut in half(according to statistics). After 7 months, the cancer became more aggressive. The doctors told her they could do chemo again, but her quality of life would be less than if she didn't. She got a year and a half from chemo. It's true, she did die, but the spread was inevitable. Those last few months I had with her, I will cherish forever. I almost cry at the thought of not having those precious few months with her if she hadn't taken chemo. She had only one thought during her struggle with cancer, she wanted as much time as she could with us, and she was going to fight as much as she could.
I do know the doctors may seem to be pushy. All they want is to extend your life for the ones you love. Yes there are exceptions in cancer remission/cure, but when you look at the odds without chemo, you might as well play the lottery.
Many may think I am being harsh and unfeeling, quite the contrary. I do know the feeling cancer gives to a family. Sometimes, the only feeling the family has, is desperation. You have a lovely wife, two daughters who may yet see things for what the org is. When that time comes for them, I'm sure you would want to be around. I'm also sure, your family would like know that you did everything you could to be and stay with them.
There are a great many things I still regret with my mothers death. Some of them could have been lessened, if someone would have given some loving advice.
I truely wish you would reconsider the chemo treatment.