Posts by mauiboy

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How does TTATT affect your marriage??

by Crazyguy in

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just wondering of those of you that have left or are fading and have married ones still in, how is it going, is there hope or is the marriage doomed?

wondering what are the percentages.

i'm fading fast but wife is zealous as ever and we don't talk spiritual things at all anymore.

mauiboy

For the most part my experience sounds similar to --sd-7......When I quit almost 6 years ago life became hell for over 2 years....my 'christian' JW wife screamed "I hate you" in tantrums that would last from a few minutes to a few days for an almost 2 1/2 year period. I did my best not to retaliate in kind, but I gave in a few times. I think at one point I had a bit of a nervous breakdown.....I was sleeping alone; she had moved into another room......and woke up jerking around violently in my bed; I could not control my body. Quite scary....when I was finally able to stand I went to the room where she was sleeping and started shaking her hard. Her head was wagging back and forth and I realized I could hurt (maybe worse) her without much more effort. so I collected myself and went outside. At 1 oclock A.M. pacing the driveway for nearly 2 hours I had to tell her to get out of my face, stay away .... I didn't want to hurt her. I wondered how many neighbors picked up on the commotion. Life has never been the same. I have gone thru several stages of feelings toward her.....shock, dislike, vehemnet dislike, hatred, and now apathy. I don't love her anymore. We haven't been intimate or had sex for nearly a year I'm guessing. I care for her welfare, but not much beyond that....sort of like caring for a pet......not wishing any harm on it but not crazy about it either. I have wondered if she is having an affair, but if she is: good for her. I am contemplating the same for me. And thats the hard part of apathy....if there is an emotion, there is something to work with. Apathy offers nothing. But I have too much invested in this......45+ years, 2 adult kids, 5 g-kids, 3 g-g-kids, a paid-off house, no bills, 4 streams of income, cars paid for, etc.,etc........too much to walk away from or to be willing to give a huge chunk away to have .....what??...peace? Maybe, I don't know. So, I too live with an elephant in the room.

I have no advice for you. You have to do whats in your heart, but be prepared for the long haul. It usually isn't easy.

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If you had a JC and spilled your "Personal Beans" did you really think it stayed confidential?

by LoisLane looking for Superman in

we all "know" jc's are suppose to be private....so that the uniniated, innocent, can speak freely.

i say, uninitiated, because once you spill your guts and the elders use your embarassing, heart wrenching story as a lead off at their next get together/party, for a laugh, you have been initiated into your local brothers hall of fame.. so, are those jc's, really private?.

can you really talk privately, about your love of violent video games, masterbation, oral sex, shop lifting, doing drugs, or "doing" anything or anybody, and expect total confidentiality in the watch tower society elder world?.

mauiboy

Designs, you are absolutely right. I've been there on all phases of judicial committees. Once as an 'offender', once as a witness, and 'way too many times as an elder.....all-in-all: What a crock of horse shit. I've heard 'elders' tell married couples not to discuss an adulterous event once they left that committee meeting; that it was never to be mentioned between them again. After the committee decided what action to take,it was over. What the hell kind of rotten advice is that??? Then one of the elders went home and told his wife the whole thing, and what a bunch of broken hearts that action created. All things considered, If you're gullible enough to believe you can trust 'em, then you get what you deserve.

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Mother Petitions President Obama to Combat Organizational Child Sexual Abuse. Will you sign Petition?

by Sol Reform in

text of the white house petition .

this petition reads:.

we petition the obama administration to establish a national commission to investigate organizational child sexual abuse and identify federal responses.. .

mauiboy

Done, and I'm putting together an email to send it to all contacts I have. We all should

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Associated Press article in our local paper "The Maui News"

by mauiboy in

wow!

good morning news....the article is good, but look at the 1st comment made and posted as you scroll down.

here's the link:.

mauiboy

WOW!! Thanks for making it sooooo ez to follow......I really need to learn more tech stuff. Mahalo, Mauiboy

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Associated Press article in our local paper "The Maui News"

by mauiboy in

wow!

good morning news....the article is good, but look at the 1st comment made and posted as you scroll down.

here's the link:.

mauiboy

Wow! Good morning news....the article is good, but look at the 1st comment made and posted as you scroll down. here's the link:

bigstory.ap.org/search/site/awareness%2520enforcement%2520help%2520reduce%2520child%2520sex%2520abuse

Maybe we can spread thus around to all our friends and acqauintance.....it's an easy way to make them aware without alienating/incriminating ourselves any more than neccesary.

It's coming: The perfect Storm is forming on the horizon......

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How Would "Who Is Candace Conti" Bumper-stickers go over?

by ÁrbolesdeArabia in

you think if i had a few hundred made up and passed them out, would we throw some attention in the "court of public opinion" on this topic?.

i am confounded how many jws don't know anything about the pedophile issues plaguing the watchtower society!

is this a stupid idea or waste of money?

mauiboy

OK....I've been out for years so am not 'up' on lingo changes. COBE?? "curcuit overseer bad elder"?

When someone makes those kind of threats, it would cause me to wonder if he was in on the pedophilia too? as far as your idea goes....try anything. Start small and go bigger if it doesn't work.

My idea was to go to the media....I have a thread here about getting in touch with ABC's 20/20. Eventually if enough of us keep trying, it will catch some big-wigs eye and become an atomic issue.

go for it, try anything......make some noise.

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How Would "Who Is Candace Conti" Bumper-stickers go over?

by ÁrbolesdeArabia in

you think if i had a few hundred made up and passed them out, would we throw some attention in the "court of public opinion" on this topic?.

i am confounded how many jws don't know anything about the pedophile issues plaguing the watchtower society!

is this a stupid idea or waste of money?

mauiboy

I had a similar idea of putting placards on bulletin boards around town. Also printing out some 1/2 page handouts for dubs who do street work. I suppose craigslist and any free bulletin type publications that offer space for a nominal fee (or free). Maybe an ad in the personals, or announcements "Alert to Jehovah's Witnesses: google or youtube 'Candace Conti' for timely information." Anything / something to turn attention to it. Bumper stickers might work but some sort of reference should be included about where to go for info. "got Candace Conti?? You tube has"......I dunno just an idea.

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I've emailed ABC 20/20

by mauiboy in

it was so easy i should have done it long ago....i went to www.abc.com, filled in the search bar with "20/20" and then clicked on 'email us'.

my request was simple "please do an expose' on j.w.

's and how they hide and protect pedophiles and then require those same pedophiles to go into public neighborhoods....putting them in contact with innocents, while not even being known amongst their own congregation members for the vile persons they are".. if enough of us make similar requests.....maybe,just maybe, we'll get our request.

mauiboy

There y'go, our Aussie friends:

ABC.com.au

c'mon then, Do It!!!

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I've emailed ABC 20/20

by mauiboy in

it was so easy i should have done it long ago....i went to www.abc.com, filled in the search bar with "20/20" and then clicked on 'email us'.

my request was simple "please do an expose' on j.w.

's and how they hide and protect pedophiles and then require those same pedophiles to go into public neighborhoods....putting them in contact with innocents, while not even being known amongst their own congregation members for the vile persons they are".. if enough of us make similar requests.....maybe,just maybe, we'll get our request.

mauiboy

I doubt if the country of origin matters that much.....even a letter from a foreign country might help mone ABC U.S.A. to consider doing a story......the more mail they get the better. Use the N.Y. address to write a letter, then follow up with a story idea to ABC in your homeland. We just need to make a lot of noise. I have my 19 pages of evidence packed up and ready to go to the post office this A.M. DON'T PUT IT OFF!! It isn't that hard to do. And think of the help in stopping the pedophilia. If it protects one child, its worth it... If it might work We can't do much as individuals, but as a group we may get some attention for the issue.

sherilynn

by mauiboy in

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friends

check your pm's..........hmmmm, that looks suspicously like "check your pms".............never thought of it that way before.

lol.

anyway, check your mail..

mauiboy

Check your PM's..........hmmmm, that looks suspicously like "Check your PMs".............never thought of it that way before. LOL. Anyway, check your mail.