I thought long and hard before I wrote this . But there are some things that have been bothering me, so I'm going to them off my chest. I'm sure this will p*ss you off,so be it.
I know it's hard being a single parent, and working all the time. The thing is though, you are a PARENT. I remember last year, when the kids got out of school, Nikki and Emanuel forget their report cards over here. Every single grading term had long comments regarding their work ( or lack of) and the teacher practically begging you to come in for a conference. Every single time you replied "i can't make them" do this or that.. usually homework. What was even worse was that you never even for a conference.. it was over a month before they even took their report cards home and you never even bothered to find out where they were. They both failed if i recall correctly.
Bottom line, I feel very sorry for your children Shari. They have a mother who would rather spend her time on a computer than spend time with them. Who would rather buy them cigarette's than take the time to explain that just because you do it doesn't make it right. I've heard you talk about Randy neglecting her daughter and living online, well let me tell you something Shari, you are every bit as bad as Randy. Your children are neglected. I know you're gonna say.. well when you and Jim weren't together you stayed on the computer all the time.. well let me reply to that: yeah i spent way more time on the computer than i do now, but when my son was home with me, I made sure he had clean clothes, food to eat, and would take him to the park with his friends, go pick up his friends to spend the night with him etc. I actually spoke to my child.. when he needed something I didn't respond 2 hours later. I also knew where my child was, and knew when he was going to return home. I actually got off my ass and went to check on him when he played with the neighbor next door. The same way i do now, it's called being a parent. You need a serious reality check.
I've heard you say many times that your mom did this or your mom did that.. well you are not your mother; your mother being a slack parent is no excuse for you to be one.
I was so upset with you at christmas, i didn't even tell you but i'm going to now. Your children had already spent a week at your sisters house, and you didn't even go pick them up to spend christmas with you. Instead you chose to spend Christmas night with your friends on the computer instead of your own children. That is beyond slack Shari, it is down right pathetic. While i'm on the subject, I've read your comments on the JW board time to time.. and saw how you make those people belive you are this wonderful mother... i just wish you were the mother you pretend to be online.. offline.
You have a serious problem Shari, you are addicted to the interent, and your children suffer for it. How would it make you feel to know that your mother would rather spend time in front of a box, than spend time with you?
Do you even realize that in the dead of winter your daughter was walking around with wet hair, shorts, and a tank top on? Of course you didn't, you were on the damn computer while I had her in my bathroom blow drying her hair.
What beats all is that you are going to send them away for a year.. you said they want to go, hell I'd want to go to if my own mother didn't want me around. If you are an example of your own mother's child rearing, then aren't going to be any better off. The only person who will gain from it is you, you won't have deal with your "mistakes" seeing as you said you never really wanted them to begin with (even went as far as to tell them so), and you make it so painfully obvious.. to them and every one else around you. How about be a mother for a change, and not just call yourself one.
Your kids nor I can talk to you in real life, so I'm coming to your world online.
Your neighbor.. in the real world.
