Posts by tornapart

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i'm leaving this site forever

by stan livedeath in

as the title says--i'm out of here for good.. the site is full of atheists, communists, 7th day adventists, creationists, believers, deceivers, receivers, football supporters,.

dodgy types, cantleave---and assorted wankers.. so no place for me--because i'm none of the above so dont fit in.

so--this is goodbye forever my friends--its been almost average knowing you.

LifesNotOver - Part Four

by LifesNotOver in

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so ... i don't know if any of this is even of interest any more, i know i'm getting kinda bored with it :) so many other more interesting stories out there.

anyway, limped my way through 17 years being a jw until now.

not a good jw mind you.

Hi LifesNotOver... I'm pretty much in a similar situation to you, though my husband seems to be rather more accomodating than yours! I've been doing the 'fade' for nearly 5 years now and it's been hard going. At first I wanted to tell him everything I found out but these days it's become more of the elephant in the room. I slowly stopped going to meetings and doing FS. I'm now inactive and maybe go to one meeting every couple of months. At the moment I'm psyching myself up for the RC. (Only going one day). I wish I could just stop completely and if it wasn't for him I would. I have adult children that don't go anymore and my sister and my best friend are all very negative towards the organisation so I can still be myself around them. Basically I've told my husband I don't want to go anymore and he's passed it on to the other elders and he's also passed it on that I don't want to see anyone about it. So far they've left me alone and if they do see me they only talk about everyday stuff. Fine by me! :) I'm lucky that I'm an introvert and don't need people around, family and close friends is enough for me. I think the secret is being firm and assertive. Trying not to be negative but just letting others know you have boundaries that you don't want them to cross. As has been said many times on here, the only power anyone has over you is what you allow them to have. Hope you find your way!

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Seeking support ... Where can a Christian go

by Sevan in

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hey all, .

so i recently posted for the first time and introduced myself.. i have been spending time reading various posts.

some informative, some not so much.. since i've been reading on here, i've read a lot from atheists.

tornapart

Welcome Sevan. The Beorean Pickets website and the Jwstruggle forum are both good for exJws who still want to stay christian. I have found both very helpful.

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One Thing I Don't Get About Brexit

by JW_Rogue in

how did such a weighty decision get put directly in the hands on the average citizen?

and with only a simple majority required?

in the usa the biggest thing that people vote on directly is city building projects or infrastructure.

tornapart

Brits felt they were being micromanged by the EU in the same way many JWs feel micromanaged by the GB. At least Brits get to vote...

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This Thing That Was My Mother

by TimeBandit in

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this thing that was my mother.

this thing that was my mother, so withered and blackened now,.

was once so kind and loving, but things have changed somehow.. remember when you'd hold me, and soothe my childhood fears?.

tornapart

Heartbreaking... as a mother I can't imagine cutting my children off purely for a difference of belief. My children are my life. Feel so terribly sad for you TB...

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Oh no Dan 2.44 is being fulfilled. My ex told me so it must be true.

by KateWild in

so my 14 yr old son and i are sitting discussing the eu election vote, and joking around that the we could see a future with donald trump and boris johnson being the uk and us leaders.

we were swapping pictures and jokes from facebook.. but his dad is sitting there waiting until we leave, and comes out with "well daniel 2.44" which reads.......... "and in the days of those kings the god of heaven will set up a kingdom that will never be brought to ruin.

and the kingdom itself will not be passed onto any other people.

tornapart

Had the same in my family.... Dan 2:44 is being fulfilled! It must be the feet of iron and clay! Hmmmm... I remember them saying that 30 years ago, only then it was communism and capitalism... They can't see how boring this is getting!!

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WTBTS / GBoJW elevating status of their literature

by Nicholaus Kopernicus in

the following is a brief examination of one disturbing paragraph in the august 2016 study watchtower - "do you see the need to make spiritual progress?"11.

what spiritual qualities can we work to develop, and why are they important?

11 develop spiritual qualities.

tornapart

Nice post Nich... it's much like the articles on the Beorean Pickets website that I enjoy reading, dissecting the WT articles.

The GB believe they are God's spokesman.. Guardians of Docrtine as Jackson called them. (G..O..D), They just cannot see they are putting themselves in the 'seat of Moses', exactly as the Pharisees did.

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UPDATE: My existential crisis comes to a close

by Freeandclear in

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in case you read my other thread regarding my existential crisis and how it was making my life miserable and left me feeling hopeless, purposeless and joyless i though i'd share what's recently happened to me and my way of thinking and have i've for the time being resolved my existential crisis.

i write every day in a journal.

i've been doing this for years.

tornapart

Reading this, I could have been reading exactly how I feel! Thanks for expressing it so beautifully and sharing it too. :)

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Why Are You Here?

by Believer in

i'm wondering why believers remain members of this forum which is clearly hostile to believers.

as one member said, nonbelievers pounce on any semblance of belief like piranhas on prey.

as former jws we should have had our fill of judgmental know-it-alls, but here we are.

tornapart

I'm here for a few reasons really. With family still in I feel I need the support with others going through the same thing. I want to be on top of what is going on in Jdubland, who knows when I might get something juicy where I can drop seeds with family/friends to help wake them up. I like seeing what beliefs others turn to after leaving, I find it very interesting. Although I'm still a believer I'm open to lots of new ideas to think about. Not into debating much though, I don't feel it's necessary for me (and I don't feel knowledgeable enough to contribute much) but I like to read a few of them though, as long as they stay respectful. Once it gets into name calling and becomes like a children's playground I lose interest.

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Introduction - Any Believers?

by Believer in

i’ve been reading it for a few of years off and on, but have been a little too ... maybe ... timid to join.

i left the watchtower organization almost 20 years ago but never abandoned my faith and belief in god.

i knew the gb/organization didn’t represent god, so when i lost my faith in them, i managed to keep my faith in an all wise benevolent creator.

tornapart

I'm still a believer and at first I felt a bit of trepidation because it seemed there were more atheists than believers amongst the exJW community on here. But over time I've come to like it. There are so many different opinions and beliefs that there is always something to make you really think and question everything. It's very refreshing when you have come from somewhere where everyone thinks they have all the answers. You realise that it's impossible to have all the answers. You have the freedom to express yourself without being judged (or shunned), you may get called stupid or ignorant or deluded, but who cares about that... you may need to develop a bit of a thick skin!

Just enjoy all the various differences and the reasons why others have come to their own conclusions. There is beauty in diversity... such a refreshing change from the awful conformity we had to bear in Jdubland!