Hi,
Don't despair & stay strong, i was DF'ed for 3 years wrote 3 letters for reinstatement, the first 2 were rejected & i was told by them that I wasn't ready & "keep trying" I made every meeting even though I was soo sick or with migraines & i felt depleted when they said no on the 2nd one, it was already 2 years... & finally the 3rd one they accepted, i think they had no choice it was 4 pages long with all of it quoting scriptures about how Jehovah is the one to judge me for my actions & he is the one who is aware of my relationship with him & no human can read my heart or get in the way of my relationship with God & Jesus.... i looked up every scripture i could find & quoted them all with logic explanations that it is for Jehovah to decide since men can't see whst the heart is but Jah does .. they didn't even asked me read the 3rd letter because it was soo long....
I wished I would've known TTATT at that time I would've just said screw this I don't need approval from men.... if you & your wife have a great relationship together without the WT what else do you need? Is it family apart from your wife? I think you are in the right direction or place if your wife also has doubts, it's a starting point!! Stay strong do your research!