schnell,
in your reply to Finklestein, you sound like you're describing the confirmation bias, cognitive dissonance etc. that is usually part of the damage that goes with the territory of being in the cult.
As well as the narcissistic, sociopathic, callous, hypocritical etc.. traits that most people will have picked up, to some degree or another...
Those traits don't define a person as being 'crazy' or whatever other label you choose...
For alot of people, that is not their true self...
This is shown when they leave the cult and begin the process of overcoming those influences