Posts by Esmeralda001

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"High" education

by Esmeralda001 in

did any of you guys disregard the wt recommendations and pursue a career.

if you answer "yes": was your journey easy?

are you happy with the end result?

Esmeralda001

@Heaven.

Thank you for your answer :-).

by "was it easy", I meant, "was it easy for you to be an active member while going to school? " Were you reprouved are publically marked for your choice?

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"High" education

by Esmeralda001 in

did any of you guys disregard the wt recommendations and pursue a career.

if you answer "yes": was your journey easy?

are you happy with the end result?

Esmeralda001

Thanks for sharing your experience, guys :-).

@sloppyforMcfloppy

good point!

@A.proclaimer

I totally can relate. I'm CONSTANTLY asked when am going to finish with med school. To be honnest It kind of gets on my nerves. Alala (sigh)

I get mixed reactions from the brothers and sisters. some members encourage me to push my education as far as I can. I remember one time a sister came to me and told me to keep going despite what Other members might say. She said that most elders in her congregation had either a degree in accounting or in law (she was whisppering... Lol... :-p) Of course I came across members who are anti-university. Sometimes they'll "throw shade" at me through the comments they make during the WT study. I usually just ignore it and move on... There is one particular lady who hates me for this though. She makes sure to keep track of my progression by constantly asking my study instructor How am doing At school. One time, I confessed to my study conductor that med school was very draining and that I felt overwhelmed. Well I should have kept this to myself because, for some reason, she shared the information with the other lady. The sister then came to me giggling and asked how I was doing at school. I kid you not!!!! It's funny because the same women who try to discourage young people from investing in my education are usually married to relatively wealthy brothers who have degrees. I can sort of understand why they don't see the necessity of getting an education.

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"High" education

by Esmeralda001 in

did any of you guys disregard the wt recommendations and pursue a career.

if you answer "yes": was your journey easy?

are you happy with the end result?

Esmeralda001

Hi :-)

did any of you guys disregard the WT recommendations and pursue a career.

If you answer "yes": was your journey easy? Are you happy with the end result? Did some people try to slow you down?

If you answer is "no": do you have regrets? Would you deny to your children access to higher education? If you could go back in time, what would you change?

everyone is welcome to share their experience\thoughts

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Are single sisters happier?

by Esmeralda001 in

this question is for the ladies out there, but if you are a man and you'd like to share your thoughts on the following topic you are welcomed to do so.

given the wt society's view on women, did any of you ladies gave up on the idea of getting married "in the truth".

in such case, did you sometimes feel that you were missing out?

Esmeralda001

@Garrett

Am I to understand that women are never happy no matter what? Ayayaye (mom' voice).

Je te souhaite une longue et heureuse vie de couple, mon cher! xox

@Beautiful Mind

I want to remain unmarried because i'm confortable with my status. I'm addicted to the peace I get from being single. There is so much room for personal growth and self-discovery in singleness. I am more productive today than I was a year ago when I had a lover and was distracted as a result.. I want it to stay that way.

If I were to date a man in the org, I'd go for a brother with a good heart. I don't care if he is a publisher, pioneer or what not . Title don't impress me. Women who, like myself, are not considered to be sprirutual according to the WT's standards should actually stay away from the "spiritually strong" brothers.

I like your mindset, my dear!

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Are single sisters happier?

by Esmeralda001 in

this question is for the ladies out there, but if you are a man and you'd like to share your thoughts on the following topic you are welcomed to do so.

given the wt society's view on women, did any of you ladies gave up on the idea of getting married "in the truth".

in such case, did you sometimes feel that you were missing out?

Esmeralda001

@Giordano

Thanks for the advise .

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Are single sisters happier?

by Esmeralda001 in

this question is for the ladies out there, but if you are a man and you'd like to share your thoughts on the following topic you are welcomed to do so.

given the wt society's view on women, did any of you ladies gave up on the idea of getting married "in the truth".

in such case, did you sometimes feel that you were missing out?

Esmeralda001

@divergent

thank you very much for this "article". Is there a way that I can show this to my study instructor without getting myself in trouble?

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Are single sisters happier?

by Esmeralda001 in

this question is for the ladies out there, but if you are a man and you'd like to share your thoughts on the following topic you are welcomed to do so.

given the wt society's view on women, did any of you ladies gave up on the idea of getting married "in the truth".

in such case, did you sometimes feel that you were missing out?

Esmeralda001

@LisaRose

Thank you for your answer. I am sorry that you were trapped in an unhappy marriage for so long! The WT society advises young people to wait until they are mature enough before making such a big life commitement. May I ask you why you married so young? Did your parents agree with your choice?

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Are single sisters happier?

by Esmeralda001 in

this question is for the ladies out there, but if you are a man and you'd like to share your thoughts on the following topic you are welcomed to do so.

given the wt society's view on women, did any of you ladies gave up on the idea of getting married "in the truth".

in such case, did you sometimes feel that you were missing out?

Esmeralda001

@Kaik

wow. My heart broke! Are you still in touch with the sister's family? Was it known that she was suffering from severe depression? That's unfortunate :-(

@Paintedtoenails

It is quite difficult for me to give a valid explanation as to why I'm attracted to this religion. You would have to understand the mess that I have gone through this summer in order to be able see where this fascination comes from. Don't get me wrong: what's appealing to me is not the jw's as a group, but Rather their devotation to God. Most of these people are very disciplined and virtuous. I wish I could display such qualities. I know that it's not easy to join this religion, but the truth is that it's not any easier to be "in the world" either (that's my experience). I prefer to be unhappy while serving God rather than unhappy while leaving a messy life.

I can deal with most of the rules imposed by the WT society. But when it comes to my education, THEY CAN'T TELL ME NOTHING!!!!! They can excommuniate a member because they want to pursue a career. The bible doesn't condemne high education.

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Are single sisters happier?

by Esmeralda001 in

this question is for the ladies out there, but if you are a man and you'd like to share your thoughts on the following topic you are welcomed to do so.

given the wt society's view on women, did any of you ladies gave up on the idea of getting married "in the truth".

in such case, did you sometimes feel that you were missing out?

Esmeralda001

@ Divergent

If I were to to marry in the lord, my parents wouldn't be able to attend my wedding at the KH because they are non-belivers. My husband would not help me taking care of them for the same reason. I'm pretty sure that my parents in law would reject them. It would grieve me to see my parents being disrespected. I'm also concerned that if I get married, I will be expected to give up on my career to stay at home and cook for my husband. The scariest part is that I would be expdcted to be submissive to him. That doesn't sound too good to me...

I have dated a guy when I was "in the world". I was 19 and he was 24 at that time. In all honesty, it was a very pleasant experience, but I had to put a stop to our romance due to my increasing desire for sex. Also, I was afraid that this romance could affect my studies negatively.

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Are single sisters happier?

by Esmeralda001 in

this question is for the ladies out there, but if you are a man and you'd like to share your thoughts on the following topic you are welcomed to do so.

given the wt society's view on women, did any of you ladies gave up on the idea of getting married "in the truth".

in such case, did you sometimes feel that you were missing out?

Esmeralda001

Greetings,

This question is for the ladies out there, but if you are a man and you'd like to share your thoughts on the following topic you are welcomed to do so.

Given the WT society's view on women, did any of you ladies gave up on the idea of getting married "in the truth". In such case, did you sometimes feel that you were missing out? I've noticed that it is very common for sisters to visit different congregations in hope of finding a mate.

I personally gave up on the idea of getting married and having children partly because I want to take care of my parents once i'm done with school and also because I don't want to be trapped in an unhappy marriage. My opinion is that the JW dating systems is set up in such a way that it rushes people into marriage when they have very little knowledge of their mate. I think that single women in the org. are in a better place, for they still have their independence and their freedom. I will never date/marry anyone. Freedom tastes too good :-). I Hope that I'm doing the right thing.