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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Esmeralda001

  Do you guys suggest that I keep to myself where I work?
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Esmeralda001

  I was even asked if I could cook and how Iwould I react if my husband offended me (this one got me lauging really hard). I'm not exagerating when I tell you that people in my congregation have some trust issues. For example, if i'm in a car with other sisters and texting somone, the person next to me will look over my shoulder and read the conversation. One time an elder's wife asked if she could read the content of my notebook. It was nothing too special. Just biblical related stuff, but she insisted anyway. Anyway, from now on I going to limit my assiciation with the friends. If they want to gossip, they will have to make up stories.
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Esmeralda001

  It happened in Europe (Paris, France) :-p
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Esmeralda001

  @Silvia

  "An elder concealed me that I needed to start spending time with the friends"

  I think that I received the same counceal, but indirectly. And it came from a sister. She gave me an invitation and suggested that I should stop hanging out with my wordly friends and hAng out more with the friends. The truth of the matter is that, apart from my study conductoir, I don't feel too confortable with any of these people. I mean I don't have trouble socializing with them for one minute or two before And After each meeting. But it is beyond my capacity to hang out with them at social event. The idea of seeing them outside thd hall puts a great deal of pressur on my shoulders.

  what are the consequences of being labled "difficult"?

  i'm so grateful for this website, guys. It provides me with so much information on so many different topics. I can learn about the organization functionnement without being too involved! Thank you for that!!!!
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Esmeralda001

  I don't think JWs are nosy out of spite. They probably meant no harm. I think they're just paranoid and obsessed with purity. In any case I won't give them the permission to put me under the spotlight like they did. Never again! Pfff!
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Esmeralda001

  @longhair, @Rebel8, and @LisaRose

  sory ladies. I didn't see your answer the first time I went through the responses. Thank you for your advice!! @Longhair: do you know the reason why single women are more under the microscop than the rest? do there existe a way to keep the members out of your buisiness at all or will they find a way to find out things about you no matter what? Though I don't have anythig to hide, I like to keep my life private. That's just my personnality. I'm a quiete person , and do not trust people so easily.
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  @Sabin

  let us try to avoid getting to this extrem, lOl. :-p

  @Sowhatnow

  I knew the ring question would come along the way. I saw them staring at it. I'm wearing my mother's engagement because it makes my hands look femine and polished and also because It symbolizes my celibacy vow. I Wouldn't feel confortable explainning my position to the couple.
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Esmeralda001

  Thank you all for your answers.

  @toesup

  thank you very much for this peice of advice! Very useful! I'm looking forward to apply it. You are right with your reasonning: if people don't feel ashamed to ask intuisive questions, why would I feel ashamed to put them in their place in a polite way?!
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  @tenacious

  thank you for your answer

  @toesup

  "how much money do you make each year"

  you got me laughing SO HARD!!! Ahahah!!! You are a smart ass!
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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Esmeralda001

  Hi,

  I need some advice guys. How do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?

  I was invited to a jw gathering last night. It was at my study conductor's place (for those of you who are wondering why a wordly person like myself would get invited anyway). There was this couple who kept asking me questions about my life. What , in the beggining, seemed like an innocent attempt to get to know me better quickly turned into an interrogator. They startered with basic questions such as, "which university you go to", "are you parents against your religious beliefs", "do you have any siblings" ect. And then, before I knew it they were all up in my business:

  -what are your parents names?

  -say my parents great grand-parents name

  -What do they do for a leaving?

  -I don't know if my parents would agree with me sharing this info with strangers in their absence...

  -Do your parents come pick you when finish work?

  -no

  -What do you do in your spare time?

  -I like reading and watching tv shows

  -like what

  -Grey's anatomy and documentaries on serial killers and psychology.

  -you are a very pretty lady. You must have a lot of friends. Do you?

  -thanks for the complinent if you meant it. I have a lot of acquittances from work and school, but very few friends and I'm fine with it.

  -what about boys? Do you have friends of the opposite sex?

  -no

  -Do you sometimes have to work with a male partner on school work?

  -Only if I want to.

  -That's a cute ring that you are wearing. Who got you that?

  -a little bird :-p. Do you know where the restroom is? I need to call my mother before she starts to worry.

  
  

  I really try to be as vague as possible in my answers, but wow!!!! I'm wondering if at that point I should have let the couple know that I was uncomfortable with their questions. If they weren't my elders, I would have told them to mind their business.

  For the introverted ex-jws/jws out there, how did you manage to protect your pravicy from the brothers and sisters without compromising your good manners.