I'm afraid that i'm already mentally trapped. I can definitely tell that something is wrong with this organization. I've seen so many red flags. But the truth is that I see those same red flags in adventice and baptist churches (it's even worse). It is my experience that when I'm in , i'm being bullied by influent members and when i'm out , i'm being tourmented by my conscience. Either way i'm unhappy, so I might as well stay in the org, be the nicest person that I can be, and wait for Yah to destroy Babylon the Great. If I'm in the wong place, God will forgive me because he knows what's in my heart. In the meantime, i'll try my best to avoid getting hurt. I'm preparing myself for further bullshit. It won't hurt as much because I know what to expect.
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by Esmeralda001 ini need some advice guys.
how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.
i was invited to a jw gathering last night.
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by Esmeralda001 ini need some advice guys.
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I was even asked if I could cook and how Iwould I react if my husband offended me (this one got me lauging really hard). I'm not exagerating when I tell you that people in my congregation have some trust issues. For example, if i'm in a car with other sisters and texting somone, the person next to me will look over my shoulder and read the conversation. One time an elder's wife asked if she could read the content of my notebook. It was nothing too special. Just biblical related stuff, but she insisted anyway. Anyway, from now on I going to limit my assiciation with the friends. If they want to gossip, they will have to make up stories.
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It happened in Europe (Paris, France) :-p -
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@Silvia
"An elder concealed me that I needed to start spending time with the friends"
I think that I received the same counceal, but indirectly. And it came from a sister. She gave me an invitation and suggested that I should stop hanging out with my wordly friends and hAng out more with the friends. The truth of the matter is that, apart from my study conductoir, I don't feel too confortable with any of these people. I mean I don't have trouble socializing with them for one minute or two before And After each meeting. But it is beyond my capacity to hang out with them at social event. The idea of seeing them outside thd hall puts a great deal of pressur on my shoulders.
what are the consequences of being labled "difficult"?
i'm so grateful for this website, guys. It provides me with so much information on so many different topics. I can learn about the organization functionnement without being too involved! Thank you for that!!!!
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I don't think JWs are nosy out of spite. They probably meant no harm. I think they're just paranoid and obsessed with purity. In any case I won't give them the permission to put me under the spotlight like they did. Never again! Pfff! -
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@longhair, @Rebel8, and @LisaRose
sory ladies. I didn't see your answer the first time I went through the responses. Thank you for your advice!! @Longhair: do you know the reason why single women are more under the microscop than the rest? do there existe a way to keep the members out of your buisiness at all or will they find a way to find out things about you no matter what? Though I don't have anythig to hide, I like to keep my life private. That's just my personnality. I'm a quiete person , and do not trust people so easily.
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@Sabin
let us try to avoid getting to this extrem, lOl. :-p
@Sowhatnow
I knew the ring question would come along the way. I saw them staring at it. I'm wearing my mother's engagement because it makes my hands look femine and polished and also because It symbolizes my celibacy vow. I Wouldn't feel confortable explainning my position to the couple.
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by Esmeralda001 ini need some advice guys.
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Thank you all for your answers.
@toesup
thank you very much for this peice of advice! Very useful! I'm looking forward to apply it. You are right with your reasonning: if people don't feel ashamed to ask intuisive questions, why would I feel ashamed to put them in their place in a polite way?!
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@tenacious
thank you for your answer
@toesup
"how much money do you make each year"
you got me laughing SO HARD!!! Ahahah!!! You are a smart ass!