Posts by Esmeralda001

As you may guess, my study conductor refused to reveal the name of the complainer. I told her it is best if SHE (we both know who she is anyway) come see me direclty to address the issue, otherwise there will be no change in my attitude whatsoever. To wich she replied:"you might have valide reasons to behave that way, but as real christians we must put our difference aside and swallow our pride to maintain the congregation peace. (She pointed out some verses in the bible). You might not realize but you are not just hurting sister x. Your attitude may be stumbling others members". I ended up the debate by saying That being distante is the only way I can preserve my inner peace (and that of the congregation by extension). Since i'm not disrespecting anyone, i'll continue to do so. It is really common for the members of our congregation to ignore each other. that's nothing new under the sun. Nobody will stumble.

you know what we say about hispanic and black women: they are very assertive (I may be out of line. Don't quote me on this one :-p ). Guess what? I'm a combinaison of both. In my culture, we don't believe in passive agressivity. Ever since I've been affiliated with the JW's i've learnt to be less confrontational wich I think is a good thing. I deal with people that I want to deal with, and ignore the ones whom I can't learn anything from.

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Update 8: "fix your attitude, young lady"

by Esmeralda001 in

my study conductor lectured me about my attitude this morning!!!!

apparently some sister complained to her that my attitude was irritating.

the sister in question is just bothered by the fact that i ignore her along with her four daughters.

Esmeralda001

i'm not shunning the sisters as an act of revange or out of spite. I behave that way mainly because I seek peace. I'm sick and tired of overanalyzing the sisters ugly ways. It affects my happyness. I don't carry any hate in my heart, and I believe in forgiveness. If they change their attitude (which I doubt they will), i'll change mine. Until then, These people are dead to me. No more drama.

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Update 8: "fix your attitude, young lady"

by Esmeralda001 in

my study conductor lectured me about my attitude this morning!!!!

apparently some sister complained to her that my attitude was irritating.

the sister in question is just bothered by the fact that i ignore her along with her four daughters.

Esmeralda001

Hi,

My study conductor lectured me about my attitude this morning!!!! Apparently some sister complained to her that my attitude was irritating. The sister in question is just bothered by the fact that I ignore her along with her four daughters. It is true that I've been shunning a entire group of women the last couple of weeks. What I have to say in my defence is that Ignoring certain members of my congregation has proved to be an effective way to keep chaos and negativity out of my life. I put my brain on "filter mode" twice a week when I attend the meetings: I will greet everybody except for the sisters who have been acting funny with me since my coming back to the org. Quite frankly it feels good to not have to worry about the troublemakers. My focus is on the well-meaning hearts and the "lowly" ones. It's funny,though,how the same people who have been shunning me for months are the ones who take offence at my attitude. Am I not doing them a favour by not acknowledging their existence? They are the ones who taught me by their arrogance that being socially selective is the way to go. My behaviour provides me with confidence and peace. For that reason, i'll continue to ignore the ones who try to make my life miserable.

Fin de l'histoire :-)

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New Years Resolutions

by cognac in

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mine are:.

1. move.

2. lose a little weight .

Esmeralda001

1.gain a few pounds

2. Avoid negativity

3. Read the bible on a daily basis

4. Get my first car.