Listener and Finkelstein are correct.
i would just like to add that there was a girl in my congregation that pulled this off successfully. She was an elders daughter. The family hit a tragedy and she stopped attending. The witnesses thought she was taking a break due to stress. While not attending she got married to a non-witness and still never went back. She’s still in contact with all her family a even JWs invite her to weddings etc.
Could try that?
Also, why in the world would you take this girl to the memorial?