Posts by Heartsafire

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Hello everyone. New here looking for info and friends

by Harvard Illiterate 411 in

i sometimes was redirected to this page from reddit or another ex-jw site but never bothered to sign up.

i wanted to stay off the radar but since i'm getting dis-fellowshipped anyways and have no plans to come back what the hell.

been 22 years in the truth........... ahhhh i hate to use that expression...... bad habit but you know what i mean.

Heartsafire

Hey Harvard,

Good to know ya! I'm a fading JW and my husband is still under the WT spell. For years I felt like something was wrong and after finding info about the UN membership plus the child abuse scandals I couldn't take it anymore.

Finally read Steve Hassens book about combatting cult mind control and was like "holy shit, it's a cult"!

Really sucks how JW's are so judge-y especially of their own kind! If you are a halfway attractive woman you are seen as a threat to everyone. How dare you have shapely legs! Hide those ankles! Only us gals with cankles can wear short skirts!

Good for you on getting away. Can't wait to hear more about you. Congrats on the rest of your life!

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Travel recommendations?

by stephanie61092 in

hey guys.

i've decided that during this time of being dfed, maybe trying to get reinstated, i'm going to enjoy my time with myself.

that being said, i would like to do some traveling when the weather warms up across the us.

Heartsafire

Florida Keyes maybe?

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Another one bites the dust...

by StarTrekAngel in

so despite glimpses of hope here and there, the wife is just not seeing this cult for what it is.. so who is the one the bit the dust?

i've not been feeling so well lately.

a bit of lightheadedness.

Heartsafire

Sounds like your wife has a serious emotional attachment to this cult. My husband does as well, so I sympathize with you. Please focus on your health and happiness first. Limit stress and conflict as much as possible. Do you like comedy? Sometimes I just hop onto YouTube and search comedians. Anyway, some good belly laughs work wonders at improving health and blood pressure. Get better friend:)

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Happy Valentines Day !

by Perry in

jw
friends

today is also my 12th anniversary to my most wonderful wife.

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happy valentines day to all of you!!.

Heartsafire

Happy Anniversary to you both! And...

Happy St. Valentine's Day! 🍾🍫💕🎉💑

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Mentally challenged DF

by James Mixon in

there was a df of a mentally challenged young man he sexually assaulted a young girl.. in jesus day people were possessed by demons but we know today they had mental issues.. do you know of any cases where a mentally challenged person was df.. the case that i mention the young man was 18-20 years old and it was a case where he was.

functional, school, friends and was baptized.

i knew the family and if you didn't know he was a. typical teenager.. my question, if a mentally challenged person is able to answer the questions to qualify to be.

Heartsafire

Baptism in jw land doesn't mean what it does to the average church goer. If you are baptized in another church, and you mess up or sin, you're not automatically at risk of losing your baptismal status. You're simply in "sin". However, as a jw, if you sin then it is considered a violation of your contractal agreement to abide by the organizational standards aka "baptism". That they would offer this binding obligation to a person with disabilities and then hold them accountable for the disruption of the agreement reveals the debased moral character this org operates under as a whole. It really is a corrupt corporation posing as a religion when you think about it with the business attire instead of Sunday's best, the meetings instead of church service, the dedication/baptism to father, son and spirit anointed organization...

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If all the world were JWs....

by Tornintwo in

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friends

in my former indoctrinated state, i used to yearn for a time when all the world would be jws.

but hang on minute, let's just think about what the world would be like if everyone was a jw,.

first of all, no higher education, so no medical advances, no scientific research, no modern day medicine, infectious disease rife, no doctors, no engineers, so no modern day comforts.

Heartsafire

If everyone were witnesses I think that the GB would let totally loose and form an oligarchy dictatorship in which they would rule the world like power hungry gods. Disfellowshipping would be abolished. Instead, dissenters would be executed by their "brothers", and oh yes, let's not forget their households would be executed as well.

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Do you think JWN members would be surprised if they got to know you in real life?

by nicolaou in

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friends

i don't think you'd recognise me much at all.

i'm a royal mail postman, i love my job for the early starts and midday finish, the outdoors and the exercise.. i get on with people but i'm quite insular and don't enjoy crowds.

i'm happiest when i've fired up the charcoal and i'm making souvlaki or adana kebabs for my family and a few close friends.

Heartsafire

Souvlaki?! Yum! I really enjoyed reading this. Thank you for sharing.

To answer your question, I honestly have no idea if people would be surprised once they got to know me.

Here's a tidbit about me: Like you, I detest large crowds and avoid them whenever possible. I also love books have collected them since I was a child. I still have my first books from which I learned to read. I'm rather introverted and shy, but I love people and I'm often more generous than I should be (or so I've been told). My home is modest but comfy, and I'm obsessed with decorating. I am also obsessed with saving money so I live a conflicted life with my passions at odds. When it comes to food, I will eat anything, although I prefer spicy-hot or savory flavors. I do love a grilled chicken souvlaki with a buttery slathering. I've only discovered this dish at a restaurant and thought I had died and gone to...well...never mind. But, it was tasty.

Its fun, this sharing about ourselves thing. Wish I could say more, but I'm sorry to say I'm rather a boring person. Haha!

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Walking a thin line - Resigning Elder

by Sanchy in

jw
friends

warning of a long boring post ahead.

i feel like i need to vent my story out, as i feel quite helpless at the moment.. i'm 31 year old, married, father of toddler with another one on the way, due later this month.

i've been serving as elder for about 4 years now in a south florida congregation.

Heartsafire

Welcome and congratulations on your wake up! I really feel for you. I am a fader, and I started my fade this year (I mean this past year). My husband is still totally in. I would have to say our darkest days were when I was first waking up and recklessly confronting him with my doubts. Since then it seems he has come to terms with my fade, and although he doesn't agree with me, we are at peace.

I agree with the folks who posted on here and said not to rush things. My advice would be to be happy, and work on making your marriage as happy as possible. I know it sounds challenging, and it is, but it is so worth it to finally be living an authentic life.

Whenever you need to vent, feel free to come here and post. We are here for you.

HAF

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I need some advise

by Lost his mind in

following is a letter i am going to send to the entire family both jw and non.

i would like to get your advice on whether i should do it.

my husband has told me before to voice my complaints but i have yet.

Heartsafire

Glad to hear you and your hubby are on the same page. If you ever need to vent in the future, we are here for you:-)

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Any ExJw Millenials here? If not which Gen do you fall under?

by Hidethevelociraptors in

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friends

if anyone had to guess, what do you think the average age of the community actually is?.

are more millennials actually waking up or is it pretty even amongst previous generations as well?

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Heartsafire

I think I'm a gen Y if that even exists