Pale Emperor,
What your brother said:
I haven't read a Watchtower in months and i feel so much "lighter"
I had the same experience. I felt so much lighter when I stopped reading the publications and attending the meetings.
We are in the world but not of the world. We must put kingdom interests ahead of our interests, detach ourselves from the world, our desires, our loves, and our passions.
Then there is the constant obsession with focusing on how awful things are as evidence that the end of the world is nigh. I remember once saying to an elder how the religion makes out everything to be so bad - he of course made feel that the problem was with me not the WT.
“Depression is a natural result of loss, and if you internalize teachings that poison you against the world, then of course you will become depressed.”
- Dr. Lorin Roche.