otwo and others are correct. Most elders have nothing of value to say to those in need. No fault of their own, they simply do not have the necessary tools to provide sound advice. You and your wife could probably be of more help to them than the elders, simply by being good friends, listening, and helping to find whatever resources they may need to help them during their time of duress. All the best to you and them. It also may help them see the lack of love in the WT!
ruderedhead
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Dilemna on shepherding
by happy@last inmy wife told me of a friend of hers who is going through a difficult time in their life.
they are what i would describe as a 'blind follower' of wt teachings, but it does give them structure that would otherwise not be there in their life.
anyhow, this person is having a tough time, the elders know about it and yet not one of them has either visited or called to see how they are!.
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My 66th birthday is today!!
by Terry inonce i was little boy in fort worth, texas living with my maw maw and paw paw and mommy.. then, i was an 18 year old 6'4'' skinny 165lb religious nut being dipped in a baptismal during a local assembly.. suddenly, i was 20 and listening to a jail cell door clang behind me as a conscientious objector.. wow!
23 years old and put on parole until my 6 years sentence was ended!
i got married to a nice jw girl and had 3 kids!.
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ruderedhead
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
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Another sad non jw falling for a baptised jw girl story
by spirituk inok ,so this is my story , this jw girl came on vacation in my country as a friend of my girl-cousin who is not a jw but were classmates at uni .
my cousin introduced her to me but she didnt tell me that she was a jw from the very first moment we flirt each other.we went on beach ,on bars ,cafes etc and she acted so wordly ,in fact i thought she could be a good one night stand with her behaviour .never saw anything weird about her that could lead me to question something, with the peak in the club where we danced together while hugging very passionatly .
i tried to kiss her that night but she kept her distance , i didnt notice any bad on that.anyway, next day we flirt again at the the beach and at night too .
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ruderedhead
That young lady sounds confused. She isn't sure if she wants to be in that religion or not, and she is stringing you along while she figures it out. She blocked you on fb, follow her lead for now and stop contacting her. She is probably sincere in saying it is for your own good. Until she figures things out, it is best for you to move on unless you want your heart broken more than it is now. She knows how to contact you if she wants to later on.
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just support please
by Roberta804 ini have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.
in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.
mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.
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ruderedhead
I am so sorry for all the troubles you are experiencing right now. Some who pretend to be Christian don't even know the meaning of the word. I hope all goes smoothly and without conflict for you. You will be in my prayers.
rudered
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New Beginnings
by LouBelle inthis week monday i started my new job.
initially i didn't have much to do and was left alone in an office for 3 days.
i felt very isolated and uncomfortable.
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ruderedhead
What a wonderful, can do attitude you have about everything! That makes you not only a valuable employee, but a successful woman as well. Much success to you on your journey to better health!
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Witness wants to come and vist. What to do?
by MsD inso i haven't studied with this witness since october.
she had taken over when the other could not study with me.
reasons unknown to me other than that she told me her and husband had separated.
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ruderedhead
NO! DO NOT MEET WITH HER, ESPECIALLY IF SHE IS PUSHY! Listen to what undercover and others have said. You owe her NOTHING!!!
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Newbie alert
by Braehead innice to meet you all.
long time lurker, but now i can get my twopenneth in.. a brief history.. born into the religion, but it never really took hold - thankful for an easily bored mind and strong, worldly grandparents.. never very interested - dragged from meeting to field service.
in the teenage years i wanted university and my parents want a pioneer.
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ruderedhead
WELCOME!
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Are you now ashamed of how gullible you were as a JW?
by biometrics innow that you realise how idiotic some of the jw beliefs are/were, do you feel ashamed of how gullible you were to believe them?.
if anything my past as an adult jw makes me understand how easily manipulated people are by the people and environment around them.
and that even intelligent people can be influenced beyond what is rational..
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ruderedhead
More angry with myself than ashamed. Especially for all the things I missed with my kids, like bdays.
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Elders finally took me to the back room...
by OneDayillBeFree inafter several months of leaving the meetings as soon as they ended or only staying for "the first meeting" then leaving the "second part", the elders finally cornered me at last night's meeting.. they said they were concerned about me and that being that i am a young brother in a recently divided congregation they saw so much potential in me to help out the congregation and become a ms.. i told them i was thankful for their thinking of me to help the congregation but that at the moment i could not due to my job.
then the began asking personal questions that got on my nerves.. they asked where i worked and how much i made.
they asked if i was going to college and what i was studying and for how long.
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ruderedhead
Great job using that phone app! As others have said, where you work and your income are none of their business! If they try to corner you again, please consider turning the tables and asking them the same questions. You DO NOT have to go into the back room with them! If cornered, or they attempt it, just keep walking towards the exit, excusing yourself as you push politely past them.You owe no explanation except to say you have to be somewhere else at whatever time. None of their business, either, if they ask where or who you are meeting. Just smile. The suggestion to go to another hall is excellent, if at all possible for you. Just do not have your publisher card forwarded.
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Homeschooling VS public/private schooling
by PSacramento ini was wondering on the views about homeschooling vs public/private scholling.. thoughts?.
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ruderedhead
james_woods made some excellent points, as did others. For some kids, tho, school is a miserable experience. If they are socially awkward, a bit slower to learn than others, school might be rough for them. And there are many homeschooling families that form groups that share some teaching and go on field trips together. There was an article in the paper about it some years ago. If done properly, it can be a good experience.
The only people that I knew that home schooled were witnesses, and most did it VERY POORLY. The kids were primarily teaching themselves, after they could read, through the materials that the parents purchased. They were behind their peers in their academic skills, and I truly believe from conversations I had with the parents that the primary reason the witness parents did it was to avoid dealing with holidays and other issues that would come up in a normal academic environment, and they were lazy as teachers. There was one, tho, that actually did a diligent job of teaching their kids, and the Dad was educated and worked in a hospital lab, so he had the knowledge to teach his kids and help them.