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  just support please

  by Roberta804 in

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  i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

  in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

  mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

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  ruderedhead

  I am so sorry for all the troubles you are experiencing right now. Some who pretend to be Christian don't even know the meaning of the word. I hope all goes smoothly and without conflict for you. You will be in my prayers.

  rudered
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  New Beginnings

  by LouBelle in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this week monday i started my new job.

  initially i didn't have much to do and was left alone in an office for 3 days.

  i felt very isolated and uncomfortable.

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  ruderedhead

  What a wonderful, can do attitude you have about everything! That makes you not only a valuable employee, but a successful woman as well. Much success to you on your journey to better health!
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  Witness wants to come and vist. What to do?

  by MsD in

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  so i haven't studied with this witness since october.

  she had taken over when the other could not study with me.

  reasons unknown to me other than that she told me her and husband had separated.

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  ruderedhead

  NO! DO NOT MEET WITH HER, ESPECIALLY IF SHE IS PUSHY! Listen to what undercover and others have said. You owe her NOTHING!!!
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  Newbie alert

  by Braehead in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  nice to meet you all.

  long time lurker, but now i can get my twopenneth in.. a brief history.. born into the religion, but it never really took hold - thankful for an easily bored mind and strong, worldly grandparents.. never very interested - dragged from meeting to field service.

  in the teenage years i wanted university and my parents want a pioneer.

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  ruderedhead

  WELCOME!
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  Are you now ashamed of how gullible you were as a JW?

  by biometrics in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  now that you realise how idiotic some of the jw beliefs are/were, do you feel ashamed of how gullible you were to believe them?.

  if anything my past as an adult jw makes me understand how easily manipulated people are by the people and environment around them.

  and that even intelligent people can be influenced beyond what is rational..

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  ruderedhead

  More angry with myself than ashamed. Especially for all the things I missed with my kids, like bdays.
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  Elders finally took me to the back room...

  by OneDayillBeFree in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  after several months of leaving the meetings as soon as they ended or only staying for "the first meeting" then leaving the "second part", the elders finally cornered me at last night's meeting.. they said they were concerned about me and that being that i am a young brother in a recently divided congregation they saw so much potential in me to help out the congregation and become a ms.. i told them i was thankful for their thinking of me to help the congregation but that at the moment i could not due to my job.

  then the began asking personal questions that got on my nerves.. they asked where i worked and how much i made.

  they asked if i was going to college and what i was studying and for how long.

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  ruderedhead

  Great job using that phone app! As others have said, where you work and your income are none of their business! If they try to corner you again, please consider turning the tables and asking them the same questions. You DO NOT have to go into the back room with them! If cornered, or they attempt it, just keep walking towards the exit, excusing yourself as you push politely past them.You owe no explanation except to say you have to be somewhere else at whatever time. None of their business, either, if they ask where or who you are meeting. Just smile. The suggestion to go to another hall is excellent, if at all possible for you. Just do not have your publisher card forwarded.
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  Homeschooling VS public/private schooling

  by PSacramento in

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  2. family

  i was wondering on the views about homeschooling vs public/private scholling.. thoughts?.

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  ruderedhead

  james_woods made some excellent points, as did others. For some kids, tho, school is a miserable experience. If they are socially awkward, a bit slower to learn than others, school might be rough for them. And there are many homeschooling families that form groups that share some teaching and go on field trips together. There was an article in the paper about it some years ago. If done properly, it can be a good experience.

  The only people that I knew that home schooled were witnesses, and most did it VERY POORLY. The kids were primarily teaching themselves, after they could read, through the materials that the parents purchased. They were behind their peers in their academic skills, and I truly believe from conversations I had with the parents that the primary reason the witness parents did it was to avoid dealing with holidays and other issues that would come up in a normal academic environment, and they were lazy as teachers. There was one, tho, that actually did a diligent job of teaching their kids, and the Dad was educated and worked in a hospital lab, so he had the knowledge to teach his kids and help them.
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  I've just been 'Outted' by my own sister

  by Newly Enlightened in

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  i thought that we could just fade away peacefully, but i guess my mother told my sister that we no longer wanted to be jehovah's witnesses so now all hell is breaking loose.. .

  it's a relief tho.

  i feel really sad and upset also, because my mom lives with my sister and now has been forbidden from contacting me or vice versa.

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  ruderedhead

  This is so sad! Astonishing how this religion can make perfectly nice people do evil things.

  Is there any way you could have your Mom live with you? Even part time, like 6 months out of the year? No one has the right to keep parents and children apart, esp. when the parent is older. Was it the Awake or WT that had an article a while back that said something about religion should not break families up? If you could get a copy of that, perhaps you could show it to her, and ask why she is not following the wt advice? You sister would probably monitor any cell phone you gave your Mom.

  And please make sure no one knows about your nephew asking your daughter questions! Perhaps he can be saved from this lousy group.

  All the best to you.
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  Something weird from my mom

  by doublelife in

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  2. friends

  earlier today, i posted a picture on facebook of me reuniting with a couple of my childhood friends.

  we all grew up together in the kh.

  i, unfortunely, was the only one stupid enough to get baptised.

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  ruderedhead

  No, when I was studying, the conductor used some book from the catholic church stating that birthdays were not of early Christian orgin to prove they were right. Maybe the catholic encyclopedia?
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  Yesterday Grandpa died a faithful JW.... or was he.

  by cyberjesus in

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  yesterday at 3 am my grandfather.. 95 more or less... passed away after a heart attack... i got the call at 8 am.

  so i am the oldest grandson (out of 40) he was faithful, (thats what they want to say) reality is he wasnt, he cursed, he drank, he had plenty of women during his life.. he was an elder at some point and he was ultra good with everyone.

  he had a heart of gold... he treated me as his son, he never cared about my status.

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  ruderedhead

  So sorry for your loss. You sound like a very loving grandson.