I have really thought about not posting here but I will.
I think Pete Zahut summed things up pretty well according to my experiences. I was born in1948 and I have observed family relationships amongst couples who were born as far back as the 1880s.
There have been all sorts of dramas over the years and yelling and shouting and ignoring ones for long periods etc. I have also had association and friendships with the opposite sex at school ,in office situations, in national service in the army and of course at the KH.
In the normal world you get to know the girl sufficiently to "chat her up" a little and ask for a date. Being respectful, kind and honest gets you a long way (and I am not being vulgar). They get to know you and things progress usually to an eventual separation for various reasons. I have always thought that was normal. When I was 22 I asked a cute 18 year old to marry me. She said no very firmly but eventually we were married in 1971 and are still married with three nice daughters.
We were both brainwashed together and baptised in 1975. She is still in but is OK with me being very much out and I can take the pain as the children never came in and are pleased with what I have done. I continue to support her in the "truth" but there is some tension naturally.
the KH in case some haven't realised it is a weird place. A year after we were baptised a sister turned up alone at the door on a Saturday afternoon knowing my wife would be out and just stood there after a brief conversation waiting, I presume, for an invite in. I am not God's gift to women so I guess she was desperate. Around my age and quite attractive with two boys and no husband This has happened a few times over the years, once on the street with my wife present and the last time in the KH with everyone watching. This time she was thirty years younger than me with a complete infatuation which she eventually passed on to me which at 66 and just having had open heart surgery was a real experience which lasted for about eighteen months with everyone tactfully ignoring it. My wife stated she must have a lousy marriage and made friends with her as much as was possible.
Reading through this it sounds vaguely fictitious but I can assure you it isn't and I have left out a lot of detail so as not to bore too much.
Anyway the point I wanted to make is that the women in my family going way back and the women I have personally known are in no way beaten down and I have always found that they are quite adept at finding a way to get what they want or at least trying and don't take no nonsense from the menfolk. I could tell you how my grandmother opened a corner shop in Liverpool during the blitz in ww2 and how successful it was.
I know there are pigs of men around and what they do and how they brag about it. They end up living on their own or constantly complaining about the missus and they always have massive beer bellies and they only mix with their own kind.