Posts by iwantoutnow

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Quick Story

by APieceOfShitNamedTate in

so one night i'm at a meeting.

it's the beginning of the meeting and a brother is up on stage introducing the parts for the night.

he's going through the parts and then he says, "...and apieceofshitnamedtate will be handling our bible highlights.".

iwantoutnow

I was the School Overseer, and after a few years when I got really good at it. I had no issues doing an of the parts as a sub.

I would of course look all the parts over that week. In reality, as long as you're comfortable speaking in public, and you know the info somewhat, none of the parts are had.

The Brother Talks, or the Student talks are really so so basic. The bar for what the audience expects is SOOO low.

I generally was happy for last second cancellations because I felt that I could provide better and more useful information that might actually help someone, or encourage someone, more than the 1/2 literate elders could do with a weeks prep.

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Do you remember the music in the 80's ?

by Finkelstein in

recently reflecting on some of the great songs that came out of that decade.

any favorites post them up .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuza6qijvfu.

iwantoutnow

My fave from the 80s

https://youtu.be/La4Dcd1aUcE

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Those that need to see a Therapist / and those that don`t is there a correlation of the two ?

by smiddy3 in

jw
friends

there have been a number of threads / posts here over the years about ex jw`s needing to see therapists for what they are going through , and i can appreciate that.. obviously there are many ex jw`s on here that haven`t ever felt the need to see a therapist ,and i`m just wondering why not ?.

why does one feel the need and another does not ?.

is it to do with born ins as against those who were converts ?

iwantoutnow

we need to find meaning off what these years mean and that is the natural drive towards wholeness in later life

Yes, at the moment easier said than done :) Right not my meaning is wrapped up in my kids. I got them out just in time so no real damage was done, and I enjoy being with them. Outside of that, struggling for any passion or motivation for anything. Life is a rebuild :)

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Those that need to see a Therapist / and those that don`t is there a correlation of the two ?

by smiddy3 in

jw
friends

there have been a number of threads / posts here over the years about ex jw`s needing to see therapists for what they are going through , and i can appreciate that.. obviously there are many ex jw`s on here that haven`t ever felt the need to see a therapist ,and i`m just wondering why not ?.

why does one feel the need and another does not ?.

is it to do with born ins as against those who were converts ?

iwantoutnow

Whereas someone who is born into the religion is indoctrinated from the earliest part of their life and surely that must affect them and their growing up in the world ,certainly different from my growing up in the world.

I was a JW and a elder for 20 years before I woke up.

I dont feel any chords holding on to me from that horrible belief system. I have no fear of fake jehober, or that the Big A is coming. I am an atheist. (FYI no hope is not fun)

I have lost plenty, 50 years, purpose, hope for the future, almost all friends and family, change for all the things a normal life has, any kind of financial future or stability...

I am well read, have explored many books by therapists, life coaches, bla bla bla. All good and helpful to some degree.

Talked with 2 therapists, both really dealing with trying to save my marriage. (my wife who I helped wake up then wanted out of marriage).

I am struggling with more or less the fallout of ALL of it, a giant vacuum, with the biggest challenge is Lack of Motivation to well anything. In mourning (for my lost life) really I guess. (after 50 years of DONT WORK DONT PROSPER, just hang out and study and walk around the neighborhood, cuz thats the BEST THING you can do. Well its hard to get out of 1st gear.

I KNOW all the things that a therapist or a mentor, or a life coach, would say, but putting them in practice is something totally different.

So not sure what spending tons of money I dont have to talk to someone would do for me. You know what I am saying?

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One simple photo to sum up the heartless and hypocritical attitudes of many Jehovah's Witnesses

by nicolaou in

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friends

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this was taken in london yesterday by a twitter user still managing his fade so i can't be more specific than that.

disgusting.

iwantoutnow

I remember a trip to NYC with a JW family we were very close with.

On the way to a museum there was a homeless vet on a corner.

I gave the guy $10.

"My friend turned to me and said, why did you do that? He is just going to buy drugs with it. Your just feeding his habit."

It was all I could do to really lay into him. I said something like, he looked hungry.

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Do any of you born into the cult feel like your mental growth was stunted?

by rockemsockem in

being born in to me was devastating.

when you are a child born in and raised with the they vs us and they are evil and worldly and going to die.

not allowed to form relationships with anyone not one of you.

iwantoutnow

Personally, I think people do better if they look at things more holistically - you lost some opportunities, but you gained some things. Whether you allow the upbringing to define your life is a personal choice, it certainly doesn't have to.

I cant think of anything I gained in the 50 years of being in the clut, but I can think of many, many things I have lost.

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Virginia Beach Shooting Victim a JW

by RubaDub in

i didn't see it mentioned here yet, but this week at morning worship in bethel it was mentioned that one of the women shot and killed in the virginia beach shooting was a jw.. rub a dub.