I always try and Temper my comments with the thought that "It was what I was doing for many years".
I still remember giving a 20 min local needs on how to act properly with DFed friends and family.
It was a great talk. I was very loving and understanding. Acknowledging the pain and the confliction. My sister was DFed at the time. I talked about how hard it was for us, and how Jah experienced it himself, and all the other bullshit to make it seem like it was the right thing and the best thing for the DFed person. After the meeting, every family with a DFed person came up to me to thank me. UHG :(
I look back and have many regrets at being an "exceptional" speaker. I hate that I motivated many people to be stronger in the cult. I also helped 2 people to baptism, and 2 others that regularly attend, though not baptised.
I WAS the problem for a long time, even though I was never the dogmatic, idolog, ruling class, thoughtless elder we generally get.
No matter what we did as JWs, elders or publishers, we were part of the problem during that time, and we should always remember it.