Pete Zahut
I don't think anyone was intentionally "oppressed" from being a JW.
Mislead, yes but the missed opportunities and wasted talents that both
men and women experienced came from listening to men who (usually) had
the best of intent when trying to apply ancient Middle East values in a
modern western world. No one held a gun to our heads. A lot of young
JW's had the courage early on, to do what they had to do to free
themselves regardless of the consequences.
There is real
oppression that took place in history and is still going on in the world
but not many JW's today in the western world can (in my opinion) truly
say they were "oppressed". Much of what we experienced, we allowed to
happen because it was easier than having to face reality and make a big
change. There was a personal payoff we enjoyed by staying as long as we
did.
Your observations are dead on center Mr P-Zahut
I was a JW and things were great for me. No one oppressed me, most elders were very kind and nice to me. Some were ass holes but isn't that the case everywhere else. There are good and bad in all organizations.
I had lots of good friends that helped me when I needed help. The door was always open for me to leave the organization, no one kept me in prison like some kind of slave like Spartacus.
When I found out about 607 not being the real date. I had a choice. I did research, and decided that going to all those meetings, field service, and conventions was a lot of hard work for something that was not actually true. Once I found out after a couple of years of research that there was not going to be a paradise earth, I didn't think it was worth it to stay in anymore. I just stop going without an explanation. I didn't think it was necessary to give anyone an explanation and make a big stink about it. I also didn't cry because I was leaving several friends.
I find it kind of strange that some who leave the JWs get severely depress because of losing all their jw friends. Isn't there almost 8 billions souls out there that might possibly be your friend?
I am sure others have bad experiences with the JWs. Perhaps some were abused as children, perhaps others lost someone they loved to the blood transfusion doctrine, perhaps some lost out on a good career and struggled and got old and poor.
I don't think it's so much the JWs that are to blame, but instead we need to realize that this is the world we were born into. A person doesn't get an Owner's manual or set of instructions when he/she is born. And if your parents don't have any idea on what's going on, guess what, then neither will you!
The Universe doesn't care about us. We deal with the cards we are dealt and play the game the best we can and don't blame anyone for our misfortune.
I will quote something that put me in the right perspective.
During the minute it takes me to compose this sentence, thousands of animals are being eaten alive, others are running for their lives, whimpering with fear, others are being slowly devoured from within by rasping parasites; thousands of all kinds are dying of starvation, thirst and disease.
We were born in a world of blind physical forces, It does not matter who or what gets hurt. Some people are going to get hurt and some people are going to get "Lucky". No person on the planet will find any rhyme or reason in the justice and injustice that some of us will suffer, and nature is not interesting one way or another if we suffer every single day of our life, or if we become one of the world's billionaires and have more happiness than 99.9% of the people on the planet.
So you do the best to survive. And if you are lucky and obtain a little wisdom, you just might make it to 90. In the meantime roll with the punches. Enjoy love, enjoy good food, buy as many nice things as you are able to afford and enjoy. Try to stay as healthy as possible. Find some good friends of the opposite sex that you can talk to about anything and can count on as a close friend. Avoid people who bring you down. You have 8 billion humans to choose from.
I wonder how these women in the OP would feel if they were born in Saudi Arabia where women are totally controlled in every aspect of their life, from the time they come out of the womb, to the day they die, by some "Real" dominating bad men.
What if some of these women were able to escape their situation in Saudi Arabia when they were 50 years of age and the JWs were the ones who were there for them when they escaped. Helping them set up a home, lots of friends, food,etc
I wonder if the JWs would be as bad in their eyes as described by the OP?