all seems a light touch approach. Every effort will be made for someone to not be DF’ed. if they say sorry that is enough.
In the unusual case where worst case scenario someone is DFed it’s only for 90days and if they go to meetings everyone will still greet them anyway.
I suspect they wouldn’t need to go to meetings much if at all and have a rest from it during that 90days anyway.
The direction just basically says beg them to agree to be reinstated after the 90 days nothing about going to meetings during that 90days
the DF’ed person doesn’t even need to submit a written request - the elders chase after him/her after only 3 months and, it sounds like, in only the rarest of occasions would extend the DF period for longer.