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  Ladies and Gents.... Domestic violence!

  by Theonlyoneleft in

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  domestic violence in the “tooth”... is this a thing?!.

  you are starting to know me by now as i’m always full of questions... my clogs are always in motion and never stop... so another question for you to give me some guidance if you can.

  based on pasts experience or cases you might heard of or seen, what advice could you give me in helping someone that is a jehovah witness, married with another jw but lives a marriage that is plagued by emotional domestic abuse and financial control?

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  nonjwspouse

  just a side note, the verbal and physical abuse did not happen in my marriage until my husband began studies and "put on a new personality.

  Even though he has not been back to studies or the hall for years now, the "toothpaste has been squeezes out of the tube." He crossed the critical, previously forbidden line of verbal and physical abuse, so it is now something he continues ( of course blaming me for his behavior) ,

  BTW he is in the process of moving out at my insistence. No divorce talk yet, but separation
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  Do You Think Trump Bares Any Responsibility For The Mass Shootings Occuring?

  by minimus in

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  when any mass shooting happens is it the president’s fault?

  i’m talking over the last few decades..

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  Dr. Munr Kazmir criticized Rubin for being "completely against policies she herself had championed for seemingly no other reason than Trump being in favor of them".

  Quite simply, she is an emotional "Never Trumper" that will turn against support on anything if Trump supports it. She is an emotional thinker. Hm, isn't that what a cult mind does, think in emotional terms instead of factual and rational ones?
  
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  Ladies and Gents.... Domestic violence!

  by Theonlyoneleft in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  domestic violence in the “tooth”... is this a thing?!.

  you are starting to know me by now as i’m always full of questions... my clogs are always in motion and never stop... so another question for you to give me some guidance if you can.

  based on pasts experience or cases you might heard of or seen, what advice could you give me in helping someone that is a jehovah witness, married with another jw but lives a marriage that is plagued by emotional domestic abuse and financial control?

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  She needs to document everything, with dates and times, but put any writings etc, in a safe place away from the husband. Write a diary of events, of stresses, of impacts, of the shoving etc. Maybe she can give the diarys to you, to keep safe from her husband. She needs to keep receipts as much as she can of his spending on himself.

  document document document.

  Then if she gets up the courage to have him removed from the house, even if just a separation, she will have what a judge wants to see. proof.
  
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  Do You Think Trump Bares Any Responsibility For The Mass Shootings Occuring?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when any mass shooting happens is it the president’s fault?

  i’m talking over the last few decades..

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  hmm Dayton shooter was a left wing extremist that hated immigrants https://www.forbes.com/sites/isabeltogoh/2019/08/06/dayton-mass-shooters-twitter-feed-appeared-to-like-posts-referencing-el-paso-killing-spreereports/#1557780e4e85

  So, in the blame game, I guess it's Elizabeth Warren's fault because he said he would happily vote for her?
  
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  If You Could Pick Just One Title Of A Song That Would Describe Your Life

  by The Bethelite in

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  what would it be?.

  mine would be "rocket man" by elton john.

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  morning has broken -

  Cat Stevens

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0TInLOJuUM
  
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  Do You Think Trump Bares Any Responsibility For The Mass Shootings Occuring?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when any mass shooting happens is it the president’s fault?

  i’m talking over the last few decades..

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  nonjwspouse

  Lack of a role model, of a consistent father in their life, regardless of exposure to guns, is a huge factor for the boys/men, and they commit most of these crimes by a very wide margin compared to females. The reason is not Trump. That is another antifa desperate attempt to point a finger again.
  

  https://www.patheos.com/blogs/markmeckler/2018/02/27-deadliest-mass-shooters-26-one-thing-common/
  
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  07 21 2019 Blondie's First Thoughts (Study WT May 2019 pages 14-19) COMFORT FOR ABUSE VICTIMS?

  by blondie in

  1. jw
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  blondie’s first thoughts review 7-21-2019 wt study (may 2019, pages 14-19 (comfort abuse victims!?).

  https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/watchtower-study-may-2019/comfort-victims-of-abuse/.

  excellent general website: www.jwfacts.com .

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  Vidiot, IMHO encouraging them to come forward tothe elders would be a CYA move. The elders could then infer , but of course not use the words, to let Jehovah take care of it, to "heal yourself" by forgiveness and going forward with your life instead of reporting to the authotities and all the life /time/emotional difficulties that go along with that. It IS hard emotionally to procecute, but that is not the objective here as we know. To convince the victim, and the victims family, to let the elders and the WT handle the problems and "punish" the offender accordingly would reduce the chances of those higher numbers coming out to the authorities.

  Of course, they will have some people who will go to the authroities, and then the WT can say "look, see that we have been doing this". But many victims/families will get the strong inferring that it is 'more spiritual and trusting" to allow the elders and the orgainzation/Jehovah take care of it.
  
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  Disaster Preparedness Training - WTF is that?

  by wannabefree in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i'm making plans for next weekend and my wife says she's not available saturday.

  "is there an assembly?

  " i asked.. no, disaster preparedness course (or something like that) at the kingdom hall.. is this new?

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  It figures that they are puching for those "go bags" again.

  I think this has been brought up occasionally for years. Am I correct?

  But a class is definity meant to instill fear. In no way will this be a class about how to keep preperations, have a generator, for a week in case of a natural disaster, power outage etc.
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  Parenting through seperation

  by rathernotsay in

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  hi everyone, was hoping i could share my experience, read other people's, and perhaps receive some advice regarding parenting through seperation.. so my wife of 8 odd years, and mother to my 3 children (8,6,3) and i have separated.

  largely due to our differences not just with religion but all areas of life.

  the breakup was amicable, and we remain somewhat friendly to one another while we work all this out.

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  nonjwspouse

  Begin teaching about high control religions/organizations. Teach them the red flags and why such high control is a very dangerous thing.

  Teach them about learning from more than one source to get a balanced, true, viewpoint to base a decision, and that high control religions/organizations will try to make them believe that is a bad thing to do.

  You have a looong road ahead.

  Actually you should go ahead and divorce. Then get a court agreement as to you having them equal amounts of time, and during your time the children do not attend the meetings.The break from the indoctrination is very important.
  
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  If You Criticize A Person of Color Are You A Racist?

  by minimus in

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  seriously, it’s getting to a point that you can’t make a negative comment about someone without being charged as a racist, homophobe or sexist!

  if you criticize a female, you are obviously sexist.

  if you criticize someone who happens to be gay, you must hate homosexuals.

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  Actually, "the squad" has defined any critiscism of thier ideas as racist/sexist.

  Just two weeks ago a manager at the place where I am employed criticised a black man in the same way he criticises the white men in the warehouse for not doing the job they were asked to do. However, the black man called him a racist and white supremacist for doing so to him.

  The intolerance of criticisim is the problem here.