Pardon my language, but that is one fucked up will. Even the Watchtower doesn't tell people to bar disfellowshipped family members from funerals.
Saethydd
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My Mothers Ultimate Rejection
by What Now? ini went into my mother's office to leave her a small note to say that we love and miss her and would love to get together.
i found this on her desk.
this is jehovah's witnesses.
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Personal Update: 3 Months Out
by Saethydd ini've been mentally free of the watchtower for nine months now, three months ago i moved out of my parent's house and gave up any pretexts of being reinstated.
in that time i've faced difficulties adjusting to my new life such as the new responsibilities i have in caring for my own needs, the loneliness that sometimes strikes when i miss my family, and the occasionally unshakable feeling of guilt over the way things are with them.. in that time, i've faced difficulties adjusting to my new life such as the new responsibilities i have in caring for my own needs, the loneliness that sometimes strikes when i miss my family, and the occasionally unshakable feeling of guilt over the way things are with them.. overall though, i feel better about my life now.
i make an effort to really help people where i can by doing more than "praying for them" or "sharing a scripture.
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Saethydd
I've been mentally free of the Watchtower for nine months now, three months ago I moved out of my parent's house and gave up any pretexts of being reinstated. In that time I've faced difficulties adjusting to my new life such as the new responsibilities I have in caring for my own needs, the loneliness that sometimes strikes when I miss my family, and the occasionally unshakable feeling of guilt over the way things are with them.
In that time, I've faced difficulties adjusting to my new life such as the new responsibilities I have in caring for my own needs, the loneliness that sometimes strikes when I miss my family, and the occasionally unshakable feeling of guilt over the way things are with them.
Overall though, I feel better about my life now. I make an effort to really help people where I can by doing more than "praying for them" or "sharing a scripture." I've made several new friends and worked to strengthen or even re-establish my old friendships that I had been discouraged from pursuing. I've learned to better silence that judgmental part of my mind that tries to react to any action I didn't personally agree with. I'm taking genuine steps to improve myself through education and a thoughtful consideration of my beliefs. I have also made it my mission in life to use that education and my own personal talents to make the world a better place for those who follow me.
I feel more comfortable with my beliefs and values than I ever did as a Witness. I like myself much better now than I ever did as a Witness, I only wish my family did too.
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Have you noticed this trend on social media amongst witnesses...?
by stuckinarut2 init seems that every 2nd witness often posts pictures of themselves at conventions, or out in 'service'.
but i have noticed that they never seem to post anything about the actual "spiritual content" of their activity!
instead, it is pictures of them with their witness "friends", along with some contrite comment like #bestlifeever (arrghhh).
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Saethydd
Well, when I posted pictures of myself in service or something, I was usually just trying to catch the eye of a girl I had a crush on and show her my "spirituality." I realize now how ridiculous that was, but dating as a JW was a tough thing for me to do. (Not that my dating life has much improved since then.)
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Saethydd
I was never stoned, I did, however, read a good portion of the Harry Potter books on my tablet at the meetings, which in ancient Isreal probably would have gotten me stoned.
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Just Offended A JW Cart Witness Without Even Trying
by pale.emperor inon my way into town from my office.
two carts set up a few feet from each other.
one manned by a man and woman (i assume they're a couple) in their late 30s.. the guys walks off to the other cart as im walking by, i wasn't going to approach but the woman holding the awake!
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Saethydd
the man came back and interrupted.
The woman interrupted and said it was different back then.
The man told her "i was talking there, do you mind?" she backed away.
What an asshole.
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DId you ever fall asleep at the meetings, Assemblys??
by karter inif i'm tierd i fall asleep anywere so the meetings ect were no diffrent my wife would always try to wake me but im a deep sleeper.
karter .
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Saethydd
Well, they were boring as hell so yes, in fact, I'm pretty sure every member of my family (including my parents) fell asleep at least once at each convention. -
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JW Parents and kicking out their children
by NJ501 inis it a common practice for jw parents to kick their children out of the home, if the child doesn't want to be a jw.
(even though their not disfellowshipped they will still get kicked out for not going to meetings etc.??).
do other religions encourage kicking family members out this as well?
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Saethydd
Well, I was 21 and disfellowshipped at the time, but when I told my parents I didn't want to go to the meetings anymore they spent a long time trying to talk me into going and then eventually told me I'd have to find a new place to live if I wasn't going to continue attending the meetings.
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Saethydd
Masters in Trivial Thinking
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Am I selfish?
by Jules Saturn intonight i had an argument with both my parents.
my parents are aware of my feelings towards the organization, and it saddens them because i am their first born son.
they had high expectations of me, my father dreamt of him and i serving together as elders.
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Saethydd
I greatly sympathize with your situation. Before I moved out, I also felt guilty, like I was being selfish for being true to myself and honest with my parents. But, I know that I simply couldn't handle the charade any longer, and I told both of my parents and my sister that the door of communication was always open on my end. They all told me that they loved me but they wouldn't be taking me up on that offer because they "love Jehovah more."
I'm not sure any of us are necessarily being selfish, we are simply doing what we believe to be the right thing and they are doing the same. The difference is that I base that decision off of logic and secular humanism, whereas they rely on the Watchtower to decide for them what is the right thing.
Also, neither side is willing to compromise because they believe the other side is being misled. However, unlike them, you and I have actually listened to both sides of the story and weighed the evidence before we made our decisions.
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To Fade or Disassociate
by Jules Saturn inhello to all, so i did want to talk about this topic because i think it is very important to me.
i have a grandfather who faded several decades ago.
he occasionally attends an assembly and the memorial but no longer attends meetings or goes on field service.
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Saethydd
I was already disfellowshipped when I commpletely woke up to their bull shit. I intended to try and get reinstated and then fade slowly, but in the end, that level of duplicity for such an extended period of time with my own family just wasn't something I could live with, so instead I was up front with my parents about what I believed and what I wanted, and they returned the favor by telling me I needed to find a new place to live.
Fortunately, I had already found a good place to live because I was honestly expecting it to happen. I now live among friends who accept me for who I am.